New RPW former EXTREME feminist SJW

silvernikki · 2019-10-20T21:00:08+00:00

As someone who is also trying to lose weight to find a captain, I would suggest that you focus on behaviors, not results. You won't go from 230 to 136 (normal bmi) in a week, or a month. If you're anything like me, waiting for your scale to motivate you won't work. You can't see 2 pounds weight loss in the mirror, and waiting to see that runs the risk that you'll lose motivation and end up right back where you starter, if not heavier.

Instead, try to start new habits -- counting calories, walking every day, eating vegetables with dinner -- and reward yourself for that.

Good luck! I wish you well on your journey.

DetteBavis · 2019-10-20T21:01:06+00:00

You can do it! A piece of advice that has always helped me is to do the next right thing. Don't look one month into the future, don't even look one day in the future. Just look at your next decision, what would the girl I am trying to become do? And do the next right thing. One by one, you'll get where you need to be.

organicsunshine · 2019-10-20T23:07:07+00:00

Become the quality of woman as the man you wish to attract. This can take many forms, but it begins with self care.

feminineandpretty · 2019-10-20T22:17:33+00:00

Calling nun mode!

Lose weight, focus on yourself. Find hobbies you ejoy, try things you want to try like baking and cooking or any new hobby that interests you. DON'T focus too much on buying feminine clothes (try to buy cheaply) until you're at your goal weight. Because if you have to buy all new clothes at 200, 180, 150, 120, etc pounds it'll rack up.

EmphasisAdded14 · 2019-10-21T14:47:25+00:00

Ahhh I was sooooo nervous about posting and all the comments have been soooo encouraging and helpful. Thank you all so much.

melitele3 · 2019-10-20T20:55:25+00:00

It doesn’t matter how fast you go as long as you don’t stop :)

The most important thing is to know exactly why you are doing the things you are doing. You are not loosing weight to just merely look prettier and appear “worthy”. You are loosing weight because you truly love yourself. Loving yourself doesn’t mean accepting how you look. Loving yourself is treating your body with respect that it deserves and taking care of it, so it can flourish and serve you through your life. Healthy body doesn’t keep you captive. Healthy body doesn’t limit you and your life experiences only because of stamina or size. Remember that so you don’t loose your motivation when it is hard.

Other than that, your friends have right to make fun of this group, but if you feel there is something here that you think is true, you don’t need to let them know. You do you. You can read and engage in discussions here, ask questions about concepts you aren’t sure of and try to figure out what YOU think makes sense, not what your fiends or people online tell you.

First step is to stop thinking about oneself as a victim. Start thinking of yourself as a master of your own faith and fate. You know that if you put your mind and work to it, you can make pretty much anything to happen!

ShadowInSoul · 2019-10-21T05:20:30+00:00

A little tips here... you're in a time trial now.

Consider it like a thesis, you have 1 to 2 year max to finish it. You can't sleep on the laurels, you need to get to the gym 3 days at the week minimum (Monday, Wednesday and Friday or Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday, it depends that it fits your schedule more ... letting your body rest for two days, and then you return to the routine) 1 to 2 hours to exercise and begin to improve what you eat and cook in home (it's affect 60% of your weight loss). I have to be honest, I don't know how much you know about The Red Pill, but generally men of value date younger females (18 to 25) and it decline from there especialy about compromise (25 to 35). I don't say you don't have a chance, I say hurry up.

Now it's the time from your brain develop. In the moments you have free time (even when you have 1 or 2 hours before bed time), read and learn, about various topics: femininity, fitness, diet, social skills, culture, etc... and practice skills too (cooking, camping, dancing, etc) men to commit thinks like "apart from the sex what you offer?" is precisely for this. Maybe you don't believe me, but I chatted with a lot of college girls through the years, and even they being better in the scores compared to me (because everything is about memorizing things but not analyzing why)... but apart from the homework or study, they talk dumbest things i ever heard and comparing notes with foreign male friends, they complain about the same.

"The difference between men and women, is that men realize that is nothing special about them, that is why they work to improve themselves. Women instead thinks that they are so unique and special so they don't (it's a saying that we have among some men). You don't have to fall in this, but most important when you reach a good mental level, be humble don't become a braggart, be humble about it (being a naggin or show off woman is other thing men hate the most).

And from the love ans sexual section, you must read "The Practical Guide to Men" from Dr. Shawn T. Smith.

That's all for now.

Slay_Like_Buffy · 2019-10-21T12:47:48+00:00

I do keto and intermittent fasting. I also got a personal trainer and weight lifting. I lost 35 pounds and gained a lot more male attention. Currently in a LTR with an amazing man who loves me. My health is better than ever and my skin is better. I started from 200+ pounds and still have a long way to go.

Change your motivation. You have to do this for yourself and for your own health. The men will come as a positive side effect. You don’t want to be 40 years old with heart disease and diabetes. Good men are attracted to confident women. Assholes are attracted to insecurity. Treat yourself and your body as THE PRIZE and trust me you will find a man who will put in the work to impress you (not the other way around).

FYI a man with no job isn’t a good captain no matter how strong or attractive he is. He can’t provide or protect and therefore can’t lead. If it worked out with this man you would have been submitting to a man while paying all the bills and would have been miserable. Your insecurity won’t allow you to see that he did you a favor so you can level up.

cassandrarose39 · 2019-10-20T20:22:22+00:00

You will find someone! Just keep going in improving yourself and the right man will come along!

You don’t have to accept anything short of a relationship from a man. Just say no that you are looking for a commitment only.

gimpgirl555 · 2019-10-20T23:41:50+00:00

1) I would tell you to moderate your expectations. Both when it comes to weight loss and men.

2) I would tell you to write a list of what you can offer a man and see if there is anything that you can add or improve on. And I mean real things not "I'm a good listener and I like movies".

3) Stop hanging out with your feminist friends.

4) Be realistic about what you can achieve and what your options are.

MissNietzsche · 2019-10-24T01:36:45+00:00

This is called nun-mode. Honestly, it’s going to take you around 2 years-ish to lose the weight. You could do it faster, but then rebounding becomes a huge risk (and then you WILL regret not being patient and just taking the two years to do it, because I’m the end, you’ll be overweight for longer).

I’m studying to become a dietitian, and if you can, see one. Or if you can’t, I’m telling you right now, the ONLY way to lose weight is to consume less Calories than you burn. Diets like keto are just a means to get that Caloric deficit. If you have any other questions, feel free to message me.

You can start dating in about 6 months to get your confidence up, but in all honesty, change takes time, and the closer you are to being an ideal, feminine woman, the higher quality men you will be able to attract.

Please don’t believe that weight is everything though..because it isn’t. It’s a lot, yes, and morbid obesity is a HUGE handicap, but it’s still not quite everything. It’s why supermodels get dumped while you see ugly women still getting married.

But yeah, you’ll find more resources for your situation if you just look up nun-mode.

EDIT: As all the other commenters said, if you truly transform yourself, you’ll look back at this man and be glad he didn’t commit to you, because it gave you the opportunity to do WAY better.

Man_of_Hour · 2019-10-28T14:26:41+00:00

Would you say that a lot of your old extreme feminist friends were like that because they weren’t fancied by men? So they get sour and then it’s “I’m alone because I CHOOSE to be, I’m INDEPENDENT.”

I’ve always wondered that because I rarely see any attractive women talking about feminist stuff. Actually, the more attractive the woman, the more feminine they seem to be.

afterthe_fapocalypse · 2019-10-21T06:22:37+00:00

you rock. welcome to RP. I'm on the guy side and lifting and getting my shit together career-wise, and it's good to see a sister doing this. you just took responsibility for your situation and I admire that intensely. lots of great advice for you here looks like, u/ShadowInSoul posted some especially great stuff to attend to. all the best with your campaign and I look forward to you feeling A LOT better.

LateralThinker13 · 2019-10-22T13:41:12+00:00

Any additional advice as I go through this sort of transformational period?

Nun mode. Make fixing up your body a second job. Spend your efforts making yourself actually attractive. You'll feel better and your mental state will vastly improve.

HB3234 · 2019-10-23T01:58:04+00:00

Follow your gut instinct to stop dating for now and buckle down into nun mode. You need some time to recalibrate your values.

A man who has no job is not "captain material" for anyone. A man who does not desire to commit to you in half a decade is absolutely not "captain material" for you.

Until you build your self esteem up and guard your space/time more, you're going to keep running into people who will waste your time.

Title	New RPW former EXTREME feminist SJW
Author	EmphasisAdded14
Upvotes	20
Comments	26
Date	October 20, 2019 8:10 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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