35yrs; 145lbs; 5’8”; 12-14%BF Bench: 185lbs for reps Deadlift: 225lbs for reps Squat: 145lbs for reps (weak I know) Read: NMMNG, WOTSM, MMSLP, MAP, WISNIFG 2 kids: 4.5 yrs & 1.5 yrs.
Context: Since kids, my alcohol addiction severely eroded my wife’s trust in me. 2.5 months ago, after a night of drinking and not coming home, she threatened divorce and wants “space.” Big wake up call. Quit drinking and joined AA. Wish I did it years ago. Realized I’ve been a big bitch since having kids— sought validation through sex cuz it dropped off, the whole nine. Barf. Anyway, been sidebar reading, AA meetings regularly, lifting (for several years) , and generally have come a long way mentally the past two months. I’m in the best physical shape I’ve ever been and feel fucking great. Business is good. Money flowing in.
Unfortunately I fucked up the all important trust aspect of my relationship. It seems that once it’s broken, it’s just something that may never come back. I could be Superman, but the elephant never forgets.
Question: How do I best give my wife the space she is asking for, provide comfort that I am “here”, and still hold frame and be an independent attractive man? Is it possible to rebuild trust?
This is really more of just a victim puke, than a simple question...
The plan is to keep improving myself. That’s really all I can do. I may just have to accept that we’ll have to move on separately. It would be a shame though.
I was curious to hear the collective wisdom of MRP.