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Stop being an asshole

by INNASKILLZ2K18 | August 13, 2019 | TheRedPill


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Ok. It’s been a long night at work, and I do some serious shit. Time to refocus my mind, shift my thoughts and pass some experience.

When it’s all not making sense, a mentor of mine always told me to ‘take it back to basics’.

So, I’d like to talk about a very basic concept which messes guys up. Being the ‘asshole’.

Somewhere along the line guys heard the rumour that women like ‘assholes’. It’s started a string of theory on abusive relationships, narcissists, ‘bad boys’, and downright cunts.

Not long ago I remember a post in ASKtrp. A guy had literally cornered a girl in his car and hurled insults at her for an extended period. The girl was moved to tears, and the guy was left asking ‘what the fuck is wrong with me’?

Recently a guy asked what it means when a woman says ‘I like a guy who can put me in my place’?

We’ve all seen the kids who ask what’s wrong with their Tinder conversations, then post an image of a conversation string in which they’re push, push, pushing the girl totally. Almost like pushing someone’s head in the toilet and expecting them to meet up and fuck them.

Then, the guys who criticize instead of teasing, act like ‘bitches ain’t shit’ and tell her she’s a ‘ho’.

Autists. I see....autists.

A word of wisdom. Set out to be an asshole, make that your conscious behavioural choices an you won’t get far. Actually try to cause a woman emotional or psychological hurt because someone totally misread Mystery Method, push/pull or ‘status’ and end up wondering why you got ghosted. Why anyone would think being an outright cunt will make her tingle and think ‘OMG, he actually treated me like a cunt, he must be so high status,is beyond me. Be a cunt, and guess how people are going to feel about you?

Good asshole game, the good ‘asshole’ remark that means she’s tingling is the symptom of a completely different style of behaviour;


The kind of guy a woman calls an asshole, but wants to fuck, isn’t an asshole at all. It’s the guy who puts boundaries, reason, logic, assertiveness and his own common sense above her and her approval.

When she kicks up a shit storm, overly shit tests, becomes emotional as fuck and basically brings a lot of needless drama to your life, you’re the guy who pulls over the car, unlocks the door and says ‘there is the sidewalk, walk it off on your way home’. Or you pick her up and take her to the porch and close the door. More subtly you can get up off the couch, go to your computer/phone and start internet surfing shit that makes you laugh.

She whinges on the phone about how you work too much, are at the gym too much, didn’t answer her text within ten minuets or engage in bullshit text conversations, you might text her that you’re busy and to only call when she’s calmed down.

You don’t put up with her bullshit.

When she’s making you jump through hoops, beta testing you, withholding sex, you’re the guy who simply withdraws attention and talk to other women who might be more sexually available. Whether she’s aware of it or not.

You’re a strong guy who expects a woman to be submissive and sexually keen.

When she’s trying to get you to do things, asking demands like ‘you should buy me things or take me to these restaurants’, you simply laugh and say ‘no’.

You don’t reward entitlement just to get some pussy.

She’ll call you an asshole. You never where one. You were a totally reasonable, fun-loving guy with boundaries, priorities, assertiveness and ability to say ‘no’. You also value your peace of mind and enjoyment over arguments, drama, demands and hoops.

You’re not an asshole. You just didn’t let her get her way!

That’s the kind of asshole you want to be. A man who runs his ship, puts himself over bullshit and games and doesn’t let others have their way.

Always focus on being fun, playful, charismatic with a sense of humour. Always offer a positive emotional environment. Never set out to be a cunt.

Let her remarks of ‘asshole’ be a result of her own emotional frustration when she can’t just do whatever she wants around you.

If you ever doubt if you’re on the right side of the fence, bring it back to another basic theory; ‘women are five yeard old children’. Would you be an actual asshole to your five year old kid? Criticize them, call them names, lock them up without food and throw a ball at their head? Fuck no. You’d be a real asshole, and probably be locked away where you can’t harm them.

However, if your kids hadn’t done their homework for a week and asked to go to Disneyland, would you let them? If they asked for $50 without earning it, would you give it to them or assign some chores?

They may call you an asshole, but you know you’re simply being responsible and not letting small behaviours turn into them running riot.

Focus on being FUN. Be relaxed, playful, confident. Have some charm and charisma. POSITIVE EMOTIONAL VALUE.

When they start shit testing, that’s when you capatin your ship. You’re only called an asshole because SHE CAN’T JUST HAVE HER WAY. You are your mental point of origin. We are the fathers, the leaders and the captains. We've been told otherwise for far too long.

The true master is he who can uphold those boundaries and steer the ship without EVER BEING BUTTHURT.

She sees she can’t break you. You don’t change your ‘rules’ for her. You’re not emotionally affected by her. Suddenly you’re an ‘asshole’ she wants to fuck.

Stop being a cunt. Nobody likes a cunt.

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Title Stop being an asshole
Upvotes 430
Comments 64
Date 13 August 2019 02:50 PM UTC (11 months ago)
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[–]Zech4riah60 points61 points  (2 children) | Copy

Yup, this is something guys fail to understand here.

The point isn't to make her feel bad with your actions. It doesn't have intrinsic value.

It's about making decisions to improve your life and on the side improve life of hers or the relationship regardless how those decisions make her feel.

When you are on your path, don't be afraid to upset her. It's ok to appear as an asshole for greater good.

[–]Protocol_Apollo6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yep some EC put it quite well:

You don’t soft next/hard next/whatever to punish her

You do it because you are a man who is above this, who doesn’t have time for her bad behaviour, who can put his time/effort in better things

[–]danielwisenbcaest0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I’m so glad this place is quarantined, I can just hear a beta simp crying about your comment😂😂

Good advice tho👌🏼

[–]lugrulo82 points83 points  (10 children) | Copy

Good summary on an objective asshole, and an “asshole”.

Be the latter.

[–]sebastianconcept11 points12 points  (9 children) | Copy

Exactly. Sometimes I wish we would have richer vocabulary instead of such semantic stretching on language figures.

[–]WhatIsThisAccountFor2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

We do, but to expect the average person to use correct verbiage to express their feelings is simply unreasonable.

A girl that calls a guy an “asshole” should say that the guy is “not accommodating me like other men do”. But she’s not going to say that because that oozes entitlement and puts the responsibility on her instead of him.

From what I have experienced: most women are afraid of responsibility. They don’t want to be held to their word or depended upon, they just want to be an aid to someone else’s responsibility.

[–]sebastianconcept1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Correct. So people is used to hide political convenience to hold/advance frame behind ignorance camouflaged as coolness.

[–]Siyuen_Tea0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

We have " alpha" but that got cannibalized and people still compare it to wolves.

[–]Alphabetron11 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

And since last week's popular cringe post , our fucking dogs.

[–]instasnickers-5 points-4 points  (3 children) | Copy

French, along with others languages have those words you are looking for. Plus, it helps in game

[–]ouipdino0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

What is the french word you are talking about? Or the other words in other languages? I would like to look them up and see the definitions.

[–][deleted] 37 points38 points  (0 children) | Copy

Admittedly, this is exactly what I needed to hear ...and read. Thank you.

[–]bayareaengineer201944 points45 points  (1 child) | Copy

Excellent post. This is pretty much the opposite of what society tells men to do. Society tells men to put women and women’s needs first and to work hard and provide for a woman, etc.

So suddenly in a woman’s mind a guy that doesn’t do this is an “asshole” and it’s a challenge to “change him.” That gives her the tingles.

[–]Endorsed Contributorsadomasochrist14 points15 points  (7 children) | Copy

This is best demonstrated in the literature of female mate choice.

  1. Narcissism
  2. Arrogance
  3. Dominance

Positively correlated to female short term mate choice (arousal). There is no supporting evidence of being treated objectively poor, though most men with these traits won't hesitate to treat a women poorly if deserved.

This is why these men are often described as "abusive." Because they are willing to treat women in the way you describe, which men who are clueless conflate with it being attractive.

Men who are attractive, who display attractive dark triad traits, are allowed to treat women in ways much tougher and less positive than other men.

Think of a woman, SMV9. She can get away with treating men much worse, and some of that behavior is attractive. Most men respond to a degree of chase required, some female confidence etc as long as its framed in a feminine context.

If you were an autistic female, you'd read the same thing. "Men are attracted to being treated poorly."

[–]Senior Contributoradam-l5 points6 points  (6 children) | Copy

I've read this twice and cannot understand your point... I dunno if it's me or smthg to do with your comment. What do you mean?

[–]unkg1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

I think he means that assholes are usually attractive for other reasons such as facial features, confidence etc. Not the actual asshole part. Thus, when they act like assholes, women take their shit because of their other positive qualities. Just like a hotter woman can get away with more than an ugly girl. However, when people see an attractive guy being an asshole they assume he is attractive because he is an asshole, which is not the case. He is attractive, therefore he can get away with being an asshole.

This is the part I think I understood, the rest of the comment was a bit blurry for me as well.

[–]Senior Contributoradam-l0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Some points by me, in any case:

We usually refer to the dark triad traits of narcisism, Machiavellinism and psychopathy. Those traits do entail abusive behavior by themselves. Also, they are attractive to women by themselves (unless perhaps they result in low functioning).

The reason these traits are attractive, in my view, is that they simulate aspects of the behavior of a high status, successful man - which we all know is the attraction switch for women.

For completeness, I note that these dark triad traits did not evolve to be too widely expressed in the male.population because other men eliminated them. Only in today's extended society, with the chance to relocate and change social circles continuously, and casual murder is prohibited, can these men be so successful.

[–]doughboyfreshh 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy

wow interesting I think that I fit into these dark triad traits more of lately but it is very interesting that you point out that other men eliminated them. I'm still inexperienced to a degree and couldn't figure out why other men kept sabotaging me and why I couldn't seem to get along with other men besides a couple close friends who just deal with it but you just explained it perfectly. In any case I do wish at times I could just murder other men who are subconsciously sabotaging me but society has me on my heels. But now I understand that the key is relocating and changing constantly. I always get sucked into some social strata and it sometimes ends disastrous. The key is probably never fully entering a social circle in the 1st place and continuous change. I don't think you were trying to help me but thanks.

[–]Senior Contributoradam-l0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Hi man,

Of course I wasn't trying to help you, and if you were in my band back in the hunter-gatherer days, we'd end up doing you in.

That said, here in TRP we are amoral. Meaning, we collectively try to find what works in hacking the female primary society and sexual market, not judging it preemptively. In this context, input from people like you is valuable.

[–]doughboyfreshh0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

thanks. Not sure why I deleted the comment, thought it wouldn't be useful but guess I was wrong.

[–]ratpoison98713 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy

K. There’s a difference between being abusive and being an asshole.

Know the difference.

A buddy’s girlfriend told me to kill myself when I ask a forward question. Lol. I told my buddy that she’s dead to me. And from then on - her nickname is the corpse.

Dick. Sure. Abusive. No. She laughs,.. we all laugh. Nobody’s bent out of shape.

[–]2INNASKILLZ2K18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, that's the stuff I'm getting at.

If you took a girl out on a first date and told her 'you're a fucking corpse, you're dead to me', probably won't end well.

This is what I'm pointing out. I think some guys are misinterpreting something that is pretty clear.

[–]DerpJungler7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nice write-up. Ive seen a lot of people who read books like "No more Mr. Nice guy" etc. and completely miss the point. They start being cunts instead of "good" assholes.

Going against the female narrative and still being fun, open and relaxed should be the goal. There is a sweet spot between being an asshole or a cunt.

Being a cunt might work when you're 17-20 y/o due to the explosion of hormones by both genders, but as one gets older, he needs to shape his personality accordingly.

Thanks for the thoughts.

[–]sebastianconcept8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

The 5 y/o theory is outstanding. Since I’ve heard of it I use it all the time and is a good model.

On the other hand there are some more psychologically mature women but they wish to go back to kidding and playing too.

[–]Gnosiis_3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

I agree that it's all about putting yourself first. That's the most of it. However there are a lot of girls out there that want you to take it a step further than that by not only putting yourself first but doing it in a way that's "savage". Then there are the girls that just want to see you be a douchebag to other people. The type of dgaf attitude that says I don't care if I'm being over-the-top mean or if you'll get offended. Generally I can't stand women like this and try to keep away because they tend to be very close minded in what they are attracted to. And even worse, eventually they'll get tired of all the "emotional abuse" and want to switch to a milder guy. Then they'll get bored of him and want to switch back. These are the girls you pump and dump and NOTHING more. Ghost her. She'll become a problem if you make her a plate.

But you're right, not being afraid to stand up for yourself and understanding you have rights too is the heart of it. That should be enough and it usually is.

[–]CainPrice22 points23 points  (8 children) | Copy

Being an asshole is a step on the path of guys who are faking it until they make it.

Passive guys who are nice, respectful, and friendly toward women and try to please them and make them happy? Boring. Women would rather fuck an asshole. Not because they like assholes, but because at least assholes aren't boring. They're fun, confident, interesting, and they actually make moves.

If a woman is choosing between a real man and an asshole who's faking it, sure, she'll choose the real man, but most of the time, women are shitty judges of character and make bad choices and can't tell the difference.

So if you want to get laid this weekend, just be an asshole. No need to try to reinvent yourself as some kind of awesome man who's his own point of origin with amazing frame in the next 3 days just to have sex. Sure, do that, too, but that takes longer than 3 days. So in the mean-time, if you want to have sex this weekend, be an asshole.

[–]LeatherBoundWisdom37 points38 points  (7 children) | Copy

This misses the point. Being an asshole is a loaded term, loaded with behaviors that the autists doing this shit don't know. Asshole normally means being 100% self interested and not giving a fuck about anyone else, autists interpret it as causing others pain for the sake of it, going out of your way to do so. This is really fucking weird and communicates neediness.

[–]CainPrice20 points21 points  (6 children) | Copy

Yeah. The Red Pill isn't for autistic incels. It's for average guys who are fucking up at sex and dating because they're playing the wrong game and using the wrong rules. They'll figure it out.

An austic incel who's just plain being mean to women is going to continue not getting laid, but it's not like he was getting laid before.

[–]Zech4riah16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

We have to deal with reality here which means that there is significant number of autistic incels in this sub. That should be considered in communication.

[–]doughboyfreshh 1 points [recovered]  (4 children) | Copy

whats the difference between an autist incel and an average dude who's just fucking up at sex and dating if both arent getting laid lol

[–]CainPrice12 points13 points  (3 children) | Copy

Nah. The Red Pill subreddit was started almost a decade ago by a guy in his 30s. He'd gotten out of a long relationship and realized that in 201X, he wasn't having any luck with dating or sex.

Because all of the things that worked in the 1990s and even a little in the early 2000s that got you a girlfriend didn't work any more. And this guy, and guys like him, went to college in the 90s and had been working and in long-term relationships for years. They'd been out of the dating scene for awhile. They missed dating in the early 2000s and now that they were trying it, nothing was working.

The early 2000s are when the casual sex culture went public. The Sex and the City years. Dating changed and hookups became front and center and everyone started marrying later.

So the Red Pill was started by a guy in his 30s who realized that he and a bunch of average frustrated chumps like him were playing the wrong game and using the wrong rulebook. It was created as a set of observations about society and the dating, sex, and relationships game that would help an average guy who didn't know the game learn how to break into the casual sex culture. It helped guys who didn't know how things work figure it out.

An autistic incel who turned 21 today doesn't need to figure things out the way an average frustrated chump who went to college in the 1990s does. He already knows about the casual sex culture and how things work. He's grown up with it. He knows the game. He's just been passed over.

So when he shows up here, he's not learning about the game and how it works. He's just bitching about women because he's bitter about being passed over. He's not going to get anything useful out of The Red Pill.

[–]5Imperator_Red0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I’d be interested in more red pill origin stories. How do you know all this?

[–]CainPrice2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Long before I ever made a Reddit account, I read a whole lot of old shit.

The running theory is that the big guy was in his 30s and started The Red Pill subreddit after a bad break-up, posted a lot of misogynistic anti-woman theory (that despite being true in many cases is still anti-woman), then became a state representative not long after starting The Red Pill subreddit. He got found out a few years later, originally denied it, and when shit started looking bad and he was going to get in trouble for perjury, he resigned.

Most of the really old Red Pill content is closer in scope to PUA, with a slice of anti-woman theory thrown in. Essentially, this is how to get laid if you're an average frustrated chump who's playing the wrong game, and this is why it works and how women operate.

The Red Pill old guard is all practically my age now. I don't think their advice today is nearly as useful for a college kid in 2019 as it was for a 25-30 year-old in 2012. I read The Red Pill more like reading recipes in a cookbook. I'm not trying to make steak tonight and my oven and cookware today are different than what I owned 10 years ago, but if I read a bunch of steak recipes, when I find a cut of meat at the store I've never worked with before, I at least have a general idea how to cook.

I think that's how it was always supposed to work, actually. If you give a chef your recipes, he'll know what to do on his own when he finds meat and come up with his own ideas. It was never meant for weird autistic robots who need to be given a numbered list of steps and a computer program for making steak.

[–]LudwigVanBlunts11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

This shit right here! This shit is some quality gourmet shit.

[–]555WeWolf2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I was wondering what should you do in a situation where you actually did fuck up something? Up until now it seemed natural to me to stand up and take responsibility for your actions.

Small example would be when I got a sort of a shit test that went along the lines of "why did you just leave the conversation yesterday it was rude", and the thing is while she was showing me the texts i myself really thought like shit this does look rude ghosting it like this. First i made a joke, teased her a little and then i just said "yeah i see what you mean, sorry i will keep it in mind from now on".

[–]Rapp56011 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

What if you like masochists though

[–]calcul8rallig8r 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy

After deeper consideration I think this post is white knoghting, bordering on concern trolling. I think this because there is a tacit moral argument through emotional appeal. Nothing is really defined in the argument except for an emotional entity called “asshole”.

The hidden utility of this post is “have self control”

I hereby accuse OP of being a Tier 2 faggot for moralizing

[–]5Imperator_Red1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It 100% is a concern troll post.

[–]2INNASKILLZ2K18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Not a concern troll at all. This is coming from personal experience.

Maybe you think it's moralizing because I said don't be an outright cunt. That coming from the personal experience I've had taking that route. Not a single woman ever came back saying 'omg you're such a turn on'. Every single one said something like 'why the fuck would you say that?' and ghosted or blocked me.

Maybe you think it's because I said be fun, playful and with a sense of humour? Again, that's personal experience.

I don't care about morals, I'm interested in behaviour and the resulting reactions.

As much as many Red Pill guys want to rationalized and hamster that being an actual cunt gets results, I've never seen it. What I have seen is women thinking you're bitter, angry, resentful and toxic and zero social skill

[–]7Tomus1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Its pretty much always this. I have never understood why anyone tought insults and abuse could get you somewhere, except for psycho bitches.

[–]UnbreakableFrame1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Fantastic post. Though I think you could have delved a little more into the gray areas, because there certainly are gray areas.

An example could be the fact that sometimes even a well handled shit test isn't the end of whiney behavior. Sometimes, she keeps going and you eventually have to tell her to stop talking. That has potential to be considered rude, asshole-like behavior no matter how you slice it, but it's also ocassionally a necessary part of being a leader.

[–]2INNASKILLZ2K18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, good point. I was going to delve into that stuff. It was late though and I wanted to keep it simple.

I think that stuff is fine, if it's coming from a natural escalation to someone's shit.

There is a difference between 'hurt people hurting people' and being assertive.

What I mean is, if someone keeps pushing me, especially at work (I work in rehab with a lot of difficult clients) I will start of just holding my ground 'no, you can't break whatever rule'.

Them - 'Oh, you're far too principled and boring'

Me: 'You can keep trying, or learn some patience' (with a grin and calm tone)

Them: 'Fucking hell, why be a hardass'

Me: 'OK, stop right there. I'm a staff member, don't talk to me that way!'.

Maybe a poor example, but there is a point where you put someone in their place. Coming with that energy off the bat just shows anger and weakness.

Women want you to be dominant when it's called for, but if you're walking around with dominance as your first tactic with everyone you just look like an insecure retard.

Wait for someone to deserve the grey area

[–]latinasonly1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

good post man. i myself took the asshole thing too literally and started being a dick. this is sidebar material you got here bro .

[–]SeasonedRP1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This post nicely explains the difference between being a jerk and being assertive and confident. Many men get confused in this area because jerks do better with women than the average nice guy, and thus these men think being mean to women is the way to go. Being assertive and confident, and following other RP principles, works best.

[–]shea_the_great0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

When she’s making you jump through hoops, beta testing you, withholding sex, you’re the guy who simply withdraws attention and talk to other women who might be more sexually available. Whether she’s aware of it or not.

Question. I just ran in to this situation over the weekend. Met a girl at a party in Detroit a few months ago, visited her city over the weekend for a bachelor party and we met up at a boat party. I was really feeling it with her, we were together the whole time plus dancing, she's really hot and fun, petite chick. I was interested. So when the sun was going down and we were really vibing, it was time for a kiss. I went for it and she dodged it. I was really let down. So I said "Hey I'm really feeling it with you, I want to make out with you". She just brushed it off and said something like "I take my time". I was pretty buzzkilled after that because I was in the middle of vibing with her so well. At that point, I debated simply dropping her and pursuing the many other women in the crowd who I knew would have been receptive to some game. That would have been the correct RP "asshole" move, I knew at the time. But I couldn't do it. This was someone who I had planned to meet up with all weekend, whose company I was still enjoying regardless of any physical escalation. So I wound up just not opening with anyone else and she stayed with our group the rest of the night (and fit in well with the guys I should add), and we all had a great time. My night was far from ruined from no sexual contact, but I couldn't help but feel at least a little beta. What do you think? What would you guys have done in this situation?

[–]2INNASKILLZ2K18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Really depends on my own motivations, wants and needs at the time.

If I'm in the zone and possible sex is what I desire, I would up and leave.

Not to be an asshole, but sorry, sitting around and becoming BFF's isn't on my game plan. Time to get up and approach other girls.

You stopped gaming this one. You let her frame win instantly and played into it. Then you TOLD her you wanted to make out, instead of showing her which you can do in a number of ways.

You also need to think long-game. What is sitting around and having 'vibing conversation' going to do for YOU? What do you get at the end of the day?

Now you're the nice guy, who respected her and probably have no chance.

I get it. Good conversation is nice, but I think of the bigger picture. I don't want to be eft with nothing but just reinforcing beta behaviour.

Your wants and needs weren't your priority. Her's were.

The 'asshole' thing comes in when you remove yourself from the convo, withdraw any attention and go game one of her friends.

You're not REALLY an asshole, you're just prioritizing what you want over her.

[–]Protocol_Apollo0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Balance and calibration

Some things you can get away with only reading about but some things like this you can’t.

Only way is to keep approaching, reassessing and implementing

[–]ac7140 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

OP. Wtf. I saved this thread for later and now it’s been auto-nuked.

Explain thyself!!!

[–]2INNASKILLZ2K18[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't tell me what to do, motherfucker ;-)

Seriously, I dunno what happened.

When I'm at my laptop, I'll send you a copy. Pm to remind me.

[–]CoachOcelot0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Reminds me of some great advice I once heard in a film:

[–]Steppin840 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Really like this post OP. Your writing style explains the concept very clearly and the examples are great, not an easy thing to do, thanks. 👍🏼

[–]Hviterev0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It's something obvious and innate, but you can only achieve it when you're healthy and balanced. Unhealthy people will always misread it no matter you explain it.

Gym, health, sleep, social, work.

The rest will fit in naturally.

[–]omega_dawg930 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

good stuff OP... GREAT advice for those who don't know.

my girl calls me an asshole almost daily... and 99% of the time, it's when she wants something and i say, "nah... ain't happening."

iow, just having the ability and willingness to say, "no," makes you an 'asshole' that girls like bc trust me, not many of them hear that word from beta guys.

it means you have a backbone, you don't give in to her every demand, and it's about you, not her.

girls don't like pushovers and soft, whimpering boys. girls know they're full of shit... they just want to see how much you'll tolerate before you, "put them in their place."

[–]rejjiesnortssnow0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thank you, i was beginning to get this confused

[–]idonthavtitsbcimaguy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, these "assholes" aren't assholes at all. They are generally the type of people that other people love being around, living in the moment, and radiating confident, positive energy. This sub really needs to start understanding the difference.

[–]Aestheticcunt19960 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

In short: stop being a fuckin sadcunt, be a sickkunt instead😊

[–]centaursg0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Being an asshole to insult someone or put someone down is extremely beta. Thats why TRP indicates to never lose frame when insulted as it`ll for sure make the person angry. Also being an asshole just to show you are higher on the SMV is another terrible advice that floats around. As men, we need to be the embodiment of personality that others need to follow. Lets strive for that. Not some low life piller who is always complaining, insulting , lacking patience and using others just like a peace of meat.

[–]calcul8rallig8r-2 points-1 points  (3 children) | Copy

Something about this post makes my spidey senses go off and not in a good way... it’s as if there is nothing really being said here

[–]Ivabighairy11 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I was waiting for the Holier than thou with a vague comment keyboard warrior to show.

“Every man should know this stuff” type of shit. Plenty of men DON’T know this, that’s why they are here.

Most can glean information from this post. No one can get anything from your comment.

[–]calcul8rallig8r-4 points-3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lmao your literaly a idiot

[–]35yoGeneticTrash0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This sub is full of autistic neckbeards still in a delusional state about the nature of women. They're trying to convince themselves they can still be "nice guys". Women love men who beat them because they're still not so far detached from their lizard brains back from which where violence was safety. They don't want to acknowledge this.

[–]5Imperator_Red-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

So many people trying to turn the red pill into what they want it to be. It sure would be nice of women didn’t like assholes. Can’t disagree with you there. Unfortunately, they do.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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