Haven't posted here in a long time but I'm glad to see that the place is still active after the deletions and quarantines. If you've read my old posts, you'll already know a bit about my history and how much I love to share information to help others like me.

If you can't be bothered going through, in quick summary, I'm a young guy who made lots of money making and selling projects online. That's it.

Now I know that I have already spoken about this tip before on Reddit but I continuously share it with every individual I meet as the results still shock me till this day.

The first tip is to remember the names of the people you talk to. I cannot stress how stupidly powerful this tip is for something that is plainly common knowledge. I will explain more below.

The second tip is to personalise every interaction(excluding business discussions). What I mean by personalise an interaction is that you should make the individual remember that they are still a human and bring them on an equal level.

Now I'll explain the tips then show you how to apply them to every area of your life.

You see, the first thing I do when speaking to someone, in this instance let's say I am calling PayPal about an issue I am currently facing. The very first thing the employee on the phone will say to you when you call is the introduction and their name. That is a requirement of their job. For anyone who has worked in call centers you know that those lines practically mean nothing. They are the filler sentences that cross straight into the direct discussion.

Example:

"Hi you've called PayPal, my name is Amy how can I help you today?"

Caller: "Hello, (goes on to explain the problem.)"

That is how the majority of call center calls follow, sometimes the callers fail to even add a greeting and jump straight into the problem. This is understandable of course as for most, calling is usually a last resort. For someone to call, they must be out of options and want to get straight to the answer.

Whenever I call a company, I make it an important note to remember their name or if I can't understand it, I ask them their name.

Example(This is a transcript of one my recent calls, information changed):

"Hi, you've called BeesCarInsurance, my name is Amy, how can I help you today?"

Me: "Hi there, I wanted to call in reference to some mileage issues I've been having recently."

Amy: "Sure, what's the problem?"

Me: "Basically, (go on to explain the problem in a friendly and relaxed manner.)"

The trick is to treat them as a friend. Most of you already know this but how well are you able to implement it?

After quickly solving the issue together, she asks me if I can fill out a review statement for her.

The obvious answer would be to either decline or just say yes. I not only said yes but asked her if it would be okay to put her name on it. Directly referencing her. She sounded quite happy and told me her full name and department.

On similar occasions, I've had people offer me extra free additions, gifts, etc

This little story might seem a little silly but the general point I am trying to make here is that people go the extra mile in helping you once you treat them as someone on an equal level. I specifically learned this tip from reading the book "How to win friends and influence people." and watching my father and several masculine figures.

I noticed that they would often shout on the phone, speak in agitated tones or repeatedly question the person on the phone as though they were at fault which in turn created a negative response.

Personalising the situation:

This is the second tip and by far the most effective for social scenarios. This is an actual tip you can take and go outside today to try your luck.

A few weeks ago I went out to dinner with a group of friends. I have a history of speaking and flirting with waitresses so the group was casually waiting to see how I would attempt it this time in a modern busy steakhouse on a Friday night.

We had our dinner then went outside to make a few calls. Whilst waiting, I noticed one of the waitresses I found attractive sweeping the floor outside. I immediately approached and asked her two questions.

Question 1: I asked if the place had any jobs currently. She spoke a bit on that telling me that there were a few, stretching it a bit further.

Question 2: I asked her how much the pay was.

These questions mean absolutely nothing but I would like to explain the effect of both on a psychological level.

Firstly picture the scenario. This is a young girl, most likely the same age as me or younger who is currently at work and therefore has the work mentality. My first question could be taken as a serious question and therefore she responded as such.

The second question is personal but still could have been taken in that same way. The difference is in how I asked the question. Picture how you would ask your long lasting best friend, the friend that you always insult and joke around with. Picture how you would ask them how much their job pays. That's exactly how I asked the girl and immediately she responded appropriately by dropping her guard.

This is how you transition from the serious "work" discussion into the relaxed and flirty conversation. She proceeded to tell me how the job was minimum wage, though sometimes they get tips. My exact response was along the likes of; "Well yeah but how come you get tips and the cook doesn't? I wouldn't tip you guys shit." I said in a laughing/sarcastic tone.

The conversation went on for quite some time until I left, (ending the conversation first).

I apologise in advance if this post feels as though it has fallen into seduction territory but the tips work in both scenarios.

Lessons:

When interacting with those of lower CURRENT status (I.e call centers, waitresses, workers), try to remember their names, and bring it up in conversation casually, then personalise it by treating them as though you were talking to a close friend. If you don't believe me try it out for yourself and see how it works out. Remember, every individual out there has a shield. Even us. Once you break the shield, you can get through to anyone with almost no effort. That is practically what all relationships are formed upon. How long it takes for you to break that shield or whether you manage to do so in the first place.

Extra Tips:

I've done posts on interacting with high status individuals so if you're interested go through my post history and read them.

However I always love to share this toast masters page. It has helped me tremendously to study high status behaviours and I'd recommend it along with the book "Meditations" which is a stoic book.

https://westsidetoastmasters.com/resources/book_of_body_language/chap17.html

Thanks!