off my chest, need advice please

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July 18, 2016
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I really need to open up to what happened. My wife and I are the only people who know. I need to get this off my chest.

My wife and I got married 9/12/15. It was supposed to be the happiest night of my left. I am marrying my woman of my dreams. The one I've been with since 11/27/05. We have been through high school , college, and 2 rounds of long distance together.

So why is it that I catch her cheating on me 2 weeks after the wedding?

It wasn't like I saw emails or texts. I fell asleep on the couch because I was getting over the flu and woke up randomly in the middle the night.

She had invited her Co worker over to our place earlier and we had drank some wine. I barley drank because I was getting over the flu and when I wake up they are both gone.

I look around the corner towards the stairs of our apartment and I see her and him making out. I was frozen. I could not move. He got on his knees and she helped him take her shorts off. I yelled and they freaked out.

My wife tried to apologize and he crawled on all fours into the bathroom. I made him leave before I did something I would regret and me and my wife just sat in silence.

I don't know what to do. Everything has gone downhill ever since.

I dont trust her. She couldnt even put a door between us when she did that.

There's a lot more but I don't know if I'm being coherent enough to explain it.

I'm contemplating divorce.

Any advice or thoughts?


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Title off my chest, need advice please
Author shemakesmecrazy
Upvotes 6
Comments 21
Date 18 July 2016 09:40 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/207316
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/4thjwa/off_my_chest_need_advice_please/
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[–]jeeohnjones15 points16 points  (1 child) | Copy

I am marrying my woman of my dreams.

You need better dreams.

[–]bourbonhipster0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I'm usually fucking people in my dreams not marrying them.

[–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (12 children) | Copy

Two weeks after the wedding? Why are you still with this woman?

Stop contemplating and act.

No kids, barely married, etc... pretty clear case: lawyer up, hit the gym, read the sidebar.

[–]shemakesmecrazy[S] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

My family has said the same exact thing. I am feel lost without her and I didn't expect anything like this

[–]GC0W302 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

This sucks, but the truth is that any man who can't be happy alone will never make a woman happy.

The moment you need her, the moment she loses respect for you and starts this or some other heinous shit.

Leave her and do not have an LTR until you are able to be happy alone.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Great comments above. OP you should abide by the post

[–]shemakesmecrazy[S] 0 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy

My family has said the same exact thing. I am feel lost without her and I didn't expect anything like this

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy

Why are you with this woman?

Why are you posting today?

[–]shemakesmecrazy[S] 2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

She seems remoresful. When it happened we talked and cried and she threw up she felt so awful.

Thing is we haven't been intimate in months. Our love life faded away as she seems repulsed by me. Yet if I talk about it then it ends in tears and apologies from her and things go back to this awful status quo

[–]sexyshoulderdevil75% Liquid Sarcasm11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy

She seems remorseful because she got caught.

She threw up because she got caught.

She got caught. And now she looks bad. And that perception of herself makes her feel sick...literally.

Question is if she was so brazen with her cheating to do it right around the corner from you, how many times has she cheated before successfully to give her the comfort to think she could get away with it now so carelessly? My bet...a lot.

Divorce her. She's dumb. She's a liar. She shouldn't be anyone's mother.

[–]bogeyd6Mod / Red Militia2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You called it right on the money. He bought her act lock stock and barrel.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Of course she's repulsed, you have a complete lack of self-respect. You have no spine. People are not sexually attracted to punching bags.

Your wife needs to be punished. You care too much about her feelings to even make her grovel and beg.

[–]mabden2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't confuse regret with remorse. Check out the Chump Lady - Real vs. Imitation Remorse.

However, 2 weeks into the marriage and she is going to fuck her co-worker? Bet that she was /has been fucking this guy a lot longer than you know.

Get a lawyer, get out of this sham marriage, get moving towards a better, happier life.

[–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (6 children) | Copy

troll. Tells:

1) This was posted as of this comment, 23 minutes ago on a 27-minute old reddit account.

2) This guy's been married about 8 months; signs up for reddit so he can tell us about something that happened 7 1/2 months ago. It's been eating at him ever since, apparently.

3) She invites a male coworker to their apartment so the three of them can drink together.

4) He is sick; falls asleep with wife and coworker still in the apartment.

5) She starts moving toward fucking another guy in their apartment with husband sick and sleeping in their bedroom.

I don't know a single married woman who is this dumb. A married woman who wants to have an affair is smart enough to at least go over to HIS place or get a hotel.

I call bullshit.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

The newness of the account combined with the absence of a precipitating cause is the key. Also the specificity of the dates.

Trolls can make good exercise/practice if you don't get distracted IMHO.

[–]A_RexRED KNIGHT1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good catch. The whole "male coworker came over to drink and she cheats on the guy basically right in front of him" thing is absurd. #thathappened.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I call bullshit.

If it isn't bullshit, then he is brain dead on arrival to play house with her.

[–]Livecrazyjoe0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah number 3 is the big stinker here.

[–]The_Litz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Fully agree on a troll, BUT, weirder shit has happened.

My previous boss walked in on his buddy in the kitchen banging another friend's wife while everyone was outside around the bbq.....

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

She was messing around with you in the house, only two weeks into the marriage. Was she hoping for a threesome?
 
Addendum:
We had a dude in askMRP this week with a bipolar wife. Barring something like that, she's not marriage material. Some people aren't cut out for monogamy. That being said, I'm absolutely certain that you're a fuckup, but you haven't provided any details about yourself.
 
Are you lifting and reading the sidebar books? NMMNG and WISNIFG would be a good start.
 
Use her to practice your new red pill skills as you quietly plan for divorce.
 
Make sure birth control is in order.

[–]Alpha_Rising3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

You need to divorce her immediately. She cheats on you two weeks after your wedding? You will not be able to trust her for as long as you are married, and that will drive you crazy. Spare yourself the torture and end this bad marriage before you waste any more time in it.



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