1. So first it is hard even finding men that are goodlooking enough and have the other traits to be suitable to consider. Just this initial screening phase can take ageeees and is bogged down by unsuitable men. If you make a post looking for fwb or hookups 95% of the men responding will probably be unsuitable. Either too old, not attractive, weird/desperate, or bad personality, tooo slutty/std risk since men rarely std test, too fat, too thin, too small dick, too big dick, etc.

So looking through all those messages takes ageeeees. Or swiping through profiles is very time consuming.

  1. Then if you do actually meet them you have to actually talk to them which can be awkward if they keep talking about stuff you have no interest in like football or school, or you realize you aren't attracted to them in person or weird vibes. Then you have to try to figure out how to leave.

  2. Then if you do actually start to get undressed you might get turned off by their body if they are too fat or hairy etc (assuming they hadn't sent pics first). Or they might just be a terrible kisser/or terrible at leading or have bad breath which has actually happened before.

  3. Then if you actually do have sex a lot of men just don't bring condoms which is obviously annoying asf. A lot seem to have no idea how to do forplay, or are waiting to be told what to do??

  4. Then with the actual sex they might be too rough or just treat me like an object which is a turn off too. Then its pretty common for them to be over excited or anxious and have erection issues or cum too fast.

  5. Then once the guy cums its game over and he leaves pretty much. They don't care if they have made me cum or not or try to get me off if they haven't. I'm not rude so I don't try to get him to try to get me off if he just wants to go. Women according to stats only get to orgasm 30% of the time in hookups.

  6. There is also a lack of intimacy and no cuddling after etc so it's kinda like being treated like a hooker without being paid lol