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Older MRP: was it worth it?

by MrPurplePoison | September 20, 2018 | askMRP

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I've been married for over 15 years, 2 kids, etc etc. Over the last two years I have had to get my crap together, started exercising, being a leader, etc. I discovered MRP a few months ago and can say that the basic theories really work. It's as if I have the cheat codes to women and relationships now. Mostly by not caring to play their game. Because it doesn't matter.

So things in my marriage are improving, I'm good, wife is happy (or as happy as she can be). But now that I actually can recognize shit tests and the like they are EVERYWHERE. As she approaches the wall I see no end in site. So I kind of traded blissful misery for awakened tension.

For the older folks who have been RP for a while and have the benefit of perspective, was keeping the marriage worth it?


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Title Older MRP: was it worth it?
Author MrPurplePoison
Upvotes 15
Comments 44
Date 20 September 2018 05:10 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/204000
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[–]2ndalRed Beret32 points33 points  (14 children) | Copy

If you're expecting her tests to stop you're looking at it wrong. I've been quoting Deida a ton lately. Here goes again.

The feminine part of your woman is either opening in loving surrender (easy moments) or closing in what ends up being an emotional test of your capacity to open her (difficult moments). This cycle of the feminine is like all cycles in nature: it never ends. The sooner you learn to embrace and dance with these moods of closure, the sooner both of you will grow beyond the psychodrama and see the humor of the play.

The game of life is to find each situation workable, to transform each occasion through the magnification of love, to give your fullest gift in every moment, and to have no attachments to the outcome, knowing it’s all going to rise and fall and rise again.

But the dark masculine energy has been suppressed so thoroughly these days that the ordinary man would prefer to paste a smile on his bored face, rather than penetrate his woman’s tension with uncompromising love. And he’s just as cautious about disrupting his own well-planned life of comfort and security in order to penetrate his own fear of death.

Her gift, if she is a good woman, is to test you with her darkest moods, over and over and over, until your consciousness is unperturbed by feminine challenge, and you are able to pervade her with your love, just as you are here to pervade the world.

If one of your highest goals is psychological or spiritual freedom, then you will highly value your intimacy. Nobody will press your buttons or reflect your asshole to you better than your woman. She will point out your weaknesses better than a boot camp drill sergeant. She will reflect your ambiguity or clarity better than any workshop teacher. She will do you better than a whore and give you more loving than you can handle. And all the while she will shower your life with radiant blessing, healing, and enlivenment—if she learns to own her true feminine desires and you learn to own your true masculine desires.

-- The Way of the Superior Man

[–]redwall927 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

I've been quoting Deida a ton lately. Here goes again.

That guy has a way of sticking in your head. He's vague enough on page while being precisely spot on when seeing real life examples. It bleeds everywhere. Like Pook, but without the humor. The words of the page come at me kind of softly like the smoke from the cigar in my hand, but when I see the real life examples, it hits hard .. like reality, kill-the-ego hard.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

I wish I could upvote this 100 times /u/2ndal

[–]matrixtospartanatLVRed Beret4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

You can....

It’s called....

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[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I thought so, but wasn’t sure. Thanks for the info

[–]bigskymind1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

When it comes to Deida, it's worth making the distinction between his Three stages. Quite a bit of what passes as "red pill" wisdom falls in his Stage One, blue pill relationship advice is his Stage Two and then there's his Stage Three...

[–]2ndalRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Another good reason why it's not good intro reading. Like with all things (including RP), you need to be able to pick and choose what aligns with your personal philosophies and ways of life and discard the rest.

With Deida, however, I end up holding onto almost everything.

[–]Gaetanorex0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That is a pile of shit.

[–]IRunYourRiver0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I started reading WOTSM this weekend and quickly realized I wasn't ready for it. I would read a few pages at a time and then put it down and just contemplate. If you're serious about it, it demands a tremendous amount from the reader.

[–]Big_Daddy_PDX13 points14 points  (3 children) | Copy

Worth is relative. I married the wrong woman for the wrong reasons and then stayed with her for 15yrs and two kids. I added MRPl and realized that I was getting great benefits, but she was still atrocious. The realization that you could be stuck with a low-value harpy for the rest of your life is pretty sober. So, I ditched the Ex and ended up with a HB9 that's 15yrs younger. It's amazing how different a relationship can be if you start it with a good woman and you implement RP principles from the beginning.

Edit: it should be obvious, but wow, youth is an amazing aphrodisiac. Now I understand why it’s so common to see guys with younger girls.

[–]BirdManBrrrr3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

married the wrong woman for the wrong reasons

As did I, and in my case finding this place and then breaking it off saved me a ton of time and effort trying to save something that should have never happened in the first place.

Misery isn’t worth it.

[–]zonicxxx1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

thank you for ur post. i was leaving home just now and my harpy wife was shouting at the maid. i”m starting to feel the benefits of mrp (i”m still newbie) and was just thinking what”s the ultimate goal.

[–]MRPFag1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your story reads exactly like my own! Even the number of years and number of kids! Still working the RP principles and not decided if I will LTR again but if I do I'll be ready.

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[–]MrPurplePoison[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

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[–]matrixtospartanatLVRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

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[–]justpickanyusernameRed Beret5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy

Does it matter? If I tell you yes will it make you stay? If I tell you no will you divorce?

She can follow along if she chooses. You can move on if you choose. You will likely find success stories with those who have stayed and those who have left. The only real promise here is that you will come out ahead either way. You will either exit a bad marriage or rekindle it with a happier more submissive woman.

[–]MrPurplePoison[S] 3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

Fair point. And no, if you told me "it's totally worth it" I would not be filled with optimism. Living with an eternal child looks like a long, tiring trudge to me at this point.

[–]justpickanyusernameRed Beret8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Living with an eternal child

AWALT. Women are like children, so if you like women then this is your future regardless of whether you stay or not. Some are better behaved than others though.

[–]IRunYourRiver0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Kids are wonderful as long as you remember that they are kids.

[–]RPAlternate42Red Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Worth it?

She's not a bad wife or mother and she never was. For me, it was just the sex, but once I accepted that my attraction drives her desire, I focused on that more than anything. So I improved my attitude and mood, and removed the covert contracts, and I was in fine shape before RP, but now I lifted too. I got bigger, more defined, and stronger, and as everything improved, so did her attraction of me.

So for me, it was easy, just stop being shit head and be bigger. Done. And I continue to do so.

But even if she was like her sister (lazy, whiny, entitled, etc. -your basic thot-type) I could nip a few things in the bud long enough to get the kids old enough that divorce is easier to understand... but she's not.

And the kids really are what make it worth it. My contingency if my wife ever just stops having sex (doubt it would happen) would be to just fuck outside of the marriage, stay married, be polite, be professional, fuck her when she wants it, and just continue that for until she serves me papers... then I take my half and jet.

I'm 38 and married 19 years with 2 kids.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine0 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy

“wife is happy (or as happy as she can be).”

Still balls deep in her frame.

[–]MrPurplePoison[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

She is worried but tries hard to make me happy. So as happy as she can be.

[–]redwall920 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She is worried but tries hard to make me happy. So as happy as she can be.

She'd probably be happier if she was married to a happy guy who was .. you know ... happy.

As it is, sounds like she's stuck with some guy who's unhappy because he can't figure out to enjoy life with or without women.

[–]viderelux0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

married 26 yrs. 4 kids. RP 2 years.

Out of marriage have come my highest highs and my lowest lows, both. Yes, it continues to be worth it.

The earlier the RP is taken, the more 'worth it' it will be...



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