To those men who are getting over an Ex. You are a drug addict.

So I feel that knowledge and understanding of ones own emotions is the first step to mastering ones own mind. I also believe that many men who are new to TRP have found themselves here because they have been screwed by a woman or are going through a bad breakup (Much like myself). So I would like to note that this post is intended for those who are not over an Ex and want to get them back...

I have noticed too many men, myself included, who in their BP stage of a breakup at some point say things to themselves along the lines of "But I love her", "She was different", "I'll never be that happy again without her". To this I would like to say you are addicted to a drug and you need to detox yourself.

This thought came to me this morning. The feeling of love for/from a woman is absolutely no different from a drug (and in a brain chemistry way it literally is a drug). When you first discover it, you get an unbelievable high. It's like nothing you've ever experienced. It's all you can think about. It makes you feel warm, invincible, and complete. However overtime, the more you indulge in these feelings, the weaker the high becomes. After a while, as the honeymoon phase dies out, you notice that the high you once had is not nearly as great as it used to be. Your relationship becomes stale and deep down you know things are no longer the same. But like a heroin addict, you refuse to quit because even if the high is not as great as it used to be, it sure as hell beats the alternative of giving up that "feeling of love" completely only to be left to go trough the extreme lows of detox.

Sooner or later, the woman acknowledges the loss of these feelings and ends the relationship. This is much easier for her because, well, she can find a replacement with little to no effort. Suddenly the man finds himself in an extremely depressed state, desperate to gain back the high he has now lost. To those men I say this. DO NOT try to go back to that old drug. This is self destructive behavior. The lows are very low right now but that drug is no longer capable of giving you the high you remember. You need to detox yourself completely and over time you will be in a better place. This will make you stronger in the long run and will give you a much greater understanding of the effect these feelings have on you so that in the future you can maximize the highs while minimizing the lows.