Men who are 'in touch with their feminine side'; do you find this hinders or helps your success with women?

by "in touch with your feminine side" I mean having insight (maybe second-hand, but still) into how women experience and percieve their thought processes, emotions... in other words, having empathy (not in a moralistic way, just in 'relatable' way) for 'female mode of experience', having understanding of a woman's point of view, about life in general...

by "being in touch with your feminine side" I don't mean being a pussy whipped emasculated soyboy or anything like that, in fact I would say, in order to really be in touch with your feminine side, you also have to have a sense of what the masculine side entails (even if for some reason not embodying it) and vice versa; being in touch with your masculine energy requires some sort of connectedness to the feminine-opposing pole. As Carl Jung said "...You are a slave of what you need in your soul. The most masculine man needs women, and he is consequently their slave. Become a woman yourself, and you will be saved from slavery to woman. The same is valid for the woman who accepts her masculinity... " obviously by that he didn't mean cut off your penis and dress like a woman (although you may do that) but what did he mean exactly?

anyway I think everyone has some sense about what "being in touch with your feminine side" entails, I'm just trying to explain it for the sake of political correctness

So in my obsevation, attraction is based on polarity; now, ofcourse there can be too much polarity, and balance is neccessary. but there needs to be some polarity in order for attraction to exist

From my observation, women crave someone a bit distant, someone who is always just slightly out of reach; and this is important in a biological sense; detachment. When a dangerous situation occurs, a man has to detach himself from the emotions he feels (fear, anxiousness, anger) in order to think rationally and solve, and prevent that dangerous situation from becoming even more dangerous

in this sense, masculinity is about adversity. women crave someone independent and distinct and separate from the crowd

so.... if I go fully into spiritual shit.... when you realise everything in this universe is one and the same; how can I retain the illusion that I am a separate entity - the illusion that is neccessary to bring the female and male energies together?

I guess this is moreso a rhetorical question. so I'm gonna boil it down to this; some men, being in touch with their feminine side, realise they don't need a woman - having a feminine presence already inside them. BUT these men may still WANT a woman. BUT these men often lack the LACK OF INTROSPECTION and the extroversion that is pretty much neccessary in order to attract her

so, being in touch with your feminine side enables you to understand women more; and this gives you an opportunity to either exploit that to your own benefit (theoretically at least; I say theoretically because when you are in touch with your feminine side you realise your pain is my pain, and you don't want to cause any pain to anyone.... so even though you may have an opportunity to exploit; you choose not to) so this understanding either gives you an opportunity to exploit; OR this understanding of women makes you TOO similar to women in a way, in order for there to be any magnetic attraction in the first place

so, if this made any sense to you at all... what would you suggest to these men? (oh and also the title)

thanks