Posted to r/sex and didn’t get much on this, so posting here to see if anyone has any advice to share with me.

24f here. Feel like I’m going a bit crazy because it seems like with every sexual partner I have, it is just such a process teaching them what I like, what turns me on, what I need to get off, and it’s STILL not fulfilling for me.

Male partners are always telling me I’m awesome with communicating needs and it makes it easier for them and all, which is a good sign I guess, but like.. there’s still so much missing.

For example when eating me out I’ll say I like them to use lips. They do it, but next time completely forget and just lick the clit hard with pointy tongue until I tell them again. I have to keep reminding guys to touch the rest of my body during sex. And to initiate with touching and kissing, not poking an erection into my ass. isn’t at least some of this stuff common knowledge??

A guy friend of mine suggested I might be asexual and I was considering it, but after a few people messaged me with reassurance from my last post on r/sex I honestly feel like I’ve been gaslighted a bit in the past to believe this is my fault and that I’m too “complicated”.

It’s really sad because I feel like I’m doomed to never have good sex. I’ve experienced it once but had to break it off due to distance so I know that it’s possible. But it’s so hard to find these guys and begin to enjoy my sex life.