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[–]matrixtospartanatLVRed Beret51 points52 points53 points 7 years ago* (14 children) | Copy Link
Today you meet, greet, ingratiate yourself and befriend him. No fear.
This is exactly how my ex-wife started with her boyfriend, the one she moved in with, 6 months before the divorce.
As long as you remain outcome dependent, you will continue to suffer, feel real pain, and lose in the attraction game with your wife.
You skipped the “cut the shit” post and posted here anyway. Doesn’t really matter. You don’t follow directions and you are likely too fucked up to post that you are big, fat, beta, bitch, that drinks her piss and eats her shit.
You are a worthless, useless, empty shell of a man that has been betaized, and turned into the ultimate nice guy subscriber to feminism and servant to the gynocracy.
That’s the bad news.
The good news is, there is no hope for you.
That’s the good news?
Yes.
“HOPE” is the feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen.
So if you have ‘hope’ you will never have anything but.. hope.
You need self-discipline. Look it up. Self-discipline IS the true secret to success and happiness.
There are no quick fixes. There are no shortcuts. The problem is NOT the other guy. The problem is NOT your wife. The problem is NOT your marriage, lack of sex, the kids, your shitty job, or anything else.
The problem is...YOU.
And unless and until you come to accept that YOU are the problem, you will continue to fail and wallow in the misery of your own mediocrity.
As long as you truly care what your wife does, you will remain a weak, needy, insecure, little bitch continuing to seek her validation and approval. She will continue to be repulsed by your lack of masculinity and seek it in other men. She married you and is seeking the attention of another man. That tells me she’s heterosexual. She already has a pussy, she doesn’t want two.
Your marriage is probably over.
Your wife is shopping for your replacement.
Your wife is, like most women, NOT emotionally healthy enough to leave you just because you are a spineless, worthless, beta, useless limp-dick sorry excuse of a fuck. She’s almost as fucked up as you are, in different ways, so she’s going to have your replacement lined up before she takes half your shit and uses it to feather her new nest with her new man. Yes, the price you pay will start with buying the new bed that she will be fucking him in.
Here’s where I’m going to save us BOTH a lot of time. This program is a MINIMUM of 500 hours of work, for a MINIMUM of at least a year.
You don’t read the sidebar just once. I assume you are ignorant, not stupid. But we really don’t know because you skipped the instructions at the beginning. The ABOVE average person retains 10% of what they read. Assuming you are above average, which may be a stretch here, you need to read the sidebar TEN TIMES before you get it. Add to that, 4 hours a week, MINIMUM in the gym, and you start to see how you can spend 500 hours your first year just UNFUCKING yourself.
How does all this save us time?
If you cannot or will not commit to the program, then don’t waste our time with your bullshit. This is a long-term care facility. If you use it like a walk-in clinic without doing the work, you will be banned.
There’s another stickied post at the top of this sub that you blew right past by u/SteelSharpensSteel. I’d suggest you start there.
A couple more caveats.
YOU are the problem.
YOU can only fix YOU.
YOU CANNOT fix HER.
YOU CANNOT fix the marriage.
YOU CAN ONLY FIX YOU.
Sometimes she will change her mind.
Sometimes she won’t.
Do this for the marriage, and you will FAIL.
Do this for HER, and YOU WILL FAIL.
Do this for YOU, and at a certain point, she will come around, or someone else will.
I’ve posted twice in two years.
You just burned your 2019 allotment.
You’re too fucked up and don’t have time to post because you have too much work to do unfucking yourself and getting your life 2.0 going.
So STFU and..
GET TO FUCKING WORK!
Edit:
Always checking myself..didn’t see the link to sidebar I mentioned. Here it is if you don’t see it either..
https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/acvzgx/steels_guide_to_married_red_pill/?st=JSHVUCW6&sh=944fe68f
Wow.
Reddit GOLD.
I am humbled, and..
I thank you.
[–]haraishi12 points13 points14 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Fuck me mate.... That was brilliant
[–]z2a1-93 points4 points5 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
He wanted the brutal honesty and this is it. The perfect response!
[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
“HOPE” is the feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen. So if you have ‘hope’ you will never have anything but.. hope.
This is perfect and I don't really have anything to add. I'm just copying these two sentences because OP is a lazy turd that probably skimmed through this comment and failed to realize just how important this point is.
Maybe seeing it again will help it stick...
[–]Cloudy_Pirate4 points5 points6 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Damn. You could pretty much copy paste that for every askMRP one timer.
[–]screechhaterRed Beret2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh, so fucking eloquent Matrix
[–]SailorAground2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I sure do miss your posts. Got the nail on the head as usual.
[–]Startlivingfornow2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Holy fuck. Somebody suck this guy off
[–]ParaXilo1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
God damn. Good shit.
[–]Big_Daddy_PDX1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This might just be a solid copy/pasta post before mods lock newbie threads. You outline what I was thinking from reading the first paragraph. It was as if this faggot thought this was r/askreddit.
[–]Dialerstring1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Bad ass post. I’m adding this one to the arsenal.
[–]FoxShitNasty831 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Great comments, you got me googling self discipline and happiness now.
[–]matrixtospartanatLVRed Beret1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
YouTube Jocko Willink self-discipline.
By way of introduction, he was the Commander of Seal Team 3 during the Battle of Ramadi, and he earned the Silver Star and Bronze star.
Author, speaker, and general bad-ass.
[–]FoxShitNasty830 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Agreed all over the podcast, one thing that immediately strikes me is he is honest. Right out he says he isn't social simply because he dosent need to be social. I have been telling myself I need to be much more social to make myself happier because everyone else is very social and they seem happy. I'm naturally introverted yet I still make time for friends and this is probably enough for me.
[–]helaughsinhidden9 points10 points11 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You say "let me be your Guinea pig" as if your going to do us a favor when in fact you should be begging someone to unscrew your head. Your the same kind of guy that would ask a web developer to build a site for your business and say your actually helping him build a portfolio. If this is how you treat people, good luck on your marriage.
[–]Imaginary_Historian7 points8 points9 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
There is no legitimate use for Snapchat for a married person but cheating.
[–]morphite652 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
So much this. Snapchat, Insta, etc are just a weather vane for narcissistic behavior
[–]cholomiteMod / BP Downvote Magnet12 points13 points14 points 7 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
The more you bring this guy up to your wife, the more sue knows that he makes you insecure. When she knows that he makes you insecure, she automatically starts feeling that he is more attractive than you.
You have a lot of issues that the sidebar will help you with, but the biggest is oneitis for your wife.
How do you compose yourself? You don't give a fuck about this guy. You have no confidence and you're shitting your pants because you're worried he will steal her away from you. You need to get in the mindset that you don't give a fuck about this guy, or his ability to steal your girl because you can easily get another girl next week.
You need to never mention this guy again, you've already made her fully aware that this guy makes you nervous, and now you look weak as fuck compared to him.
Go to the event, have a good time and don't spend a second worrying about your wife or this guy and focus on you. Make new friends, build connections or whatever, but do not hover around your woman or mate guard or any of that other shit. It will make you look weak and make him look even better than he already does.
[–][deleted] 1 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
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[–]red88lobster2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You need to prioritise reading the side bar. As the gentleman above mentioned , 10 times and you'll start to get it. Honestly I'm still learning . Everytime you re-read a book you learn more.
[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red10 points11 points12 points 7 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Guide you through your day?
Fuck off faggot.
[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine4 points5 points6 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly.
[–]aherrns1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Gotta love tough love.
[–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points 7 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Dont go, go to the gym. Or a coffee shop, or a movie, when you get done get to reading. Ide suggest .Mindful Attraction plan first. You will fuck this up if you open your mouth.
[–]SuperCrazy072 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
He has to go. He can’t skip out on the event they’re planning to go to after hearing some guy will be there without looking incredibly insecure.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Better insecure than looking a fool. But to each their own.
[–]screechhaterRed Beret1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Are you out of your fucking mind ???
Befriend the fucker and examine what he’s got. Then emulate
Fuck almighty
[–][deleted] -5 points-4 points-3 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
That sounds like a great idea, then he can bring him home to fuck his wife while he watches from the corner.
[–]screechhaterRed Beret1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Whole new meaning to “cuckster”.
If he does not go, than he is “weird” or “less than respectable” to his wife. Not that it matters
[–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She's likely fucking him or is actively seducing, making plans for this. It sounds like that is likely out of your control at this point and that probably can't be stopped. I don't think this is your biggest problem though. Your biggest problem is you. Take the great advice you've gotten here and stop focusing all your physical and mental energy on her. 100% focus on yourself and this other little problem you have will eventually resolve itself.
[–]screechhaterRed Beret3 points4 points5 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Hello Chad, nice to meet you. I’ve heard so much about you. Enjoy fucking or working my wife up, so I can fuck her later
Better yet, be the politician and kill that fucker with kindness
Gloves are off and now you know what you are up against. Start reading now, relax and in a few days, you vision through the red pill lense, will change your perception
Lift. Lift. Lift. I kid you not, the iron temple will change your life and the solitude will change your mind. Work like a motherfucker extract every minute of the workouts building muscle. Just do
Sidebar.
Just be cool tonight. Seriously. Stoic and do not give ten fucks no matter what. You now are viewing life through the red lense my friend. Godspeed
We are here for you. Think before you post again.
By all means. Fucking lift
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[–]testy680 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
STFU
[–]FlyingSexistPig3 points4 points5 points 7 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
You write:
She doesn’t agree so I move on and drop it. ...I immediately become concerned and voice my opinion. She blows me off. I drop it.
She doesn’t agree so I move on and drop it.
...I immediately become concerned and voice my opinion. She blows me off. I drop it.
Why are you dropping it?
How about instead you say, "It really sounds like you're into this guy in a not-okay way, seeing as we're still married. When I've brought it up, you've immediately become defensive (which is a huge red flag), and then attacked me about some nonsense with a coworker. It was as though you had planned your defense in your head before I even brought up the guy.
I'm not really comfortable with this. You're welcome to do what you wish with him, but it feels like the beginning of the end of this marriage, to me."
She's lying. She's caught feels for this guy, and she's trying to hold on to her marriage until she can be sure that the branch she's swinging to is stable. When this happens, you'll be caught flatfooted and crushed when she serves you with divorce papers.
Call her on her bullshit. You've done nothing wrong, and somehow she's made you feel bad for calling HER on HER bullshit.
What. The. Fuck.
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[–]hack3geRed Beret2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
FYI - sometimes these wake up calls work and sometimes they don’t. Be prepared for her to push and break boundaries and if you don’t hold firm you are fucked. I set boundaries - she trampled on them and I caved, BP me was a little bitch.
Since you went the boundary route instead of the pull away and work on yourself until you were worthy of setting a boundary route, you are now all in. She continues talking to him or lies or anything you serve her - it’s easier to come back from divorce papers than it is an affair.
[–]hack3geRed Beret0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
To clarify - my point wasn't that you shouldn't work on yourself or there aren't things you can do to improve - as men we improve until they put us into the ground. My point was that you set a boundary from a place of weakness - you know it and she knows it - she will test you on it. Speaking from experience you waiver on that boundary and you are fucked.
[–]slappysq7 points8 points9 points 7 years ago* (13 children) | Copy Link
There is no fucking quick fix.
Don't say shit to your wife. Life goes on as before.
If you were attractive and <15% BF your wife wouldn't be wandering.
Go to the gym. Stronglifts 5x5. Eat 1g/lb of bodyweight in protein and 500 kcal above your TDEE if skinny and 500kcal below TDEE if you're a fat fuck.
Read the sidebar of /r/marriedredpill; actually this pinned post apparently. Lift for a year.
[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill[M] 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
We have our own sidebar. Desktop site for r/marriedredpill
[–]SteelSharpensSteelMod / Red Beret0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I might have to put a warning - reading the guide does not excuse people from reading the actual sidebar material. Still have to do the work.
Go to the gym. Stronglifts 5x5. Eat 1g/lb of bodyweight in protein and 500 kcal above your TDEE.
Perhaps 500 kc BELOW his TDEE?
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[–]slappysq1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
Great. What are your lifts? BF%?
[–]anoneemus48 1 points 7 years ago [recovered] (7 children) | Copy Link
I’ve slacked off lol. Work has me slacking. Work is important. Lots of people’s job on the line
[–]cholomiteMod / BP Downvote Magnet3 points4 points5 points 7 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Somewhere out there is a guy who is busier than you, makes more than you and goes to the gym harder than you. Excuses are worth shit around here.
There's just a lot of new villains out there.
[–]SiegreicherMarsch0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
"lol"? Why is that funny? You climbed in a toilet bowl and now you're laughing while swirling down my friend. Don't blame anything but yourself.
Your wife watches your feeble attempts to "get in shape", sees you fail to follow through on the plan you created for yourself, and is now looking for new leadership. Do you blame her?
" Work is important. Lots of people’s job on the line"
Dude, your marriage is on the line. You realize that, right?
[–]tspitsatgp1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You haven’t told us anything. There’s no quick fix. If you have boundaries and are willing to enforce them then go ahead and do that. Not in a butt hurt way, but in a firm way. If you don’t have boundaries that you are willing to enforce then get started on the side bar.
[–]freshona0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
So how'd it go? Did you get to sloppy seconds?
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