Is having sex a part of vetting for women?

Orange_Paisley · 2020-01-14T22:52:28+00:00

Definitely. If there is no sexual chemistry, there is no long term relationship. We're long past the days when women were expected to "lie back and think of England."

2020-01-15T01:09:53+00:00

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Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2020-01-14T23:45:06+00:00

nothing says dating success like posting on forever alone and incel subs

king_of_red_alphas · 2020-01-15T01:41:36+00:00

Absolutely. If a girl is a starfish, moans like a chew toy, or is like “ewww blow jobs are gross!” I’d like to know that sooner than later as I will not be sexually compatible with somebody like that.

2020-01-14T23:09:40+00:00

I predict a dead bedroom in the ops future.

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2020-01-14T23:13:49+00:00

good luck and god bless

FatmanSlim93 · 2020-01-15T01:13:19+00:00

Just tell them you fuck a lot so they can decide to date or leave. Some dudes will be down and others grossed out, so it’s a win win for you.

Speaker7 · 2020-01-14T22:57:35+00:00

You are a self described dominant vagina owner that vets men through sex. Ok. What's the discussion? Everyone seeking a LTR is constantly vetting every minute of every day.

ArtsyHermit · 2020-01-14T23:05:23+00:00

I like to lead the relationship. So I describe myself as wanting a female led relationship to possible prospects. It means I choose when we have sex. That could mean within the first hour of meeting or 5 months of dating until it happens. It's up to me. If he can't allow me to lead, to choose when sex occurs, than he's automatically not relationship material for me. He already fails my sexual standards and wont be good in bed.

This just sounds like what FDS teachers their followers. You'll most likely attract beta providers with this kind of thinking but if you prefer to dominate your men in bed then you are on the right mindset.

Joey_Lopez · 2020-01-14T23:51:58+00:00

It's your life, do you.

Being good at sex is a must for most people I think. It is for me anyway.

hammerhaunts · 2020-01-14T22:47:39+00:00

why ask a question you know the answer to

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Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2020-01-14T22:56:47+00:00

Does that mean you are proactive and approach men?

v1cgt · 2020-01-14T23:10:27+00:00

Good idea to vet but sex compatibility can be thought and worked on to a degree. Others things like vibing ect cant.

In my opinion it's best to see if that person is good match for you first. Values. Ect...

Then have sex, if its meh you can work on it if he or she refuses then they not right for you.

XtoDoubt · 2020-01-14T23:52:55+00:00

Imagine waiting five months to have sex with someone who has it immediately with someone else.

YasuotheChosenOne · 2020-01-15T00:08:03+00:00

FlavFal · 2020-01-15T00:22:43+00:00

It means I choose when we have sex. That could mean within the first hour of meeting or 5 months of dating until it happens. It's up to me. If he can't allow me to lead, to choose when sex occurs, than he's automatically not relationship material for me

That's what I do, minus the having sex within the first hour part.

Bright_Itempas · 2020-01-15T01:05:21+00:00

Yes, sex is often a part of vetting.

No, I don't care how you navigate your kinks, and I don't see why you're looking for commentary on your personal sex dynamics.

Is this an exhibitionist thing? If so, ew, and also, rude.

SmurfESmurferson · 2020-01-15T01:22:28+00:00

What a very weird way to put this

Yes, whether or not to enter into a sexual relationship should be consensual on both sides. If one side wants to wait 5 months, so be it. It’s also ok for the other side to not want that, and peace out

To answer your main question, yes, sex is a part of vetting. But not the way you put it - I vet for sexual chemistry with men. If I don’t want to pounce on them immediately, we won’t work out. Every LTR I’ve had began with sex on the first date

CHAD_TDK · 2020-01-15T03:04:25+00:00

What do you think of this approach?

That's an interesting approach, for the sake of equality, I wonder how this would sound (hypotetically):

I am a guy, I like to lead the relationship. So I describe myself as wanting a male-led relationship to possible prospects. It means I choose when we have sex. That could mean within the first hour of meeting or 5 months of dating until it happens. It's up to me. If she can't allow me to lead, to choose when sex occurs, than she's automatically not relationship material for me.

KazROFL · 2020-01-15T03:25:16+00:00

Why would you wait 5 months and waste your time if it's so important lol?

i_have_a_semicolon · 2020-01-15T04:59:21+00:00

Sounds cool. I like leading things but not so overtly.

ArtsyHermit · 2020-01-15T05:19:31+00:00

An honest question: by you deciding when yall have sex, say you decide it to be 3 days after you meet the person. What happens if he isn't comfortable yet and would like to wait?

Because if you want the man to be ready the second you are and want sex every single time you do, you're gonna be posting on r/foreveralone for a long time. That's not how LTRs work and at best you are looking for a kink based relationship with a sub.

Sex is part of the vetting process 100% because you cannot end up with someone who doesnt sexually interest you and be happy. You can also be the dominant person in the relationship without seemingly like you are trying so hard to be a control freak.

lilsaihah · 2020-01-15T05:19:49+00:00

It means I choose when we have sex.

Not responsive to partner's needs?

I don't have a hell of a lot of sex but this'd be a hard pass for me.

blackedoutfast · 2020-01-15T18:55:16+00:00

What do you think of this approach?

It sounds like you are a weirdo reddit woman who is definitely on the spectrum and doesn't have a normal social life. You want to be sex positive and dominant and all that because that fits with the cool woke 21st century whatever identity that you want to embrace. But in reality you are just very sexually inhibited and probably freak out with anxiety when you have to interact with another person IRL.

And you came up with this whole "vetting process" so that you could tell yourself that the reason you aren't fucking/dating anyone is because no men meet your high standards. Because you don't want to face the fact that the real reason no one is fucking/dating you is because you are unattractive and socially retarded.

Wallstreet3 · 2020-01-15T19:00:12+00:00

Yes, you gotta see the woman's turn. Who she is single is advertising, putting her best face forward et al. What she is after, that is what the woman is in an LTR.

cipherfiend · 2020-01-15T20:05:30+00:00

Does it explicitly define that the core of that relationship is most likely based around sex? And if so, does the role of leading the relationship in other few things is also carried by the partner or everything inside the relationship is led by you?

The result points only to a submissive partner inside and or outside the bedroom. It obviously means that you are highly compatible to a sub. However if taking this concept to every non submissive types as partners, you will have challenges with communication, compromises, comeuppance and resentment.

sex as a vetting process approach is optimal for you and there is no shame in it. Will it work with a non submissive partner?

2020-01-15T22:19:23+00:00

100%. Also discussing fetishes, kinks and making sure neither of you had to have FOMO when you're deep into the relationship.

TinySackBigShaft_ · 2020-01-14T22:48:43+00:00

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Tyler_Gatsby · 2020-01-15T01:30:59+00:00

In all seriousness, yes; if a woman has a somewhat demanding sexual appetite that needs to be satisfied- she should use sex as a vetting tool. If just having a Range Rover and a vibrator or massaging shower wand isn't the peak of what she wants in life.

ArtsyHermit · 2020-01-15T01:12:06+00:00

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insertcredit2 · 2020-01-15T07:33:19+00:00

If you fuck someone within an hour of meeting them they are going to think you lack impluse control and are an unstable partner. So unless they are some guy with no other options they're not going to want to be in a committed relationship with you.

If there even is such a thing as a guy who is willing to date you for 5 months without sex then he's a guy who doesn't have other options. The only way a guy who isn't totally desperate is going to wait like that is if you're basically a virgin which you're very obviously not. If you are lying and pretending you are a virgin he's going to quickly find out you're not when you have sex and he's not going to be happy about being mislead.

Perhaps this is a system that works for you as you're looking for a female led relationship so you're going to want guys who are a bit pathetic and this attitude is a good way of removing men with opinions and self respect.

Title	Is having sex a part of vetting for women?
Author	ArtsyHermit
Upvotes	2
Comments	113
Date	January 14, 2020 10:45 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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