"What are you thinking" ltr asks

TheFamilyAlpha · 2016-05-25T11:45:59+00:00

Shit test - probably/definitely she wants to see what type of man you are, how you react to someone trying to probe your mind.

Strong men have strong minds and are able to respond with wit, humor, joy, seriousness, etc depending on the situation. But in all seriousness - why the fuck is this difficult for you?

Are you afraid of coming across as weak.

Have you read a fucking sentence on MRP or TRP about making it fun?

Tell her you were trying to solve a Rubik's cube in your mind, tell her you were thinking of how snails reproduce, blow her mind and straight up tell her the truth, that you were thinking of fucking her on the bench you just walked past.

Stop being a fuck with pathetic worries about this. Stop thinking of every action being this RP/BP decision.

Be a fucking man, make her laugh or tell her what you're thinking of.

PurpleVeteran · 2016-05-25T14:13:11+00:00

Sometimes she asks multiple times a day.

How often do you sit staring off into space? Are you just parked on the couch, or actually doing something when you pause for reflection?

But also, get off your ass. Lift some weights, run, or meditate -- and then you can ruminate on whatever it is that you're afraid to talk about with your LTR.

Countpudyoola · 2016-05-25T15:10:28+00:00

"What are you thinking" = I'm bored and am trying to make some banal conversation, and I've heard this in every romance book, tv show and movie I've ever watched and am fairly unoriginal at starting conversations so here I go repeating it like a parrot.

Sqwuuuaaaak.

"You can handle how deep my thoughts are. They're like in the Marianas Trench deep"

and then distract with something else more interesting.

OR

Play into the dynamic and say "This" and kiss her.

ReddJive · 2016-05-26T18:09:45+00:00

"I am thinking how much I like you because you annoy me less then other people. Don't change that".

Scurvemuch · 2016-05-25T12:46:45+00:00

why are you afraid of your thoughts

" I was thinking of you giving me head after you cook me dinner tonight"

" I was thinking about killing clowns... know any?"

"The tangent and COS of ( insert math lingo here, I don't know enough"

"Thinking whether you can get your legs behind your ears"

"thinking about how many plates I can put on the bar at the gym later"

"Thin...king?"

"Wait, what are you doing out of the kitchen???"

"You , me , and that cute girl from the bar ;-) "

etc etc etc

literally anything. Hope this isn't at work

and for the love of gd ,don't say

"I was thinking about how you're my world" over text...or ever really

abdada · 2016-05-25T10:23:03+00:00

Shit test, she used the word "you".

She's thinking she's bored as hell.

il-est-ressuscite · 2016-05-25T12:53:08+00:00

This made me smile. I never feel obligated to answer questions. Particularly this question. I found that ignoring this question makes them stop asking it.

sexyshoulderdevil · 2016-05-25T13:00:02+00:00

Boobs. A good 90% of the time I'm thinking about boobs. Boobs are fantastic. Huh, well looky there...I see you have some boobs.

Boesman12 · 2016-05-25T14:06:43+00:00

1. "How I'm gonna fuck my second wife on the kitchen floor."
2. Be childish. "Was wondering what you are thinking about."
3. "I was thinking about how nice it is to be thinking without being interupted."

If it is not a shit test she is definitely looking for something to create a bit of drama, you know.. feelz. Oh, that means its a shit test. Go figure.

FearDearg2015 · 2016-05-25T10:28:42+00:00

Obviously i don't want to tell her what I'm actualy thinking. Quite often I'm day dreaming ot thinking about something that i dont want to say out loud.

True dat, gots to protect dat ego. Gots to keep dreaming up reality, living the dream, literally.

How about this: when she asks you "what are you thinking", forget about whatever it was that you were thinking about up until that point, and instead, allow a new thought to form right there and then, preferably one about rough caveman style sex, or degrading her in some way. Then tell her that. The point is: when she asks you "what are you thinking", there will be a tendency to attempt to cover up or deflect from whatever it was that you were thinking about. You recognise this already with the quote I included. That's your ego/hamster looking to defend itself. It's a natural reaction. WISNIFG covers these things. You are not under attack, really, but your instincts are fine tuned to be on guard always in verbal interactions. The reactive instinct is to turn defensive. This is the moment where you break frame without realising it.

It's not important at all what you were thinking. And you don't have to tell her anything. And yeah, it could be a shit test, especially if it turns out that you are completely incapable of giving an answer to such a straight forward sounding question. Get out of your head. Get present.

Her: what are you thinking?

You: I'm thinking about tearing your clothes off and fucking you senseless right now

SexistFlyingPig · 2016-05-25T17:25:30+00:00

"Planning for the future. My millions aren't going to make themselves."

the_Zambony · 2016-05-25T21:22:29+00:00

"I am thinking of you; naked, tied up, with whip cream covering your tits and pussy."

MRPguy · 2016-05-27T03:58:45+00:00

A great answer is something very technical that she wouldn't understand. Something involving physics and math equations.

JuniperSunshine · 2016-06-08T14:27:28+00:00

I would like to add that I used to ask this question because I'm a girl. See, if a girlfriend just sat there zoning out, it would be rude not to try and find out what's up. Or I would ask my hubs this because I just wanted to connect. Women connect through words quite often. My guy doesn't, so I learned to reach out physically or offer up an activity. (Or just leave him the hell alone, if he seems to need some down time). He finally explained to me that sometimes he's thinking of nothing much, or at least nothing he could verbalize. I have one of those bottom running tracks in my head, like CNN. He doesn't. It took time for both of us to understand this. For me, it would be coming from a place of wanting to connect.

If you've been arguing or she seems bitchy/ annoyed when she asks it, definite shit test though. Does she sit around and pout instead of dealing with her problems? She's waiting for you to ask her the same question so she can have an argument with you.

I have no idea which situation describes her better. I'm just trying to show you what she might be thinking here. Luckily, you don't even have to figure out if it is a shit test, because either way, the guys have some great responses for you to use. So win-win.

redpillnobody · 2016-06-09T02:24:35+00:00

"Frosted Cheerios are fucking weird"

"Your asshole"

w/e you have a tremendous opportunity to have fun with this since she's trying to engage you without being aggressive

Simpsondimsum · 2016-05-25T11:31:15+00:00

She's asking you that because she thinks you're boring. Become interesting

Title	"What are you thinking" ltr asks
Author	goingright32
Upvotes	6
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Date	May 25, 2016 9:52 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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