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Day 8665, still haven't cold approached a single girl.

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November 15, 2019
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Recommend me field reports or something so I can get hype and try to end this suffering. Even buddism I am studying tells us we should face the suffering. Still I am shy. Kind of feels it's because I am not enough lol. I wrote alote but I will just say this and read the comments. A exemple is: if someone pointed a gun at me and said aproach I would faint.


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Title Day 8665, still haven't cold approached a single girl.
Author holyrasta
Upvotes 123
Comments 96
Date 15 November 2019 01:13 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/295339
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/dwqlqm/day_8665_still_havent_cold_approached_a_single/
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[–]MotiMorphosys188 points189 points  (19 children) | Copy

If you want to approach, break it down and start as small as possible.

  1. Walk down the street and make eye contact with a pretty girl and smile. You will get a response. It will probably be just a smile. Or maybe she'll look away. Either way, you made eye contact and smiled. You accomplished the step one. Good for you. Now move on to step two.

  2. walk down the street, or past a girl, make eye contact, smile, and say hi. Doesn't matter if she doesn't respond. As long as she knows you said hi to her, you accomplished step 2. You're moving forward now. Go to step 3.

  3. Walk past a girl, make eye contact, smile, say, "beautiful day isn't it". You might be nervous to say more than hi, you might stumble over your words, you might Mumble. But get it out. she will probably respond with something pleasant and move on. Congratulations, you just accomplished step 3. On to step 4.

  4. repeat step 3, but this time come up with a good reason to sit down next to the girl when you say it. Maybe on a bus, at a class, crowded Starbucks with not many seating options except next to her... Etc. see if she engages you. Whether or not she does, if you said "beautiful day isn't it" as you sat down next to her, you've accomplished step 4. Time for step 5.

  5. you can do this however you want, whether it's walking up to a girl, walking past a girl, sitting down next to a girl, whatever. finish with an open-ended question. "Beautiful day isn't it, what brings you here?" If she responds in any way, you have successfully completed what most of us would consider approaching a girl. And now something that has been haunting you for the past x amount of days you have conquered. Good job. Report back.

[–]holyrasta[S] 47 points48 points  (3 children) | Copy

Wow this is much better than the plan I had to aproach a girl in a party this weekend in front of all my friends. Thanks. This is home work. I will say what happens.

Thank you again.

Edit: And this reminds of the approach anxiety program at good looking looser but much more to the point.

[–]1z1z2x2x3c3c4v4v17 points18 points  (1 child) | Copy

Might I add onto /u/MotiMorphosys great list.

You can do this in a mall. Go into every store, up to every cashier, hostess, waitress you can find, and follow his advice. Start with making eye contact and just smile. Day 2, continue with a hi, day three, ask they how they are doing, day 4, ask them about them... "wow, you look busy today?" Ehether this takes you a week, a month, or a year, this is the process. Welcome to class.

The point is you need to retrain your brain that its OK to talk to girls, and its OK to get rejected. Yes, you will rejected... a lot. Most girls may ignore you... but some will respond, and even fewer will engage you back. That's the point you are looking to get to.
The IDGAF what the reply is, cause you are moving on, doinf your thing, and when you meet someone who engages you back, you continue to ask her about her.

[–]adriano5157 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't do that, overthinking an approach or putting too much pressure on it will make you fail and not approach.

Although peer pressure might work i dont see this being healthy for you, you'll become dependant on having people to prove yourself to them.

[–]okuli12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy

Walk past a girl, make eye contact, smile, say, "beautiful day isn't it".

Wouldn't work in Seattle, we won't have a beautiful day for another 6 months. /s

[–]Greaterbird8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

"Dreadful day, isn't it?"

[–]hoopingblob7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

OP write that down. This is top notch advice!

[–]Incognito613 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Man, I would give you gold for this, if I just had any money. Thanks !

[–]cwdizzle2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Saving this

[–]lifeisweirdasfuck2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

You recommend a lot indirect approaches. What about direct ones? "Hey, what's your name?" "You look interesting?".

[–]MotiMorphosys11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy

Those are great as well.

I chose indirect stuff because it helps shift the focus off of the girl and onto yourself.

the reason why this guy (and a lot of guys who aren't ballsy enough to admit it) get in their head about approaching is because they read all this stuff TRP about guys who have approached and then gotten their dick sucked. Then they put a mountain full of expectations on their approach before they even take a step towards the girl.

They're focused on the outcome of how she's going to react.

They're worried that she's going to throw them a curve ball they won't know how to respond to and look like a looser

They fear the public humiliation

the way that I broke it down, all of the steps have nothing to do with the girl. Accomplishing each step is only dependent on your action, not how she responds to it. This makes each step actionable, and your success does not depend on the girl.

My first night out, my goal was to sit at a bar for a half hour. Bars make me very uncomfortable for some reason. I ordered a Sprite, and made some horrible small talk with the cute bartender. But I achieved my goal, which was to sit there for a half hour.

[–]lifeisweirdasfuck6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Very well said. Being able to correctly set our expectations and goals is 99% of the game.

It's like the guy who enters the gym and expects to deadlift 300lbs the first day. This is not how it works. Small, apparently irrelevant steps are necessary to get to the big goal.

I really liked your example about going to the bar and just sit there, and still congratulate yourself for going, instead of telling yourself how retarded you are for not having approached anybody (this is me recently).

This activates a positive feedback loop where you are more prone to keep going, because you are making small, positive wins. And you are getting closer to the big goal, despite how slow the process may seem.

Personally, I don't like indirect approaches. I always feel like it's fake and the girl is going to sense that. Being direct leaves me with no "what if's". If I tell her "You look interesting" and she straight out rejects me, there's no misunderstanding. While if you approach indirectly (without escalating), you'll never know if that girl was genuinely into you or just up for a talk. Even though, I'm going to be honest. Direct approaches still brought me a lot of rejections.

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[–]MotiMorphosys0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

  1. First time you've done this? Nice going.

  2. Use the high you have to do it again, and again. If this one girl looses interest, you'll feel shitty. If you do this 3 times and 2 loose interest but one sucks your dick, you won't feel so bad about what the fuck you could have done better/differently/over-analyse the fuck out of the 2 that didn't work.

[–]farfrommyhome0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

God, I needed this so badly.

[–]holyrasta[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

What was there I missed it lol.

[–]Snowaey0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This is EC-level advice my guy, good job.

[–]1predator0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Walk down the street and make eye contact with a pretty girl

Fail in the first sentence because they dont make eye contact at least with me and i am not a bad looking guy.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Summon your inner attention whore and do something to make them look.

[–]idontmiind13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

use all your might: your brain power, your analytical skills, whatever you've got, to make yourself cold approach. If you were a 'do' person, it wouldn't have been a problem. But since you're a 'think' person, that's your best bet.

Also progressive overload, ofc. You wouldn't squat 400lbs on your first day at gym. Nor would you approach a 10 on a mall first day and lay. Strategize. Win, anyhow.

[–]adriano51510 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

You don't need hype nor motivation, you need discipline.

  • Hit the gym.
  • When you walk dont look down, if you see someone hold the eye contact (girl or not) this will help a lot if you must look away look sideways never down. Same when your talking to someone hold the eye contact (not forever, you do have to look sideways or it might come off as creepy)
  • If your shy your voice tonality will probably also be very accute, work on getting a deeper tonality and being more loud.
  • Always have a slightly upward chin when doing anything and your shoulders back, this will help project a more dominant person and someone whos doing good in life.

All of this stuff is relatively easy since you wont be interacting with people and will work really well on the long run, but you do need to approach to work on the shyness.

[–]1XXXMersenne21 points22 points  (7 children) | Copy

Only reply you'll need:
  • Hit Gym
  • Eat Clean & Lean, supplement B12, Vitamin D3, Zinc, Magnesium & Drink Fishoil
  • Read this & start the required reading here.
  • Start going out A LOT: 4-7 nights a week.

Listen

Download

You're set

Execute, No questions, no faggotry. Just check off the items on the list. within 2 months you'll be happier and living in a different reality to ~100% of people.

[–]holyrasta[S] 3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy

Wow this is like going to the doctor thanks. This post was why I joined Reddit.

[–]1XXXMersenne4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

waste of both our time (except maybe for a few eager passers-by) unless you make a plan of action & re-organize your life to start doing those things on a daily basis!

[–]holyrasta[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Dude how i am suppose to download this?

[–]1XXXMersenne1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You need to use a torrent client:

https://www.bitcomet.com/en/downloads

[–]0mnipath3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

See that's my biggest issue with all of this. I would have to quit my job in order to be able to go out that much. Like TRP will have to be my main life project in order to make it successful. How the fuck do y'all have all this time?

[–]1XXXMersenne6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

You didn't take the reply header autistically m8. Everything is there.

so do what it says without trying to R1, R2, △, △, ▢, O your way to the perfect scenario. I started off doing Fridays & Saturdays with alcohol. FFWD 3 years I've created a structure that allows me to go out 7 days, sober, learn A LOT, pull and internalise a reality I find to be ideal.

I work 9AM to 5PM in accounting, Monday to Friday; sometimes, like tomorrow, Saturdays.

I just really wanted to learn because I really sucked. You're too comfortable and so the density of your contemplation of creative solutions is much lighter. You need to be having mini orgasms thinking about doing getting better.

I moved out at 20 into the city centre. Godly blessing: I walk to work, gym & the clubs. I haven't even passed my driver's li

I just started fucking doing it–It couldn't be helped. First it was like 4-5 days a week, then I found venues for the other days: Student nights Mon-Fri, High end bars & lounges Weekends.

I Managed my energy levels via healthy food & supplements, constructive thought, Listening to RSD 24/7 on my phone (making playlists of topics where I'm stuck), Meditation Concentration, evening Gym before I go out and PROGRESS. That's what fuelled me.

There's an audio in that last link "Tyler's secret to effortless motivation" where he talks about tipping the "motivational see-saw" of doing stuff. it's absolutely excellent and so dizzying when you "get it" that you'll watch it countless times for Jouissance.

It's now 00:07, I was meant to head out half an hour ago! Just do what I told OP and you'll be good. much more polite to hit me back once you've check off some stuff!

🤝

[–]alpha_bravado0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Beyond awesome

[–]Domebeers8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

Stop fucking reading and start fucking doing. Buddha rejected asceticism, which is a fancy word for thinking.

To get over shyness you have to expose yourself to people and discover it is not scary to talk to people. The best way to do that is in a safe environment. That means: TAKE AN ACTING CLASS, or TAKE A PUBLIC SPEAKING CLASS.

That's the trick. Take the class, learn how to speak to people and in front of people, your fear of that will die, and then you will be able to approach.

Remember, buddhism is good for game because it speaks to the illusion that is the world of phenomena, which is a round about way to say: OUTCOME INDEPENDENCE, and it also gets your mindset to seek the elimination of the ego: REJECTION DOESNT MATTER, SO THERE IS NOTHING TO BE SCARED ABOUT

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Recommend me field reports or something so I can get hype and try to end this suffering

Start small as u/MotoMorphosys says.

Do only part 1 if that's all you can do. If you're stuck at part 1, keep doing part one until you can.

[–]IcyBear710 points11 points  (9 children) | Copy

Day game is hard mode. Like really hard mode. It was theoretically easier in the early 2000’s when things like “pua” was really unknown. Nowadays people get that theyre being approached by some newbie and might kick up a fuss.

If you’re gonna approach, do it in an environment where people want to be approached and arent busy with life shit. Also most people use supplements as a crutch. Like 99.9% of people either use alch, molly, weed, or whatever to lower inhibitions. Until life grinds u down to the point where u naturally dont give a shit anymore, its ok to use what 99.9% of ppl r using to help u approach

[–]spiceb0ss21 points22 points  (6 children) | Copy

Imagine popping molly and then going to the mall to pick up girls

[–]jaznex3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

with grinding theets lol

[–]spiceb0ss8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

Gonna be hard to pick up girls when you start taking off all your clothes and rubbing your body in front of the Urban Outfitters

[–]jaznex4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

sweating and moving to an imaginary beat

[–]Eartripping2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ayy bb you believe in love at first sight?

[–]holyrasta[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I am omw right now.

[–]VaN__Darkholme0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Better to boof it along with some crack

[–]MotiMorphosys4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

I don't trust that statistic and would NOT recommend using any drugs (including alcohol). In RSDTylers pickup days, he had a video about NEVER drinking when out gaming girls because it sets the frame that you can't do it without the crutch.

If you're going to use a crutch, a wing friend isn't bad, especially if it's a female.

[–]IcyBear70 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

k well i guess all those other college age kids who do it initially who only to grow out of it once they get more experienced dont count

[–]RaidenDark4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

You need more "fuck it" in you. Stop giving a shit about what's going to happen. Do whatever you need to do to cultivate that mindset. You are 100 years too early to expect a decent outcome. You're not going to get one until you've practiced, practiced, and practiced some more. You won't get any practice in if you don't approach.

Stop thinking of it as suffering and start thinking of it as field research.

Start with "hi" and if things go south just wait for her to leave while you keep trying to make conversation and don't follow. Try again with another girl, maybe on another night. Yeah, it may look cringey as hell but what you need is practice, did I mention that yet?

What you need is the ability to talk to strangers without shitting yourself. You can only get that buy doing it so much that it no longer bothers you. Try both sexes and stop thinking of it as pickup, that way you can trick your mind into being okay with it. Besides, you could probably use some bros.

Gaining skills is literally just a matter of putting in the time. Now go and clock some hours in.

[–]lifeisweirdasfuck2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Here's a comment I saved a year ago from asktrp. I don't remember whose comment this is, if you know, let me know and I'll give credits:

Whenever I'm stuck on an approach I always ask myself these three questions that I remember seeing on TED.

What if I succeed? What are all of the possibilities that could happen between you and this girl? This is what gets you motivated to approach.

What if I fail? Think realistically on this one. What's the worst possible thing that this girl would do to you in the public setting that you're on right now. Most women wouldn't downright embarrass you and make a scene. Unless she's a total [email protected]&! but then why would you want to deal with that anyway?

What if I do nothing? And this is the question that gets to almost everyone. It make take a few girls for it to actually sink in and realize it, but this is the worst feeling you can get. If you fail, well at least you tried and gave it your best.

If you do nothing, then you don't move forward, grow, and learn from your mistakes. You're actually doing the opposite by growing accustomed to doing nothing. No matter how much material we read and watch and on here. The best way to learn is in the field.

[–]holyrasta[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Don't know news for me thank you.

[–]PhaedrusHunt2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

What are you afraid of, not getting laid?

News flash. You're already not getting laid..

What have you got to lose?

[–]Adorable_FecalSpray7 points8 points  (3 children) | Copy

Girls aren’t the end all and be all of this world or of RP.

What else are you working towards and making progress on? What passions, hobbies, lifting, career are you setting goals on and using as tools to make yourself better and bring fulfillment to your life?

That being said if this girl thing is keeping you from progressing in life, as Nike says, “Just do it.” Maybe you WILL faint.

[–]holyrasta[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

I need the later part of this advice since I have been at the top of my social circles for some time now and have had money and a job.

I just need to Nike it. I will probably faint tho... Thanks I needed to vent.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Just go out and do it. If you faint you faint its not the end of the world

You only go up from here

[–]WhoSweg3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

You don’t get better by complaint you’re bad.

[–]kclanton803 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

There's no way around it but to do it. Your making it out to be harder than it needs to be. Rejection is a good thing, and you gain more respect for yourself by trying and failing. Not trying is what is the killer for your esteem.

Just remember one thing. Being rejected could be for all kinds i reasons totally unrelated to you. Instead of approaching to get a number, just approach and start a conversation, don't worry about getting the number.

Maybe she will ask to exchange if it goes well enough. Try approaching some guys or elderly people, just to get used to starting conversations with strangers. This can help build confidence as well

[–]abomba241 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Tell that voice in your head to just shut the fuck up and go for it. It's normal for it to try to protect your ego, etc, but in the end who cares if the result is a girl throwing a drink in your face? At least you went for it and learned a lot about what not to do next time you approach

[–]thatguyhanzel1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Give yourself a 3 month goal.

Say please and thank you with solid eye contact to a store worker (male or female).

Work your way up, get more comfortable with eye contact at random women without being creepy.

Strike a very short conversation (with for example the person serving you coffee).

Set a daily goal with having social challenge.

By 2 months you should be able to strike at least 1 long conversation with a female (any female, even a female you're not interested in).

Whenever you reach that checkpoint, go for third base. Don't have to cold approach women, maybe talk to a friend of a friend, have a hobbie cos that makes you interesting.

I spent all my years at college with only making 3 or 4 moves on women. But in my last year I spent the first half developing developing myself. By the end of the year I made more friends in 6 months than I have in 3 years almost out of desperation. The following summer break I felt more happier than I ever have, I got a girlfriend (not anymore btw) but I still feel on top of the world. If I knew what I know now 3 years ago, if be a totally different person. Don't regret it

[–]holyrasta[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Solid. What do you mean by third base exactly? Props on evolving. I was kind of contrary I was a social as fuck in highschool. But I never ever asked a girl out with fear of refection and anxiety made me not play the game long enough and here I am.

Would be virgin would not be tinder. But that stoped working now. Need better pics. But I wanna work on game.

[–]thatguyhanzel0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Set goals. Home run is the good shit, weather it's sex or a relationship. Third base is where you're confident with talking to a girl, flirting and keeping her interested. I've used tinder and deleted over and over again, I find that going on dates with someone you met online really makes you more nervous. That's why I prefer meeting women in person, that way they know what they're getting if I set up a date.

Just an extra bonus tip, if you know a girl you like is regularly at a certain place, for example the same bar every Saturday afternoon or the same free period at college where they spent time in the library, Leave the conversation when it's at its peak no matter how good it is, they'll be excited to see you again, that's where it's more appropriate and likely chance of success to ask her out. I've done it before and it's worked twice this past summer.

[–]mickenrorty1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Do you have a wingman or wingmen?

[–]holyrasta[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I don't talk to my friends I like x girl. That would end up in me talking to her or something.

Now that I think about it....hum..

[–]rizzyfromthe91 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Start by just saying hi, how are you to everyone

[–]holyrasta[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I am kind of like that. It's the "I like u" part that gets me. Feelings am I right.

I am following the do it even if u faint advice.

[–]bumbuff1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

TRP doesn't mean you have to be a god at approaching girls.

Make it so they approach you.

[–]holyrasta[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

This. I don't feel like I am open at all. I am reading the art of seduction by Robert de greeny (something like that lol) already read the game by Neil Strauss. I think the side bar has more than what I have already seen need more of that.

I can make 3x5 pull ups now from 0. And I am getting stronger.

Is there a routine I can run to make a girl talk to me ?

[–]bumbuff1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Confidence. Aloofness. Indifference to women in your presence - but not to the point of being an arrogant asshole.

There's dozens of things women pick up on - not just your body.

Smell, clothing style, how you talk.....these were the three changes that I feel did more than just working out. With that being said I still work out a lot.

But I started dressing nicer, wearing subtle bits of good cologne, and started talking more slowly and with purpose. Which usually means I talk less than I used to.

[–]JurJur1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Get in the habit of taking small notes after every approach. It allows you to look back on them and see what works and what doesn't. I usually jot down the location, time, something about the girl i remember her by (name if i get it), how the approach went, and how i feel about it whether it be good things or bad things

[–]alpha_bravado1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Dont FAP for as long as possible. Itll make it easier.

[–]holyrasta[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is actually big since last time I dated was in a 2 month no fap I was a beast. But I was tinder. Not cold approach. Only addicts get this.

[–]1Red_Pill_Brotherhood1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

A thousand mile journey begins with a single step.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Just give up dude. Better seamaxx to get some Asian pussy

[–]holyrasta[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

What is seamaxx?

[–]Alzatorus1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

The last cold approach I did was in a club with a girl that barely spoke any English. She said she didn’t understand, so I made a dramatic show of getting down on one knee and holding out my hand - she laughed and took it - I then took her to the dance floor and within 5 minutes I had my hands on her ass and her tongue down my throat 😂 - moral of the story, sometimes you don’t even need to speak.

[–]holyrasta[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I did that once. I can't like slowly seduce.

[–]Alzatorus1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I think the top comment is a great way to go about day approach - wishing you the best of luck bud :)

[–]rprookie1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I’ll keep things simple for you. One word. . . And One word only.

Balls.

[–]holyrasta[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

😔👌

[–]astralreflection1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is why I fuck with this sub. Lift a fellow brotha up.

[–]_cyrus981 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just fucking do it. It’ll probably go wrong but you’ll become familiar with that feeling in your stomach and realize how to ignore it. Remember that you’re in power, and you have to keep frame to remind her of that.

[–]holyrasta[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks everyone. Even the dudes saying I am gay.

[–]Magahaka2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Remember my first cold approach... Me and my friend saw a nice girl in front of us. He was like, dude look at her. I was like, fuck maybe I should chat her up. He was like do it, nobody gives a fuck. And I went all in. I got so much adrenaline in my blood that after I shook her hand and got her name I can't really remember the whole conversation.

P.S Don't go up to a girl and say that you like her. When I was in USA I learned that it is okey just to chat with random people. I was waiting in line for a card. Saw a girl and immediately started talking to her. It's fun, start with random people or random girls that you're not fantasizing about, it will be easier first.

[–]holyrasta[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Haha that's cool. I was always shy to comment about girls with my friends since the fainting part and all. Like I can talk with them. It's just the I like you part as a men that I am not acustumed too.

[–]Andrew543212 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

  1. Approach a dude.
  2. Accept you are gay.

[–]holyrasta[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Actually gay dudes approach me all the time. I think it's because I am kind of tiny and hairy and it's their type or what ever. Nor the less I want pussy.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Lift

[–]StephenHawkings_Legs0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Gay

[–]Intendto0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That’s not what face the suffering means. It means have no will to change the suffering. Escape INTO the suffering. This is an insight called emptiness. It takes a good amount of work to acquire but is incredibly rewarding. In fact I had an strong experience with it today (see: The Mind Illuminated for instruction) and kept it going into one of my classes. Saw a really cute girl and “used it” to get her number.

[–]Emery820 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

How old are you

[–]holyrasta[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Make the math with the days. I am 23.

[–]sir_shitfuck0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

If you were really studying Buddhism then it would be very apparent that one of the core tenants is to relinquish all desires, including sexing women.

[–]holyrasta[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It's like that but not 100%. And I can study it and adapt it to my self and still date.

[–]izzyinjurious0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

One that helped me was the natural by rad max there’s a torrent if you look for it and watch it. It’ll help you with social skills and game, but in a natural way.

[–]smgtn0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

There's a chemical option to nuke shyness and anxiety, so maybe not acceptable to some people. You can take a one off dose of phenibut. That shit is what takes you above and beyond the "99 level of IDGAF".

if someone pointed a gun at me and said aproach I would faint.

Yeah... make sure you never say this shit to anyone in real.

[–]holyrasta[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Cause they would point a gun at me or something? Lol.

About the drug is that like alprazolam? Cause I have taken that. It works but it did not break me.

[–]smgtn1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

No, this shit is likely more potent than xanax. It doesn't work for some people, but works on most. It was invented for russian astronauts and works by nuking stress, anxiety and other stuff, but without impairing other functions which is what many other drugs do. Basically what I'm saying is this shit turns you into a party animal rather than a drooling zombie. You can't fuck with it though and only use it like once a week.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Read the sidebar

[–]mksu7110 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Cold approaching doesn't yield any results anyway, you're better off focusing your energy on meeting girls from social situations.

[–]MotiMorphosys5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Results from cold approaching: 1. Improves social skills. 2. Conquering approach anxiety = facing a fear and overcoming it. 3. Other people see = social proof 4. Makes you bold to ask for other things in life (a raise, time off, etc.) 5. Helps you deal with rejection. 6. 3 of my cold approaches in the past 2 years have led to my dick in her throat.

Cold approaching is a fundamental of TRP. Sure there are easier ways to get laid, but cold approaching is the ultimate "if you want it, go ask for it and DGAF about the bullshit reasons your mind gives you about why it won't work".

[–]Pdubzilla-1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Cold approaching doesn't yield any results

Lol, what? How many girls have you cold approached?

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[–]holyrasta[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I know right? A dude's gotta eat.



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