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What are your LTR deal-breaking red flags?

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May 21, 2019
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What are your personal red flags that you would never LTR a girl if she displayed them?

Additionally, what are your “orange flags?” (Red flags that you can overlook and still LTR her?

Curious to hear each persons personal opinion!


Post Information
Title What are your LTR deal-breaking red flags?
Author Yallah_Habibi
Upvotes 82
Comments 178
Date 21 May 2019 12:16 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/239079
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/br3hkw/what_are_your_ltr_dealbreaking_red_flags/
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[–]CharlesChadworth152 points153 points  (30 children) | Copy

Exes.. All I read on these new posts nowadays is my LTR is catching up with her ex etc...

One of the greatest red flags for me tbh.

[–]besurks44 points45 points  (11 children) | Copy

This! I learned my lesson the hard way on this. Let my LTR at the time be friends with her ex because I didn’t really give a shit who she talked to. And then before you know it she’s banging him when he’s 10+ hours away. Never let a girl you’re planning to turn into an LTR even communicate with an ex

[–]Carra2348 points49 points  (0 children) | Copy

It’s not a question of “letting” her do anything. It’s if she choose to act that way, it’s over, non-negotiable. Abundance mentality. LTR material girls don’t have reason to be seeing their ex, unless you are not LTR material in her eyes.

[–]GrinninGremlin23 points24 points  (9 children) | Copy

Never let a girl you’re planning to turn into an LTR even communicate with an ex

If their ex is still alive...that is strike number one against things becoming LTR.

Strike number 2 is her choosing to communicate with ex.

Strike number 3 is any excuse to meet with ex for any reason whatsoever.

As an added bonus...This 3 strike system automatically excludes single moms with kids that generate all 3 strikes because they have to meet ex to transfer kids for visitation.

[–]bostezo228 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy

Single moms are not a huge red flag for LTRs by themselves?

[–]GrinninGremlin13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes, but a single-mom with the ex still around is like a HIV coated red flag that auto-generates false rape accusations while emptying your bank account.

[–]TopOccasion2910 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

A single high value guy should never even be in a relationship with a single mum. I dick down single mothers but i will never LTR or God forbid wife her up. I'll rather slit my wrist than wife up a single mother and look after another mans cum spawn.

[–]MajIssuesCaptObvious2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

If their ex is still alive...that is strike number one against things becoming LTR.

So if she stabbed her ex(es) to death, that nullifies this strike, right?

[–]GrinninGremlin2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Hmmm...before I reply...I'd have to know if she is a necrophiliac.

[–]MajIssuesCaptObvious0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You'll get laid even when dead, so it'll be a plus if she is.

[–]ReasonablyGoodMexica2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

An ex being alive is a good marker for most of humanity, dude. I would be MORE worried if I learned ALL of her exes are dead.

[–]GrinninGremlin0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

It is only one of 3 strikes...not the sole factor to consider.

[–]ReasonablyGoodMexica0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

What I mean is that, if virtually all(or none) subjects fit a certain criteria for a filter, then such a filter is not necessary because it just amounts to all or none and all other filters always do the job. Statistically speaking.

In this instance its worse because it becomes a huge red flag if all exes are dead for any number higher than one (specially if what you mean by ex is ex husband).

[–]yungplayz0 points1 point  (16 children) | Copy

Iunno (yet) about the case in U.S., but in my culture that's safe. If she's finna cheat on you, her ex is the last person on Earth she finna do that with.

Fascinating how different the things are from nation to nation.

[–]SLICKlikeBUTTA11 points12 points  (3 children) | Copy

What culture are you from where you say finna lol?

[–]yungplayz1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

A Latino, an overwhelming majority of whose Northern American business associates and friends are black or Hispanic and come from a ghetto.

[–]cafeitalia4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Latinos are one of the top cheaters out there, and they do it so good. I would never in a million years make a Latino a LTR.

[–]yungplayz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That may or may not be true, I do not know enough statistics to judge. I live in Eastern Europe, and the culture I'm referring to above is Ukrainian.

I don't get to speak too much English with locals, that's why I didn't mention Ukraine at all in the first place. Guess I should, as that's the actual answer to your question.

[–]CharlesChadworth3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Agreed, it varies from country to country. Both my parents have 10-12 siblings on each side all married and none divorced overseas. Its because in my parents home land its still very patriarchal and no one would ever date you let alone marry you if you contact exes.

It's all about boundaries. I have plated girls who claim "oh I'm such an easy going person I get along with all my exes" like it's some kind of fucking badge of honor. No thot, if anything that's a turn off.

I have never LTRed such girls. I know what I seek and if it doesnt meet my criteria some beta cuck can hold her legs while her ex pumps her. I have too much pride for such things.

[–]Azora7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy

what the fuck is finna

[–]yungplayz1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Going to

[–]omega_dawg931 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

or "fixna," or "bout to."

lol.

we all have those, "fixna" friends. eg, "I'm fixna join the military," or "bout to go to college," and there they are... sitting on the porch drinking beer.

[–]truthbomb9995 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy

-she finna do that with.-

Dude, do yourself a favor and delete that ghetto speak from your vocabulary. It's the most idiotic made up word I've ever heard

[–]yungplayz-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

Not my fault 90%+ of Americans I deal with or befriend are from ghetto. I mean, that is a consequence of my actions, but I don't view that with no negativity, thus it's not a "fault".

Anyways, name one word that isn't made up, my friend.

[–]truthbomb9991 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

You do get to choose who you associate with and how you speak.

Show me your friends and I'll show you your future. YOU may not view talking like a moron as a negative, but the rest of the world does and honestly you are better than that and can communicate with some eloquence.

I grew up in Detroit in the 80s when it was the murder capital of the USA and knew of people that would say dumb stuff like that as well. I chose to rise above it.

Just one observation from one young black male to anothrr

[–]yungplayz1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm a Hispanic white, but point taken. I appreciate it and will think about it.

[–]Well_Sorted81731 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Grammar Bot:

Iunno (yet) about the case in U.S., but in my culture that's safe. If she's finna cheat on you, her ex is the last person on Earth she finna do that with.

Translating from Ghetto Hood Rat to English:

I don't know if it's the case in the U.S., but in my culture that's safe. If she's going to cheat on you, her ex is the last person on Earth she's going to do that with.

FTFY.

[–]yungplayz1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Can I please opt out from this feature thank you very much? Great! I knew I could. Appreciate that, homie.

[–]timothy950 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

What’s your culture? I wanna join lol

[–]yungplayz1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm a Latino born and raised in Ukraine, Eastern Europe. Think twice, it's harder to calculate the source of danger if the exes are the first ones off the table :)

[–]look_up_there129 points130 points  (7 children) | Copy

It's more or less impossible to find one these days, but a girl that isn't completely obsessed with social media would be nice

[–]hatethiscity34 points35 points  (5 children) | Copy

Huge green flag if a girl isn't obsessed with social media and is aware enough to know how wonderful being present in the moment is.

[–][deleted] -4 points-3 points  (4 children) | Copy

Red flag to me though if she doesn't have any forms of social media at all.

[–]bostezo228 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

why?

[–]Vikraman117 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hmm very interesting why

[–]CasaDeFranco6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

The only woman that ever cheated on me didn't drink or use social media, green flags. Upon reflection, the real reason was is that she identified she couldn't handle moderation.

[–]Siccunt993 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Girl without instagram is generally a keeper,even though it's not exclusive.

[–]MajesticPitch99 points100 points  (5 children) | Copy

Attenion seeking behaviour - major fucking redflag.

At first the attention seeking behaviour is good, she'll fight for your attention. Eventually this will evolve. It will evolve into her sulking, acting like a cunt and other autistic things. She'll do this to get your attention. You just need to nope the fuck out as soon as that happens.

Lots of beta orbiters

Again this means the girl loves attention. Attention seeker, next!

[–]kaolin22451 points52 points  (3 children) | Copy

-hopelessly addicted to social media.

-participates in activities that look good on instagram - fitness modeling, pole dancing, etc.

-starts fights with you when you're not giving her enough attention. Gotta get those likes!

-even bigger fights when you give attention to some other girl you both know, even if it's not romantic.

-finds out what you hate and uses them as weapons when you ignore her crazy ass.

-"Rules for thee, but not for me. " - she takes a selfie with a bunch of dudes, all good. You do the same with girls and she goes nuts.

-airs your relationship's dirty laundry to her friends, or puts it on public display on social media.

-god forbid you call another girl cute or attractive, even on TV.

-a tendency to go haywire in response to problems that are way beyond a healthy reaction.

Insecurity, depression, and unbridled jealousy, usually caused by childhood trauma and ton of daddy issues.

Run away.

Run far, far away.

[–]Natively10110 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fuck man this hits close to home.

[–]bafled5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Holy shit man. This one is too real.

[–]omega_dawg932 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

this comment rules out about 95% of the women I've met in the last 3 yrs.

damn.

[–]omega_dawg933 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

good luck finding a woman that walks this planet that doesn't crave, want, desire, and live for more attention.

[–]Chadster11375 points76 points  (12 children) | Copy

If she doesn’t let me stick it into atleast 2 of the 3 holes

[–]lastingbliss15 points16 points  (8 children) | Copy

In my case its 3 out of 3 holes.

[–]CasaDeFranco3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

What's the appeal?

[–]lastingbliss4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I just like having fun with all 3 of them. Sexual preference.

[–]KaiSmashSmashSawmash2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

Anal sex is a gateway to homosexual activity

[–]2319Skew8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Only if you take off the socks

[–]Chadster1132 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

haha anal sex is like a gateway drug! next thing you know you'll be fucking trannies in a gas station bathroom!

[–]askmrcia0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

So many people on this sub or reddit in general is obsessed with anal sex. I honestly don't get the appeal and I don't believe it feels any better than vaginal sex.

[–]drakehfh0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

What? How does this make any sense?

[–]HumbleTrees3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hahaha this is amazingly true. But like the other chap. For me, it's all three.

[–]aaaGreg51 points52 points  (0 children) | Copy

Gotta see how the mom is, cause that’s what she’ll end up like

[–]okuli 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Girl I'm in LTR with has no obvious red flags, but her insecurities get really annoying. Needs validation, I've seen her tapping my phone to see notifications. Sometimes acts suspicious. She had relationships where guys cheated on her or dumped her, it definitely had impact on that behavior. At least she doesn't show any signs of controlling behavior, it'd be a deal breaker for me.

[–]dingleburry_joe1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

99 percent of chicks especially the hot ones have insecurities. Lol its in their nature. Validation seeking is another thing but pretty common.

[–]Redditor651243 points44 points  (1 child) | Copy

Having to many guy friends

[–]hmsthinkingmeat11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

My ex wife had gone back to working (she went through 4 jobs in 5 years - there's a red flag by itself) and started "hanging out" with some of the guys she worked with.

I'm sure she cheated on me, but as soon as she had an income and interest from other men - our relationship went straight down the toilet.

[–]gregoire_58 points59 points  (8 children) | Copy

Red flags: she has guys paying for her all the time.

Orange flags: nipple or clit piercings. Really, those are red flags but you can bet your ass I’m running the red

[–]Project_Zero_Betas45 points46 points  (0 children) | Copy

nipple or clit piercings.

There will be a ton of red flags readily apparent before you even make it to these.

[–]crystal_wb-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Really curious as of why you would consider them red flags. Sure, there are women who like to obviously show of nipple piercings and basically got them for the attention seeking. But the main reason I would ever consider getting those piercings would be the new sensations that come with them.

Is it because they're apparently a sign for attention seeking, as somebody else said? Or is there more to it?

[–][deleted] 54 points55 points  (30 children) | Copy

Dealbreakers:

  • has kids or wants them
  • goes to clubs/party girl
  • is on tinder
  • any tattoos or piercings other than ears
  • unnaturally colored hair (bright red/blue/purple etc)
  • recent breakup (<1y) or still in contact with exes
  • past about 25 and hasn't graduated college or has no career plans (i.e. her plan is finding a sucker to live off)
  • entitled- can't admit fault/doesn't take responsibility for her actions

[–]SupremeBBC22 points23 points  (1 child) | Copy

My last LTR checked off about 80% of these lmao. Good riddance.

[–]kaolin2244 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Seriously.

What's the cutoff here?

Half that list is a huge nope.

[–]Nergaal11 points12 points  (13 children) | Copy

recent breakup (<1y)

Where do you find any quality, above-average looking women that are single for over a year? Seriously, where are they?

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (10 children) | Copy

The quality ones aren't constantly monkey branching relationships because they can handle life alone. That's the only kind you want to LTR. Get branched to and don't be surprised when you later get branched from.

[–]uptimex4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Well if they are not in LTR, most of the time, they are intensively in hookups.

[–]TopOccasion292 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yup any woman who decently attractive and just got out of a breakup will have men she's sleeping with (exes and orbiters) to help with the pain of recent breakup.

[–]Nergaal3 points4 points  (4 children) | Copy

I am asking about hot ones that stay single a year. Not branch swinging ones, but ones that say split cause moving away. Why you expect such a hot one to not bfup within a year?

[–]Natively1013 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy

99% of “hot” chicks probably aren’t single for a year unless you count hookups.

[–]Nergaal0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

So where does the guy find the 1% ones?

[–]CyberXydra115 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

That are unicorns my brother

[–]Nergaal-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

So the guy listed 8 dealbreakers and everybody upvotes them, but just one of them alone is enough to give you imaginary unicorns?

[–]Roid960 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Get branched to and don't be surprised when you later get branched from.

What if I get branched to from a women who was in a relationship that lasted 5 years? Not the kind that go from guy to guy in a short time.

[–]Natively1010 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

She was willing to throw away 5yrs of commitment. What’s to say she won’t do the same with you?

[–]Roid961 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

What’s to say she won’t do the same with you?

Like all women, what's to say they won't do the same? And people always tell me that quality women are never single, so if I want one it means I'll need to snatch her from someone. And I hate that a lot, not even part of my moral standards, but based on what I see this is the reality.

[–]askmrcia2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Where do you find any quality, above-average looking women that are single for over a year? Seriously, where are they?

I personally know a few and they are the ones not clubbing or online dating. Their hobbies or activities mostly consist of sport leagues like volleyball or soccer and fundraisers.

A lot of guys use only online, parties and clubs to find girls to date.

Hell even when I was in college I was the only guy going after the international girls who did nothing but study and hang out with their small select group of friends.

Virtually there was no competition.

Now to be fair going this route as in going for girls not online or clubs means you'll probably get laid a lot less so keep that in mind.

There's three girls in my improv classes that hadn't dated anyone in over a year and all three are fine being alone and not attention whores

[–]Vikraman110 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

this is too real, where are the good ones? I think locality plays a huge part in this.

[–]ghosts_of_me7 points8 points  (5 children) | Copy

Mine passes all these but has no tits. What do i do?

[–]classylassy280 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Buy her breast implants.

[–]GrinninGremlin4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

So her next can enjoy them?...Nope! If I buy a body modification...it is only something like a tattoo with my name...which costs money to reverse/remove.. Something such as jewelry must be engraved with my name, even if only on the inside so that "Mr. Next" gets a reminder of her resource acquisition habits.

Ideally, such gifts should only happen as rewards for contributing extra value to the relationship, not merely being in the relationship. If you have to give gifts just to retain her interest in the relationship, then you are attempting to buy her affection and compensate for your perception that she is worth more than you are.

A gift should be an acknowledgement of her voluntarily demonstrating exceptional loyalty or commitment to the relationship...doing things which signal less "availability" to other men. It doesn't really matter whether this comes in the form of deleting a social media account...wearing jewelry indicating she is in a relationship...breaking off contact with an "ex"...declining offers from a girlfriend for a "girl's night out" that includes venues where singles frequent...or rebuking criticism of you made in her presence.

The point is that any behavior that moves toward commitment and loyalty is the correct direction and should be rewarded...whereas the opposite behavior which demonstrates "keeping her options open" and creating opportunities to meet other men...should be a barrier to rewards such as gifts.

[–]-_-Andor-_-1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

He might think you are searious lol

[–]Tiway222 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nice list

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

wants them

?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Because I don't want them

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That's valid, though personally i wouldn't consider that a red flag because it's pretty normal for someone to want kids. Having bright hair or tattoos, for eg, yeah I agree with you.

[–]ramjaz-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

If you don’t want kids then why even bother being in a relationship?

[–]Vikraman111 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

For intimacy

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

why bother being in a relationship if all you want is kids, just pay a surrogate

[–]Yusuf1828 points29 points  (1 child) | Copy

When she flirts over text, but swerves each time you ask her out = attention seeking + using you as an orbiter to validate her

[–]2319Skew3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

This. Holy shit this.

[–]FearGarbhArMait29 points30 points  (1 child) | Copy

Disloyalty, "bad luck", a salary less than 75% of my own

[–]Alewyz12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’ve been asking on first dates if they know what a 401k/Roth is....

I’d like to add them having their own house/property. I’ll let a few other red flags fly in the front yard as long as those flags are planted on her own property

[–]GGrub841 points42 points  (8 children) | Copy

The mother of all red flags is the "rape" word.

If she mentions that she was raped run and don't look back: either she falsely accused someone and will do the same with you or she was actually raped and she's damaged beyond repair.

As sad as it is, a relationship with a rape victim is a nightmare and must be avoided at all costs. "Damaged goods" doesn't even begin to describe these women.

[–]subtlearts7 points8 points  (4 children) | Copy

Just got dumped a couple months ago by a single mother with 2 kids from 2 dads, bipolar, narcissistic, codependent, broke, daddy issues etc that was raped as a teenager. I haven't looked into how it affected her (trying to learn) but she never said much about it as she was a terrible communicator as well....

[–]GGrub85 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yup, that's more or less how rape victims end up.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Thank God she dumped you. My dad was in a similar situation, except she was a single mom of 4 kids.

They were fighting all the time, and eventually my mom tried running away with us. My dad jumped on the back of the car, fell off, broke his neck. Wasn't paralyzed or anything, but was in pain. Started using heroin, dead within 5 years.

[–]subtlearts1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

We didn't fight until the very end. She didn't get loud with me once being together for 3 years though. She was running her mouth/lying/stealing from me. I actually miss being with her even though she was passive aggressive and emotionally abusive. I think maybe it's a trauma bond and having no replacement/small social circle kinda sucks.

[–]subtlearts1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Oh and she got a new "soul mate" one week after she left and is "extremely happy" now👍

[–]omega_dawg932 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

i agree but these younger women use the word rape like they use the word cute.

to them, everything is rape! walk up and introduce yourself... approach rape. look at them too long... stare rape (real in India)... etc.

everything is rape until Chad says hi, then it's all good. he can grab her by the pussy and fuck raw in public first date.

[–]StellarMemez0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

but then he never talks to her again, and that's rape too.

[–]omega_dawg930 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

yep... that's regret rape where she willingly fucked him 30 min after meeting him.

but a week later... after he failed to call her back, she regrets the encounter, blames it on him being a chameleon but somehow forgets to call the law bc... well, he was Chad.

... and she might get another chance at Chad DNA.

[–]NoFaithInThisSub 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

bro you're a effing arab, you should know:

  • She is not covered ankle to wrist
  • she can't cook as well as your emak (mother)
  • she looked at a guy... ONCE
  • she's not related

ok but seriously

  • shaming or shutting me down (esp in public/group settings)
  • disrespect, rude behavior, or any aggressive behavior towards me (esp in public/group settings)
  • lying to my face
  • trying to "teach me things"
  • controlling my speech or actions
  • trying to get free things from me before i even know her

[–]NeedRealityShock4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Accurate, last ex checked 83.3%

[–]SLICKlikeBUTTA7 points8 points  (4 children) | Copy

She stink

[–]Speedracer1111 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy

You'd plate a stinky girl?

[–]SLICKlikeBUTTA0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Maybe if she didn't stink all the time. Like if she's a server were not kicking it after she gets off work. I need to know she showered or she probably stank

[–]AGameofTrolls0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Dating this server chic. One time I started noticing a horrible smell every time we hung around. One time I picked her up at her friends, she stayed with her overnight. When she got into my car and smelled the reek emmanatiing from her I just had to say something. She was so embarrassed, but we managed to figure out it was the shoes she was wearing ALL the time and the gunk from the kitchen floors that get cought in the soles that was making her smell like a dead cat.

[–]AshyBoneVR48 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Trust. If I feel like I can't trust her, there's no kind of relationship.

[–]Bustedwire7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Chlamidia

[–]how_to_fake_it5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Having finally cured my own depression, a girl with depression would be the biggest red flag for me. I fear she'll eventually drag me down with her.

Other red flags: way to chatty with your exs, attention seeker, way too clingy on that one "ol' friend" that's "just a friend"(yes they probably once were fuck friends), no job nor is willing to get one(mortgage doesn't pay itself, but she sure seem to think it is), and in general don't be a fucking freak show.

I place having kids on the orange flag list as it really depends on the situation, as long as that kid isn't expected to become my problem then I'm in general all K with it, your ex pays child support for a reason.

[–]2319Skew5 points6 points  (7 children) | Copy

At this point, I'm not aiming for an LTR so my list is a bit more strict :

Believes in astrology

Refers to her pets as babies

Has an active social media account

Is a size queen

Has any extreme fetish

Slept with me on a first date

Gives out too many tests

Flakes often

Is just boring

*no idea why * Is from Saskatchewan

Is still friends with an ex

Has at "home job"

Doesn't turn heads when we are out

Dresses like a slob

Has a ton of gay/lesbian friends

Dad issues

Is a parent

Holy shit I'm just going to stop here.. Basically, I'm on this earth a finite time and for her to be anything more than a sentient orifice, she needs to bring something to the table. If she wants to be with me and be meaningful to my life while I put her above the rest, she needs to keep the drama to a minimum. Any of these are just flags on their own but they stack and show up in pairs as I screen within the 6 month vetting process.

Edit : Thanks for the silver, stranger.

[–]claykiller20103 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

Is from Saskatchewan

I wanna hear the reason for this lol.

[–]2319Skew2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Went out with a girl. Same day fuck. Great plate from Sask. Lotta dick in her past. Whatever. Only a plate.

That plate shatters. Go out with a much hotter plate. Same day lay. Most submissive woman ever. Literally wore my cum on her face because I didn't give her permission to clean up. Had a thousand cock stare. Also from Sask... Ok.

Third plate, professional type, pretty hot, seemed shy till a glass of wine is in her. HUGE freak. Same day fclose. Sore AF after fucking like crazy, lying in bed. Tells me about where she's from originally from Saskatchewan.

I get women fuck. I get there's level of freaks.

But holy shit. It's like Sask manufactures high N Count submissive freaks and I've been in 4 of our provinces.

[–]claykiller20101 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Do you live or were you visiting Canada? I mean, aren't there like only 13 provinces there lol?

[–]HumbleTrees2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Silver worthy.

[–]Kurush559 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy

We've found the small dick bro

[–]2319Skew0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Naw I'm good but if you want, you can always ask me for a picture. You don't need to covertly infer my size.

Anyway, when a woman sees you and thinks he's got to have a BBC (I'm half black btw). It tells me that she's either been fucked so many times that an average dick doesn't do it for or that she's looking for a mount Everest of cock. Neither option screams LTR material.

Now I'm above average but nowhere near porn star dick. So if I have to go slow or take it easy then it's the later and if she's young, whatever.

However, if she can handle it no problem and she didn't recently give birth then that gives me a very fucking clear picture as to the kind of woman she is.

Most women say they want a big cock then complain about how it hurts, you need to go slow or have to rest between days. Anal becomes a challenge and BJs include a lot more teeth as their jaw gets sore.

[–]SpinPlates4 points5 points  (5 children) | Copy

Despite what liberal cucks and feminist whores tell you, a women's partner count matters a lot if you want an LTR.

If she's fucked more than 20 men (which I feel is a very fair number in today's landscape) I can't take her seriously for an LTR. Her ability to pair bond has been fucked out of her.

Funny how every girl I've ever met that openly admits to sleeping with 50+ men before she's 30 is a total mess.

[–]TopOccasion293 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy

I agree with you but I'm shocked that you consider 20 guys to be fair number...If she's slept with 15-20 men and she's below 30 years old she's more than damaged beyond repair imo. I don't think women are meant to have that many sexual partners.

It's a fucked up world we are in when men consider 20 partners in a woman to be normal. For anyone who will reply to me saying "double standards" bla bla..Men are different and can have many sexual partners compared to women.

[–]SpinPlates2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

I don't disagree with you. 20 is a lot but I've slept with a lot of women so I'm trying to be fair in my body cap for an LTR.

The sad truth is 10-20 men is average for most women in their late 20s these days. Good luck finding a hot girl that had less than 10 partners. I know 19 year old girls with more than 20 bodys on her list.

I think the real key to a successful marriage is to not date western women. Whenever you're ready for a real relationship look for traditionally rasied eastern women. Anything from Europe all the way to Japan is LTR worthy. American women in general are fucked.

[–]claykiller20100 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

What part of Europe tho....

[–]drakehfh1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Eastern Europe

[–]4thAndLong0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

20 is too many for an LTR.

[–]StopGaming12345 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Mentioning a lot of male names in their stories. It has nothing to do with jealousy, these girls are just straight up cancer.

[–]Project_Zero_Betas26 points27 points  (6 children) | Copy

Not accepting evolution as fact.

[–]Trip-trader6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

Agreed, you can’t reason with people who lack basic logic and reasoning skills. Shows they are very gullible.

[–]Project_Zero_Betas0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Exactly.

[–]goomerall33 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lying or any form of hypocrisy.

[–]thrwy754792 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Haven't seen it mentioned, so I'll add: moved to, and lives in a different country from birth, particularly if there isn't a strong reason to leave the origin country.

It may not always be the case, but I've known a few girls that did this, and it was to run from the fact that they were total sluts in their origin countries, sort of like trying to create a new identity. It makes it easier to hide their history.

[–]RedSkeller3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

*Still talks to anyone she has fucked previously (Yeah right)

*Has guy friends

*Attention seeking behavior - Social media/cell phone dependency (They have no hobbies other than throwing resumes for new dick and Netflix)

*Kids/Divorce are obvious no way in hell (Convinced Single Mothers these days are the most vile creatures on the planet).

*Any sort of prescription medication (Weeds out mental chicks).

*Previous fatty/alcoholic (No discipline or self control).

*Bad teeth/diet

*Smokers/Pot heads/Drug users

Needless to say I haven't LTR'd in a while. Plates though:

*clean pussy

*looks great naked

*doesn't annoy me within a couple hours.

[–]Speedracer1111 1 points [recovered]  (4 children) | Copy

Has children that aren't yours
Talking to ex's (any that she had sex with)
Lack of manners
Lack of intelligence
No job
Lack of motivation to succeed (wants to be a stay at home wife/gf)
No interest in international travel
Lack of basic financial knowledge No budget skills

Still being damaged.

Cheating. They are seeking sympathy and trying to control you (monitoring your phone). I can not think of one LTR that said they were cheated on, then revenge cheated but didn't consider themselves a cheater. Beta days, but usually those LTRs turned into dead bedrooms, so believe there is a link between the two.

Rape. Yes, this is a sensitive topic and I am going there. Does it happen? Yes. But as I began with, still damaged. She should be seeking therapy and not a new boyfriend to resolve her problem, your not her therapist (or hopefully aren't). Will there be bad days, yes, but we are talking a couple times a year not a month.

Most other topics should have filtered her out of being a plate, yes even the "Has children", but sometimes we find that out much later.

[–]Roid960 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

(wants to be a stay at home wife/gf)

Isn't that a good thing?

[–]Speedracer1111 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy

Personal preference.

I don't see an intelligent woman being a stay at home partner ending very well. She will be bored.

(Plus, you could potentially be financially responsible for her if it was a long term partnership. 7+ years.)

To each their own.

[–]Roid960 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

What utility does she provide to offset the financial drain?

Take care of the kids and the house? Do the dishes, laundry, come back from work and find a nice already made meal? These don't exist anymore anyway, but I see what you're saying.

[–]MatSapientia2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’m not western like most guys here, my demographic is different.

Those are all red flags to me that I never compromised, some might not be “bad traits” per se but I’m pretty sure I don’t want them in my life:

  • Power hungry - constant desire to impose her frame
  • disrespectful or entitled feminist mindset
  • guy friends - orbiters
  • digital attention whoring
  • lacking religiosity
  • indecent clothing
  • unjustified lying (when it’s online, this one is double damage).
  • smoking, drinking, drugs, tattoos
  • lacking education or desire to learn
  • lacking desire to have children (at least two, up to 15)
  • have children
  • untold secrets about the past
  • slutty friends
  • no intention to fully invest in family
  • overly interested in my money

Orange flags:

  • flexible ethics
  • divorced
  • constant negativity
  • history of some red flags
  • unnecessary lone traveling
  • unusual piercings
  • lacking nourishing attitude
  • shopping addict

[–]TheTrenTrannyTrain2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I've never seen it before until this girl, but she loaned out $20k to her first boyfriend from HS for his business. Never met the guy, and according to her he's married and wanting to start a new business.

Didn't break up right away but it definitely left a red mark.

[–]patacsiipse8 points9 points  (6 children) | Copy

Being leftist

[–]omega_dawg933 points4 points  (5 children) | Copy

yeah? I'd kill myself if a woman's voting choice made me lose an erection.

[–]patacsiipse1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

You’re simply ignorant if you think her world view doesn’t matter. Her vote doesn’t define her, it’s the other way around.

[–]omega_dawg930 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

my erections don't care.

I'm worried about her view towards me. talk politics with most girls and their pussy becomes desert dry.

but do you. i have my opinion and it's to leave her choices as hers. if she respects me (and my opinion) we will be ok.

[–]renfsu0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I agree with you, don't know why you're being down voted. Just because her views are different from yours doesn't mean shit, you can vote left or right and be a sane human being.

[–]omega_dawg930 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

idgaf about down votes. we complain about girls wanting attention and wanting 'likes' on instagram, but then, we put a bunch of weight on down-votes on reddit comments.

i give zero fucks.

these guys want to make redpill philosophy political... like ALL conservatives are redpilled while ALL liberals are not. then, they want to make it sexual as well... saying they wouldn't fuck certain women because of how they voted.

yawn.

girls don't give a fuck about politics and BARELY give a fuck about men. so why even care how she votes?

[–]archaic-guy4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

For a Plate:Not metting the standars of human decency + smoking in my presence/drugs are not allowed at all

For an LTR: The same as before but also I don´t want an LTR with a girl who drinks or smokes , hasnt proved his loyalty and responsability , can´tself substain herself or isnt of similar status.

I usually observate how girls interact with people they don´t want to fuck to predit what will happen in case of break up and qualify as a potential plate or LTR

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

If she puts too much effort into her social media portrayal of her life and appearance.

If she gets a thrill from the gaze and constantly seeks approval of her sexual appearance to men.

If she expects you to pay for everything.

[–]Endorsed ContributorNightwingTRP1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Part 4 of the TRP Field Toolkit on the sidebar covers this, with links to multiple red flag lists. LTR material usually had no red flags. All red flags are a deal breaker unless you're still operating with scarcity mentality.

[–]TFWnoLTR1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Has exes who are still trying to contact her on a regular basis, even if she ignores them but tells you about it.

It's a sign of her being manipulative to an unhealthy level. She built up emotional dependancy in her exes and now they can't get by without her and are desperate for her attention.

I got with a girl like this and she "forgot" her bc after convincing me she hated the feel of condoms (I know it's my fault), and after we split she still strung me along for as long as she could giving me hope we could fix things. Thank fuck I got pilled and moved on. She still uses the fact that we have a kid to fuck with me as much as possible.

Oh, another red flag: she tries to convince you not to use condoms.

[–]cafeitalia1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Definitely any contact with am ex, ex meaning any guy she had a fling, date, relationship, sex, hookup with. You set the rules, she says but and you say bye. Either she accepts the rules or you let her be on her own. Also no talking about exes, any man who allows their ltr talk about their exes etc is a blue pilled dip. If she finds the courage to discuss that she already lost the respect to you. Spending habits, cleanliness are also very important. If her house her room her bathroom are messy stay the fuck away, she doesn't deserve to be a LTR.

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

When she says, "Wow, that's the biggest dick I've ever seen on a white man!"

*Relax, I was going for the joke.

[–]MrAgamemnon5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

Additionally, what are your “orange flags?” (Red flags that you can overlook and still LTR her?

If you're "overlooking" things, you clearly don't have an abundance mentality. Next.

[–]Yallah_Habibi 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Good point. Edited title to reflect the question better

[–]MrAgamemnon1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Additionally, what are your “orange flags?” (Things to be cautious of, but not worth a next)

Your words change but your question does not.

If there is any hint of a doubt about anything, then next.

[–]TheRedPillRipper1 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy

Obedience - If she isn't obedient; doesn't follow instructions/flakes without due cause; she doesn't get a look in.

Fidelity - She can fuck other guys; just NOT whilst it's my turn.

Ambition - Vacuous women who contribute nothing of intellect or value have no business being in my life.

My current has the first two but needed a lot of encouragement from me for the last. She's finally seen the light(thank God) and is pursuing further advancement. These three are hard and fast u/Yallah_Habibi but I have a few orange flags such as; no problems unless she want's them fixed; minimal negativity; feminism is for friends etc..

Almost forgot THE BIGGEST ONE: NO SHARED FINANCES! If she wants to jump into your bank accounts, is overly interested in what you do or wants to know where you live then this is A MAJOR red flag. When I'm asked what I do I'll reply with whatever hobby I'm enjoying currently.

e.g. "What do you do? Oh I'm a burgeoning fashion designer. Seen my work?"

I chose well cause my current is REALLY independent. She's bought me a car, TV's, phones and all sorts of crap. She even paid for the majority of our month long holiday recently. If a girl claims to be Miss Independent; make her prove it.

Godspeed and good luck!

[–]bostezo220 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy

WTF a car? Which car??

[–]TheRedPillRipper1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It was joke but to her credit she surprised me a good one. When I kill it I might get a bud of mine to turn it into a rally car.

[–]AGameofTrolls1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

1994 Honda Civic, the hatchback kind!

[–]TheRedPillRipper1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I wish! Used to own an Integra Type R haha!

[–]AGameofTrolls1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

That is truly a fine machine brother!.

[–]bostezo220 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Wow you are lucky my friend! Tell my gf to add your's number XD

[–]bostezo220 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Wow you are lucky my friend! Tell my gf to add your's number XD

[–]Davidskylarkk1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

My biggest would be if they have a vagina..

[–]ChadTheWaiter1001 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Picture of another mans cock in her phone

[–]TeemoSatan1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Bisexual. It's often coupled with depression and a lot of other mental diseases. Not to mention not only her guy friends are a problem, but girl friends also.

I've been with two bisexual woman and both relationships turned into a huge shitshow. Never again.

[–]boy_named_su0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Multiple abobos

Greater than single digit body count

Feminist

Single mom

Father figure not around in childhood /teen years

Cheated

Been in an LTR with a man she was not in love with

Two-man three-way

Abuses her beta orbiters

Expects to talk to her ex while dating me

[–]PincheeWhey0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Girls that say “girls are drama, so I only have guy friends”

[–]_iisu0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

When she doesn't turn me on.

When we don't have fun together (she's not fun and she doesn't find me fun).

When it's obvious that she fucks other dudes or lies about her feelings, or other signs that she's lost her trust and respect to me beyond repair.

Bimbo.



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