What are your standards for a hookup

KayRay1994 · 2026-07-20T14:06:16+00:00

Love that the mods’ concern is the whole debate flair and not you openly advocating for grooming

SprayAffectionate321 · 2026-07-20T14:28:55+00:00

For relationships, attractive sexually and romantically, willing to do his fair share at home. Someone I know who is responsible and loyal.

For hookups I want someone that's sexually attractive and doesn't seem insane. Some of my hookups were men I was originally interested in something more steady with whose behavior turned me off at some point.

chamomilecloud · 2026-07-20T14:07:30+00:00

This question has been changed to Discussion and will be open to everyone, men included, in order to avoid circle jerking.

chamomilecloud · 2026-07-20T14:13:58+00:00

I don’t hookup, I only have standards for a man I want to date. I do sleep with men early in a relationship, so in that sense it is “casual sex” to me, but all of these men are held to the same standard.

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Quiet-Lotus · 2026-07-20T14:08:17+00:00

since we are doing this again...

Assuming you are American among other things but who cares it's an educated guess.

The population of the US men aged 18-20: ~13,000,000

Previous + 6'0 or above: ~1,300,000 (10% of population)

Previous + with a dick 7" or bigger: ~13,000 (1% of the previous)

Previous + are attractive: ~3250 (1 in 4 men, generously)

Previous + are virgins/low n: ~1,625 (~50% VERY GENEROUS for this type of person)

Previous + not selfish in sex: ~1,218 (75% Optimistic for this type of person)

Previous + Dont drink: ~600 (50% of the population in the last month have drank alcohol)

Previous + conservative: ~300 (~50% for males in this age range)

So, 300 men, in the entire US and that is generous. There are more 3x more billionaires in the US than possible men you would hookup with/date, do you understand what you are even asking for? Do you understand how delusional of a request that is...

Arrowdodgingace · 2026-07-20T14:15:14+00:00

I have to be attracted to her. Doesn’t have to be a model but if I get disgusted thinking about banging her it’s a no. Not trying to be mean but I have limits.

She has to be nice. Being a bitch is a turn off like no other.

Good hygiene should go without saying.

She also has to be close to me. I’m not flying over 3 time zones for sex unless I also wanted a relationship with her.

AlarmingToe8503 · 2026-07-20T14:29:53+00:00

Wait, why do you want to hook up with army dudes but don't mention that for a relationship?

Lemon_gecko · 2026-07-20T14:30:06+00:00

For hookups: Not ugly or repulsive in his looks/mannerism/smell, is interested and acts like it, i like the way he touches/kisses, he is respectful, not pushy or aggressive and i need to be horny. Bonus points if he is charming, touchy, interesting enough, and express himself sexually in a way i like/turns me on, easy to communicate to. Then of course how he is in sex, and is he interested enough for another one, and will there be the same amount of effort.

For relationship i kind of don't know how to answer. We need to click, there are no criteria about what makes us click. Then also he has to share my values, he has to be able to understand me on a deeper level, he has to be someone who can actually act with my interests in mind, and he has to see me as a person, not what men do now.

2026-07-20T14:36:15+00:00

This thread is descending into baiting and not actually answering the OP’s question.

Title	What are your standards for a hookup
Author	Axis_Control
Upvotes	0
Comments	63
Date	July 20, 2026 2:04 PM UTC (2 weeks ago)
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