The ultimate list of unattractive traits that turn off women even if they were initially interested in you.

A lot of ppl here always ask what makes a man attractive, but i'd like to write this list of unattractive traits instead, cuz i believe being attractive is not so much about what you do, but about what you avoid doing that can sabotage and destroy the interest that girls who are into you feel from the start. Cuz yes attraction is not a choice, but it's also not permanent because it's a feelin, and girls easily get turned off the moment they sense any of the following:

- Being needy, as in u completely depend on a woman's validation and her company to feel good about yourself and your life, where your entire emotional well-being depends on her decision to choose you or stay with you and acting or showing her that u can't live without her and grovelling yourself for her just so she stays or doing everything in ur power to fix a relationship, and even "moving mountains" just to salvage a relationship, while she barely lifts a finger.

- Being spineless or a pushover, as in u don't stand up for yourself, you don't have strict non-negotiable boundaries, you are permissive, and women can just continue to treat you like a doormat, disrespect u, insult you, use you, compare u with her exes in a negative light, being demanding, bossing u around, etc.

- Being risk-averse, as in afraid of making moves, afraid of hitting on a girl, afraid of going for a kiss, afraid of what she or other people might think for doing what you want, afraid of negative reactions. If ur afraid to live, u should not have been born.

- Ashamed of ur desire for sex, as in u assume that girls are completely disgusted by the idea of sex, and find it repulsive or creepy that a man could possibly desire something as "nasty" as sex, and as such you feel you must hide or repress your desire for sex by telling yourself that you are just respecting her by pretending u don't want sex, when in reality ur just being a b..itch and being slightly manipulative since you are pretending to be safe and asexual to try to go under the radar hiding ur true intentions.

- Being approval-seeking, as in u treat women as judges of ur worth as a man, every interaction or date with them for u is nothing but a performance to prove ur worth, to see if ur good enough as a man in general, and wait for a verdict, where u erroneously believe that if she gives a good verdict she will date u as a reward and if she disapproves, she won't date u as punishment for failing to meet a standard. Where u treat her verdict as prove that you matter or are worth something, and if her verdict is negative u treat it as proof that ur worth nothing. And u constantly change ur opinions, preferences, tastes and values just to agree with hers because u erroneously belief that it will make it more likely that she will want to date u if u agree on everythin and don't disagree on anythingn.

- Being easily triggered, as in ur easily offended at any comment that messes with ur ego, or u take women's comments, reactions, actions towards u too seriously, and instead of taking it in a lighthearted way that ultimately doesn't matter, u constantly act as if everything a woman does or is a personal attack on u or her disrespecting u. Dating is not a war, it's a game.

- Being desperate and begging for love, chasing woman who give mixed signals, being complacent constantly so that she doesn't leave u, being accommodating, being insecure, putting women on a pedestal, being tension-avoidant, doubting yourself, second guessing urself, backpedaling when the outcome or reaction is not the 1 u hoped because you want to salvage ur "good image" she had on u.

- Being socially awkward, yes not knowing when to say a joke, trying too hard to be funny, doubting whether to handshake, hug or kiss on the cheek, uncomfortable silences when u don't even know how to make small talk, clunky attempts to hug or touch the girl that feel robotic and forced instead of smooth, casual and effortless,... etc

- Serving the needs of ur ego, as in allowing external judgments to drive ur behavior, trying to prove ur masculinty, ur worthiness or straightness to others when it's questioned by others, tiptoeing or walking on egg-shells to make sure women don't ever get upset with u or to avoid making them uncomfortable and filtering yourself to avoid offending women. It's not ur job to make woman comfortable, specially not at the cost of shrinking urself to avoid taking space or filtering your self-expression just cuz u think it could upset them.

- Talking with women in a logical way and transactional way, as in they think that because the guy did x for a woman, then simplicity the woman should do Z for them as if it's an unquestionable rule that she should know or have the moral duty to adhere to and if she doesn't the guy feels cheated and blames her for not adhering to his unilateral script that he created in his mind alone and which she has no obligation to follow.

Example: "She is supposed to do X after i did Z for her and she didn't". Well there are no shoulds in dating, only preferences and desires that are always optional.

- Expecting consistency and linear logic from women in their behavior. This is a common mistake that many guys make, specially guys who tend to be engineers, mathematicians, software programmers, etc.

They are so used to think that "If A then B" or "if I did A, then that would be because of B reason and so she must have done it for B reason" or "if she said A then she is bound by that word forever, and can't possibly change her mind at any moment", that they try to apply that to women and obviously get it wrong over and over. Cuz women are not that predictable, u can't base their behavior on an a consistent protocol because their actions, decisions and choices can shift at any moment simply becasue their feelings changed, meaning that what they did before or said before is irrelevant if her feelings are now suddenly different.

- Doing what society says you are are supposed to, instead of doing what u actually want to do, as in ur behaviour is based on compeltely on doing what society expects, respecting "the norm" following the crowd, trying to not upset the social order at all costs and thus putting the comfort of other people including the woman that u hit on above your own needs and desires and apologizing everytime you lose the approval of society for doing what u wanted. Women respect men who don't apologize for what they want.

- Being apologetic, as in u don't fully have the absolute conviction that what u do or say is right simply becasue u dictate so, and as such you take everything back or apologize if you notice the girl is reacting badly in order to diffuse any tension out of self-preservation or u act like the girl has the ultimate say on what is right or wrong for you to do as if someone had given her the divine authority to dictate what is right or wrong.

Example: Her: "u should not be doing X" You: "I'm sorry, won't do it again, dind't mean to disrespect u"

Like no dude, you double down, reaffirm yourself, you don't even justify urself, and u don't go defensive and if she gets upset so be it. Its not ur job to manage her feelings or being complacent. She ain't ur mum, she has no authority over u, and she is not in charge of dictating correct behavior. U do what u want and even if some could react badly the fact that u don't take their reaction seriosuly at all and never backtracked can make them actually respect you and feel attracted to u simply becasue u u stood ur ground without bending to social pressure.

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