Never, ever, EVER listen to what a man has to say about your body, because it’s not entirely about what’s physical.

A couple years after graduating high school I gained pounds to the right places. When I started my first full time job I got involved with a bonefied asshole. He was trying to make moves and I was very flattered with the attention. Then he gets into negging, one of those sarcastic douche bag types. He’d talk about how my chest was flat and neg me about my hair.

Over time, since the job is physical, I lost a lot of fat (30 lbs). Once that happened the attacks got worse, he’d compare me to the thick girl that worked there to piss me off.

Come to find out a couple months after I ditched his ass that his baby mama was skinnier than I ever was. And notably another time a coworkers daughter came in once and I just missed her, when he said she was in there his description was that she had a “””big heart”””. I saw her eventually and she was smaller than me.. he literally said that just to get a reaction.

Long story short don’t listen or care about what men want physically because they want reins on your membranes.

Never let a motherfucker tell you who you are.