I got back into reading NMMNG today for the first time in ages. I'm 25 and I actually read the book at 17 or 18 because I was being conditioned from a good friend in his 30s. I am starting to read the book again now because I do not want my marriage to spiral out of control. I came across a section of NMMNG today that I don't know how to interpret.
Most Nice Guys pride themselves on being honest and trustworthy. Ironically, Nice Guys are fundamentally dishonest. Nice Guys will tell lies, partial truths, and omit information if they believe it will prevent someone from focusing on them in a negative way.
I am going to ask this dumb question because I am sick of hearing it and not knowing how to reply. My wife loves to play the "Oh do you think that woman is attractive?" game with me. To her it's not a game (shit test) but at the same time I don't know how to answer. When I got married I didn't just become oblivious to other women around me. Women aren't just gray blobs of goop walking around. I always find some clever way to give a roundassabout answer that is no but after reading this I feel like I should just be flat out honest. I'm tired of lying to not hurt her feelings because I know damn well that if the right circumstance came along she'd be on some other guy's jock. I'm not afraid of saying tough things but I've got this mindset in my head that is "some things are better off not said."
Am I wrong to think this way?