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Wife wants jewelry for xmas

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December 14, 2016
6 upvotes

Have been MRP for about a year: taking it slow. Fortunately a Morpheus introduced me to RP, I'm lifting for a year 6 days a week. I was definitely a BP beta for 9 years of our marriage... no doubt. RP has been hard to swallow and I am through the anger stage now

Anyhow wife wants me to buy her jewelry for xmas. Frankly she has been a total C to me for the last year with non-stop shit tests. She's a alpha female and very contentious. What to do? I don't want to Reward her but want advice so I don't blow this


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Title Wife wants jewelry for xmas
Author Doormat_Dad
Upvotes 6
Comments 74
Date 14 December 2016 10:59 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/206772
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/5idun8/wife_wants_jewelry_for_xmas/
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[–]cholomiteMod / BP Downvote Magnet20 points21 points  (1 child) | Copy

Step 1: Find balls

Step 2: Buy her whatever you want, or nothing at all

Step 3: DGAF

Step 4: Profit

[–]Griever1141 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is the only answer.

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy

Say no

[–]JDRoedellRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

... and don't feel guilty.

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill8 points9 points  (16 children) | Copy

Skittles.

Alpha female.... snicker.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (15 children) | Copy

In case you guys think it's hyperbole

Valentines last year. Laser tag and skittles

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill2 points3 points  (14 children) | Copy

Your not supposed to give dogs candy.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (13 children) | Copy

those giant yellow circles are photoshopped in to protect their ID, not giant skittles

[–]bogeyd6Mod / Red Militia0 points1 point  (11 children) | Copy

It's almost as you have put big yellow circles on a glass wall and wheeled it in front of them. Also, stop the dogs candy. They will get pancreatitis.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (10 children) | Copy

Why is everyone thinking i give the dogs skittles?

[–]bogeyd6Mod / Red Militia0 points1 point  (9 children) | Copy

Old joke about pictures. Put the two most ridiculous things together and only talk about that.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (8 children) | Copy

I already set an alarm on my phone for all the "my Christmas sucked" posts. Who's in for the pool most likely poster. $20 a pop.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy

Here, I win. I'm working this Xams. I' m going to see my dad right after new years.

I am pretty sure this is the last one I will see him alive after.

New sense of DGAF inbound

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I miss those days. I used to do shift work at the NOC over christmas. come home at 6pm, have dinner, get drunk, watch die hard.

Plus, guys would pay top dollar to take the time off to watch their kids ignore them and play video games

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

Sorry man. That will be a blow. My old man loomed larger than life over my shoulder. The day he went in the ground was a turning point.

Ha’makom

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Alright, you caught me off guard with that one and I choked on my drink as I was swallowing. Take your fucking upvote.

[–]sexyshoulderdevil75% Liquid Sarcasm7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

"Jewelry...what a fantastic idea. I want to add a personal touch...so let's start with a pearl necklace. I'll even gift it to you tonight."

Wink. Slap the butt. Leave the room.

[–]BobbyPeru0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Oh now that's song is in my head: "she wore a pearl necklace...."

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (8 children) | Copy

What would happen if yoU don't buy her jewelry?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy

I'm sure that's a rhetorical question but I'll answer it: she would act all butt hurt and stomp around. Then proceed to tell her friends in front of me and generally shit test me as usual

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

So? Why do you care a) if she's Butt hurt and b) what her friends think?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Agreed. That's one of the things I am learning: not to be afraid of her emotions.

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Give freely. Give because you want to and enjoy it. If you give her jewelry or anything for that matter because you don't want to upset the feelz, that's not giving freely.

If she starts with this shit you put your big boy pants on and tell her, "hey I'm not going to let you bully me into buying you jewelry. If you want that crap go buy it yourself." if it's in the budget who cares?

If she gives you grief about how she wants a certain thing and she doesn't want to return it or hurt your feelings etc. Double down and tell her, "yeah I'm not in the mood for gift giving"

Its a covert contract in a sense. You behaving a certain way in hopes that she behaves a certain way.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds like this is a good opportunity to strengthen your spine. I like to give my wife little gifts to show her she's valuable in my life. But what I think she appreciates even more is having a man who's confident and her oak. That's the essence behind skittles man.

[–]KolaDesi1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Your marriage seems so disfunctional... Why not just divorce?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Same answer every newbie will give you: 2 1/2 kids, state would require me to pay alimony forever, I still love her... all those silly reasons

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

get her coal.

It's a diamond in the rough babe

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

You need Skittles Man more then any one.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good one -agreed

[–]DarkAges14 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you buy what she wants, she'll know that she still controls your behavior despite all your silly lifting.

[–]SexistFlyingPig1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Buy her the finest cubic zirconia earrings you can find.

Are you her beta bucks provider or her alpha fucks man?

[–]Nyquil-Junkie0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

The look on her face when she tries to hock those would be priceless.

[–]StudntRdyTeachrApear2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Honestly, if done right, this could be priceless, and give a machiavellian message in the process. It would show IDGAF, with the facade of, "Making the attempt." You avoid looking butt hurt, or powerless, by not going through the motions of, "I'm not buying you anything...because you don't deserve it!" *sticks tongue out

Yea, buy her cubic zerconia's and feign ignorance, with a hint of, "I don't give a fuck about your diamonds bitch," and you could increase the perceived size of your testicles a bit. Because I promise you, as someone who has gone through hell and back with this shit, and regained control, you coming here to ask about earrings speaks volumes about where you really are. Especially calling her an alpha female. I know you think you're being brutally honest, but it's bullshit. There's no such fucking thing. They all want to be dominated, and her man that's supposed to be raping and pillaging her is on a fringe mansplaining website asking if it's okay to get her earrings. Not trying to be an asshole, but acknowledge this, and go with my fucking plan and report back soldier. Or think of something better.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

I bought my SO a xmas apron and stove mittens last year.

Buy her a gift that comes from your heart, whether it's filled with love or less than love, that you can live with, without regret.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Chicks love that shit

I got my SO excited over letting her have an xmas present early on dec 1, it was a matching set of hand towels and pot holders with christmas-themed owls on them (owls are her shit), cost me like $6.50 total and she squealed like OP at a justin bieber concert

Gave them to her early so she can have them around leading up to xmas etc, I swear she's bragged like fuck about them to everyone who will listen

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Exactly, if you love and understand your SO the most mundane of things is a gift that shows you care and just get her.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (11 children) | Copy

She's a alpha female and very contentious

What does this mean?

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Bitch

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Ha!

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (8 children) | Copy

I meant she displays the characteristics of an alpha: even calling herself "a boss", leads all her friends and generally acts like an alpha male -yeah I know it's my fault: it's like when females change gender in the animal kingdom because there is no male leadership (edit for grammar)

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (6 children) | Copy

Listen man, look at your username - is that the name of a man who is aiming for greatness?

Your wife is acting like this because someone has to lead. You chose not to, forced her to do it, now she resents you for it and doesn't trust you to take the wheel.

What are you doing about this? What do you want to achieve?

Why?

Once you figure all that out, realize that you entered this marriage as a weak fuck, she may not want to change the rules.

Are you looking to improve for your 'self', your marriage, or your wife?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

Agreed with everything you say.

I don't care what she wants at this point but I want to do it for my self respect and so my kids don't make the same mistake. What am I doing about it? MRP and changing my beta conditioning. Following the steps. I have a simple question about a gift -obviously it opened a can of worms and revealed more than I expected

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

it opened a can of worms and revealed more than I expected

It's what men do, we don't only provide an answer but we also find the source to prevent it from happening again.

Remove the ego and embrace the various ideas being tossed your way. Keep what works and disregard the rest.

As for you, your kids are an excellent motivator for improvement and I'm actually in the middle of a post on that exact subject which I'll be publishing tonight.

There's no excuse for lowered standards when you've got a life you've created watching your every move.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Put it this way: I definitely won't be taking my boys to Rogue One

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

ha!

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I just don't want to fuck up with the gift and regress everything. That's why I'm asking for advice and expecting a serious answer that doesn't make me look butt hurt

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

one event won't break your map.

feel better?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Oh yeah and contentious does mean bitch

[–]sunthas1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

My wife is getting two sets of earrings this year. They cost less than $20. She always likes the cheap jewelry I buy more than the expensive stuff anyway. Expensive jewelry should only be a reward for very good behavior.

[–]The_LitzRed Beret1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy

Seriously dude, calling yourself a doormat, making excuses for your wife's bitchiness, and calling her a C.

Cunt, that is what you wanted to say. Write it out 250 times. Here you can call her a cunt if she behaves like a cunt.

It is not about the jewels, its about the fear you still feel from upsetting this woman.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

notice you haven't been flaired here. Try this one on, see if you like. Still the only guy in the manosphere that whinemoreplease has admittedly liked

[–]The_LitzRed Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Thanks bro

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks nothing, you've had put in more consistent work than anyone

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Sorry what does "Flaired" mean? I'm assuming it means mocked

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Ain't that the truth

[–]enfier0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If she already treats you like shit, then there's no downside to pissing her off.

[–]drty_prRed Beret0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy

Get her an empty jewelry box with a note inside that says "when you treat me like a woman who diserves jewelry, I'll buy you the jewelry you diserve". Then DGAF cause she will blow up.

I don't even know why you post shit like this? Did you really think people would say anything different than what you got?

My wife asked for jewelry too. I laughed. She isn't getting fuckin jewelry!

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

That's a DBV aka a display of butthurt vagina

[–]drty_prRed Beret0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

DBV?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Yeah I was making a joke because your suggestion was some real live pussy shit

[–]drty_prRed Beret0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Ouch man

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Not calling you a pussy lol, I'm agreeing with your sentiment about OP's shit

[–]drty_prRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The guy says he is through the anger stage and he is asking some shit like this.

[–]commit2rpoys-1 points0 points  (8 children) | Copy

I was stuck for gift ideas for wife last year, and was inspired here.

I got her a snowflake pendant, because she's so special and absolutlely unique (just like 4 billion others). Every time she wears it I can't stop smiling to myself. I've set myself the challenge of trying to feed her skittles while she wears it, just for chuckles.

This year I'm looking for something with a unicorn. What can I say? I like irony!

[–]sexyshoulderdevil75% Liquid Sarcasm2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy

No, that's just covert bullshit bringing you down to a new level of pussy. You're just getting off on your own little inside joke at the expense of your unaware wife. You've switched from covert contracts attempting to get sex to pathetic covert gags trying to belittle her as you battle through your ever lasting anger stage.

Solid work. See...that's sarcasm.

[–]commit2rpoys0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Your first 2 sentences were fair enough, the third was dead wrong though. Not all context and meaning was relevant to or included in the post. Anger comes & goes like the weather, we just learn to wear appropriate clothes.

[–]sexyshoulderdevil75% Liquid Sarcasm0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Go on...

[–]commit2rpoys0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

The first couple of paragraphs in my OYS says it all really. I spent my whole adult life under total oneitis. I stumbled here butthurt as fuck after an argument, googling for validation and it blew my mind. That was around this time (within a couple weeks) last year so I'd been reading a little while and the pill was on the back of my tongue. The gift was an inexpensive trinket, but actually suits her tastes so we were both happy.

It marks my realisation/swallowing and reminds me of probably my biggest obstacle. That it also references some key terms from here does amuse me, but also served as a test. I talked about fight club back then (different story), so knew she would nuke if she had bothered to read here and got the symbolism 'joke'.

[–]sexyshoulderdevil75% Liquid Sarcasm0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I don't care.

But did you see how easy it was to get you to DEER. You still seek validation. I can just see you with your wife. You just HAD to explain yourself.

Sack up and recognize what you're actually doing. It's pure faggot and reeks of anger stage whether you like it or not.

[–]commit2rpoys0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Now this is dead on. I knew it but DEER'd anyway. Point taken. Thanks.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

faggot

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Pick up a dictionary for yourself while you're out shopping you dumb fucker.



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