Ok. It’s been a long night at work, and I do some serious shit. Time to refocus my mind, shift my thoughts and pass some experience.
When it’s all not making sense, a mentor of mine always told me to ‘take it back to basics’.
So, I’d like to talk about a very basic concept which messes guys up. Being the ‘asshole’.
Somewhere along the line guys heard the rumour that women like ‘assholes’. It’s started a string of theory on abusive relationships, narcissists, ‘bad boys’, and downright cunts.
Not long ago I remember a post in ASKtrp. A guy had literally cornered a girl in his car and hurled insults at her for an extended period. The girl was moved to tears, and the guy was left asking ‘what the fuck is wrong with me’?
Recently a guy asked what it means when a woman says ‘I like a guy who can put me in my place’?
We’ve all seen the kids who ask what’s wrong with their Tinder conversations, then post an image of a conversation string in which they’re push, push, pushing the girl totally. Almost like pushing someone’s head in the toilet and expecting them to meet up and fuck them.
Then, the guys who criticize instead of teasing, act like ‘bitches ain’t shit’ and tell her she’s a ‘ho’.
Autists. I see....autists.
A word of wisdom. Set out to be an asshole, make that your conscious behavioural choices an you won’t get far. Actually try to cause a woman emotional or psychological hurt because someone totally misread Mystery Method, push/pull or ‘status’ and end up wondering why you got ghosted. Why anyone would think being an outright cunt will make her tingle and think ‘OMG, he actually treated me like a cunt, he must be so high status,is beyond me. Be a cunt, and guess how people are going to feel about you?
Good asshole game, the good ‘asshole’ remark that means she’s tingling is the symptom of a completely different style of behaviour;
PUTTING YOURSELF FIRST.
The kind of guy a woman calls an asshole, but wants to fuck, isn’t an asshole at all. It’s the guy who puts boundaries, reason, logic, assertiveness and his own common sense above her and her approval.
When she kicks up a shit storm, overly shit tests, becomes emotional as fuck and basically brings a lot of needless drama to your life, you’re the guy who pulls over the car, unlocks the door and says ‘there is the sidewalk, walk it off on your way home’. Or you pick her up and take her to the porch and close the door. More subtly you can get up off the couch, go to your computer/phone and start internet surfing shit that makes you laugh.
She whinges on the phone about how you work too much, are at the gym too much, didn’t answer her text within ten minuets or engage in bullshit text conversations, you might text her that you’re busy and to only call when she’s calmed down.
You don’t put up with her bullshit.
When she’s making you jump through hoops, beta testing you, withholding sex, you’re the guy who simply withdraws attention and talk to other women who might be more sexually available. Whether she’s aware of it or not.
You’re a strong guy who expects a woman to be submissive and sexually keen.
When she’s trying to get you to do things, asking demands like ‘you should buy me things or take me to these restaurants’, you simply laugh and say ‘no’.
You don’t reward entitlement just to get some pussy.
She’ll call you an asshole. You never where one. You were a totally reasonable, fun-loving guy with boundaries, priorities, assertiveness and ability to say ‘no’. You also value your peace of mind and enjoyment over arguments, drama, demands and hoops.
You’re not an asshole. You just didn’t let her get her way!
That’s the kind of asshole you want to be. A man who runs his ship, puts himself over bullshit and games and doesn’t let others have their way.
Always focus on being fun, playful, charismatic with a sense of humour. Always offer a positive emotional environment. Never set out to be a cunt.
Let her remarks of ‘asshole’ be a result of her own emotional frustration when she can’t just do whatever she wants around you.
If you ever doubt if you’re on the right side of the fence, bring it back to another basic theory; ‘women are five yeard old children’. Would you be an actual asshole to your five year old kid? Criticize them, call them names, lock them up without food and throw a ball at their head? Fuck no. You’d be a real asshole, and probably be locked away where you can’t harm them.
However, if your kids hadn’t done their homework for a week and asked to go to Disneyland, would you let them? If they asked for $50 without earning it, would you give it to them or assign some chores?
They may call you an asshole, but you know you’re simply being responsible and not letting small behaviours turn into them running riot.
Focus on being FUN. Be relaxed, playful, confident. Have some charm and charisma. POSITIVE EMOTIONAL VALUE.
When they start shit testing, that’s when you capatin your ship. You’re only called an asshole because SHE CAN’T JUST HAVE HER WAY. You are your mental point of origin. We are the fathers, the leaders and the captains. We've been told otherwise for far too long.
The true master is he who can uphold those boundaries and steer the ship without EVER BEING BUTTHURT.
She sees she can’t break you. You don’t change your ‘rules’ for her. You’re not emotionally affected by her. Suddenly you’re an ‘asshole’ she wants to fuck.
Stop being a cunt. Nobody likes a cunt.