I'm not sure if what I'm getting are shit tests, comfort tests, or shitty comfort tests, but they all have a general theme of negativity or wrongness. Doesn't matter what I do or say she has to correct me or criticize. One example when taking my son to practice and grabbing a propel drink. "Is that for you or him" "him" as I'm walking out the door. "He doesn't need all that sodium and sugar!" I just keep walking and shut the door. I didn't even have time to respond. The thing that ticked me off was just two weeks before she said those would be good for him since he sweats a lot. So it's clearly some sort of test.
It doesn't feel right for me to agree and amplify here or in any of these negative responses. Agree and amplify would be like, "yeah all that sodium will probably make his kidneys fail" or sugar diabetes... agree or fogging and disclosing may work better in these negativity tests. "You may be right but I believe they're good for him."
I've worked my ass off tonight cleaning up after a party I had last night but I'm sure she'll point out something I did wrong. In this case I could agree and amplify "yeah the house looks like we had fun last night!" Which isn't bad but agree and disclose seems like a good go to that doesn't require any wit (which can end up back firing if my wit sounds retarded) "I still have some things to clean up but I'm happy with what I've done so far."
Thoughts on "negativity tests" "something is always wrong" tests?