Hey guys, I would like your input on my situation (big text).

I had a relationship of 11 years with a feminist where i was BP as hell, ended up being cheated, which lead me to TRP. After some time spinning some plates, found a decent girl. I do want to get married and have kids, and I dont live in the USA so the divorce laws arent as bad as there.

I am 31 and she is 28, but she seems a lot younger. Been dating her for 10 months so far. Very pretty face and kinda "petite", I do prefer girls like that. Shes got a lot of green flags like:

  • Treats me with a lot of respect and cares a lot for me. Kinda clingy, but I do like that. We had strong bonding since the beginning. Very romantic and believes in "true love";

  • Cooks, cleans (we dont live together), treats me like a king, thinks im the man, tells me im so hot and intelligent and stuff like that and that she is so lucky to have found me;

  • Very intelligent, decent career, not entitled at all, good manners, treats people well, emotionally stable (for a woman), so far in she has given me zero drama;

  • Never used drugs, doesnt like to drink, and when she does, drinks just a little bit. Sometimes when i pushed her to drink she would just get sleepy, and not whory/crazy (personally this is a BIG green flag for me). Her FB pics that are in any kind of event/party she has a glass/bottle of water. No tatoos, no slutty friends, she did have an orbiter but dropped him when we started dating (I didnt ask, she just did), pretty conservative type, not a feminist. When we started dating she said she would like to have a man that made her feel safe and that she needed "guidance" in her life, and in sex she liked a bit of ass slapping and having her hair pulled (AWALT);

  • Is organized, deals well with money, has a good car/apartment, saves money (I do make about double of what she makes);

  • No contact with exes / past hookups (checked by me);

  • Submissive, sex is on demand, we just spent 20 days together on vacation and we had sex at least once a day, with her initiating often and unsolicited blowjobs (no anal though);

  • Somewhat religious, participated in a "youth church group" when she was young;

OK, now the bad. The only red flag i could see from the beginning was that she was raised by a single mom (her dad used to drink and beat up her mom, story confirmed by her brothers). She did have the father figure of her grandpa until he passed away when she was 15, but she still gets along with her dad, and sometimes travels to visit him.

She lost her V card with her first BF at 18 which lasted for about a year, then had a 5 year LTR with another dude that she lived together with. After that she was single for 2 years, had another 1 year LTR, single for another year and then met me.

When I asked about her past, she said her N count was 6, so 3 bfs and 3 dudes outside of a relationship, but according to her never slept with anyone that she didnt have genuine feelings/interest.

A few days ago she forgot her phone at my place, and I checked her facebook and whatsapp messages. Zero problem on the time frame where we were together, and she even was talking to some dude before we met, and after we met, he messaged her wanting to see her, to which she declined saying she met someone really interesting and didnt want to be involved with anyone else until she knew where it was going.

So I started checking the messages on the time frame where she was single, and found out that the "only slept with guys i was emotionally connected" was a freaking lie. God, was she straightforward. Mostly dirty talk before and after sex, with some jacked dudes (AWALT). Thanks god im pretty fit myself, 5"11, 190 lbs with a 12% BF (she did say from the beggining how she loved my defined pecs and strong arms. LIFT guys) I counted at least 5 dudes that she slept with, and who knows if she had ONS with other dudes with no msg history.

I felt bad as fuck, not as bad as I would back on my BP days because I know of AWALT, but it still hit me hard, as I was considering to marry her a couple of years from now. I ended up confronting her about it (yeah bad move, I know). She cried and begged me not to break up with her, that she is not a whore, that she did make some mistakes and blablabla, and said that her n count was 10.

The thing is, now i cant stop thinking about that if she had sex with dudes she didnt even was emotionally involved, her n count could be on the roof and ill never have the slightest idea. I said I needed a break of at least a week, and now she wont stop texting me, saying that what we have is very special, and that a man like me is so hard to find, and blablabla.

I really like this girl, but having sex with guys she didnt even want a relationship with is kind of a deal breaker for me, but maybe im overreacting. And her reported n count is on the limit of what is acceptable for me, and its probably even higher than that. What would you guys do? Suggestions?