This happens often with black nice guys. They weren't "thug enough".

SilverGryphon · 2018-12-09T13:21:05+00:00

TL;DR: The biggest racists towards black men are black women.

ALTMGTOWACCOUNT · 2018-12-09T14:01:44+00:00

As a black man myself I agree with the post. Seems if I don't have a criminal record, beat her, or call her bitch every other sentence I'm an uncle tom.

Dating black women is a fucking nightmare and I only did it for a short period of time because it was all I knew. Once I got into a snowbunny and didn't see 10 wigs in her home, the lack of weave they had, and they spoke decent english I never went back to Black women.

TitySuker · 2018-12-09T13:17:46+00:00

Not black people, black women. Most black men understand this story very well.

dantesrage13 · 2018-12-09T14:09:49+00:00

I know this story all too well. Now I exclusively date outside my race and black women are the first to "comment" on it. I've said many times that as a black man, the most racism I've experienced has come from black women.

kevin32 · 2018-12-09T13:18:41+00:00

Mirror.

This happened with Will Smith. Also, this comic comes to mind.

ramaga · 2018-12-09T17:30:52+00:00

This tweet is the story of my life. When I was a young black man and struggling to make something of myself, black women didn't want anything to do with me. I was too nice, acted white, not cool, not a thug . . . the usual short-sighted, self-defeating BS.

Now that I'm massively successful, many of those same black women who discounted and disrespected me years ago try to shame me into being with them and fix their lifetime of bad decisions for them. They treat me like I'm a race traitor when I refuse and instead date interracially.

Will Smith said it best: "If you were absent during my struggle, don't expect to be present during my success."

American black women are garbage. Men view them as the least desirable group of women for good reason.

razeus · 2018-12-09T16:41:17+00:00

As a black man, this is me to a T. How am I a sellout when you wouldn’t talk to me in the first place?

byronshadow · 2018-12-09T17:09:23+00:00

Men get accused of being babies about women from their ethnic group dating out but women are just as bad if not worse. Tons of white women resent East Asian women, for instance. I knew a tall blonde Chad type with a half-black daughter. When they're out black women dote on the daughter but most white women make snotty comments under their breath.

And I think this is a major gender difference. Most men who aren't depressed incel types try to get a better job and work out to attract a mate. A woman who feels outgunned on the dating scene opts for shame, heckling and other childish behavior rather than self-improvement.

dragsofgoons · 2018-12-09T13:45:38+00:00

Not a black dude but I have seen this all too many times, some say that the Black Families were just the first to be hit by the 'family deconstruction agenda' and that the White Families are next but this is too fucking much; modern black women don't seem to have any short of commitment to their men, white women at least pretend to be nice before stabbing you in the back for their cash and prizes at divorce court.

Use_VOAT_Instead · 2018-12-09T16:57:39+00:00

Look up Tu-Pac explaining how women would tell him he was "too nice". He goes from being to nice to "Break her ass and shake her ass!"

Ultramegasaurus · 2018-12-09T16:49:06+00:00

Crime and single motherhood is so rampant in black communities because black women encourage it, in part at least.

0kool74 · 2018-12-09T17:08:19+00:00

Yea some of the ESPN shitfucks said the same thing about RG III because his fiancee was white. Apparently being a stellar QB as well as a Heisman recipient means you're supposed to be a thug POS.

Xxtourlife · 2018-12-09T18:38:39+00:00

I agree.As a Uni Student,Black Girls see me as an Uncle Tom unless I can be a comedian to her,Have 6 packs and Does what the "cool kids" do.

Funny thing is,Almost all the black girls I had tried to get in High School now have kids before 24 with Baby Mama Drama.Even one is in jail right now.That beats that.

I've had it with them.

AshyBoneVR4 · 2018-12-10T07:14:37+00:00

I've had this happen MANY times. But with girls of all races. I look like a thug. I'm 6'6" built like a football player, have dreads to my chest, and sag my pants. All that being said, my vocabulary regularly catches people off guard, I'm polite, and get mad at anything. Because of that, I get told that I don't act like a black guy, or I'm white washed, or too nice. I honestly think it's hilarious considering I live in New Mexico. The African American percentage out here is 2.5%. There are more Native American's in this state then there are black people. And yet, when they meet me, they get disappointed that I don't live up to their black expectations.

Massive_Cope · 2018-12-10T00:51:51+00:00

Childish Gambino is based af.

He has plenty of music describing how he was treated by girls in his younger years. It wasn't great.

Now, take the average black incel. The vast majority of us have likely been told we act 'too white'. Your best chance of ascending as a black man would be a with a black woman, but you're 'too white' for them. Women of other races that like black men typically like the stereotypical thug. Too white again, I guess.

It never began.

imdar3ald3al · 2018-12-09T17:53:35+00:00

Yall see the title. The truth has been spoken.

Aurelian1960 · 2018-12-10T05:25:11+00:00

I've got the other problem. Being exotic. White, native American (Hilawah Tribe), Jamaican, Irish, English. White women get jungle fever very bad around me. Too many marrieds to count. They want to get slammed but no relationship. I have been MGTOW for awhile now.

jdill3 · 2018-12-10T23:12:20+00:00

You go looking for hood rats, you get hood rat responses. Also, pretty sure White guys aren’t like “I’ve had a bad experience with a few White women, guess I’m never dating a White woman again.” Give me a break.

studentsensei · 2018-12-09T17:59:24+00:00

I prefer black women to casually date or fuck, but not to marry or engage in a serious long term relationship with. Nothing personal but in my experience they come off as combative and neurotic. I "can" be "thuggish" if I want to be, but that side of me only comes out when I'm with my very close friends or when I'm around other "thuggish" black people. It's just speaking a different language to me.

I like how sweet and supplicating mixed girls can be, and I have a thing for Hispanic women, as well as white women (who see me as a novelty but that's a different story) but black women's herd mentality kills me. They think every black man owes them something. All they do is push black men to date outside their race.

thewrecker8 · 2018-12-10T17:30:47+00:00

I find it comical often the race card gets pulled and blacks are screaming inequality. But they'll have no problem saying that someone is "too white" or "acts white".

GSFleming · 2018-12-12T22:55:14+00:00

As an older black man, i've been down that road. Too nerdy, talked white, couldn't dance, etc. I got off that road 20 years. I wish I could say that dating women of other races offered a better experience. It doesn't. Just a different experience, with just as many potholes and roadblocks. One difference though is that non-black women don't complain about "losing their men" to other races nearly as much as black women do. There really is no equivalent calls of sellout or uncle tom among non-black women.

derickjLSA17 · 2018-12-10T18:40:07+00:00

Black women are not worth the time of day. Black women want men they can control. I dated a black woman and she told me that I had to be in a specific university for us to be boyfriend and girlfriend. I transferred to the university but it wasn't because of her but because it was my dream school. During my time at my new University, I started to date Asian and Latina women and the differences are too big to ignore. I'm dating a Latina right now and today, she woke up 30 minutes before me to cook breakfast and brew coffee as well as iron my work clothes. I've experienced similar to Asian women.

Luffysstrawhat · 2018-12-11T21:33:51+00:00

1000 percent this. Once I got out of college and tried to date in my hometown back in 2012 I was considered a "Coon, sellout, uncle Tom " black women deserve what they get

edge_lord_super_17 · 2018-12-09T20:29:12+00:00

I'm intimately familiar with this situation. Aside from being a millionaire, that is. When I was younger, black girls said I talked like a battyman because I didn't speak a certain way.

Bluetinfoilhat · 2018-12-10T06:58:09+00:00

Why didn't the nerdy/nice black guys date outside of their race before the money?? Why wait after?? They are proving the opposite point.

Moneyshot7319 · 2018-12-11T06:18:39+00:00

I fuckin swear this was my whole situation growing up. To this day I don’t even bother talking to black women because they think I’m corny.

JimmieRussels · 2019-02-04T15:59:17+00:00

Still better to be a tall black guy than a short Asian or white guy.

Being a short black guy would be the worst.

TouchedOnlyByMom · 2018-12-09T23:08:58+00:00

I remember this fine ass caramel skinned psychology professor in my psychology class. I sat in the front ride side of the class and she was so fine. She was well spoken and let me pass despite my dumbass having definitely failing the class. I should have asked her out on a date or something.

Cristoff13 · 2018-12-12T22:30:33+00:00

This reminds me of 1990s drama "ER". There's a storyline where a smart, driven black doctor is briefly paired with a white women. The actor felt uncomfortable with this storyline and had the writers end it. Now I got the impression he was concerned that this was somehow setting a bad example, that hard working black men pairing off with women of other races was depriving black women of husbands. There is that perception in the black community I believe. But reading through this thread, you can see things are more complicated.

nsfwalt900 · 2018-12-14T15:34:35+00:00

Y’all are going to get this sub banned. See you guys on voat.

FourthAge · 2018-12-10T00:07:37+00:00

Laughing my fucking ass off off off off off off

kevin32 · 2018-12-12T13:18:30+00:00

u/where_muh_good_mens, u/sleepyweaselisawake, u/SirKolbath, u/sat_ta, u/moorekom, u/loneliness-inc

If you notice a post receiving an unusually high number of upvotes within days of posting, consider stickying it for awhile to prevent it from being buried with the other posts while giving those who haven't browsed the sub recently the opportunity to comment. At our current subscriber count, I consider 500 upvotes a high number.

Of course not every post crossing that threshold needs to be stickied, but with this one a lot of black men are still sharing their stories in the comments.

dottywine · 2018-12-25T16:22:53+00:00

He needed to date an African.

TheTyke · 2019-02-04T19:11:58+00:00

But didn't he also say he would never marry a white woman because 'they couldn't understand'? Donald Glover's a faggot racist.

jdill3 · 2018-12-10T14:50:51+00:00

Super late to this party but OP is complete bullshit.

thatzombieoverthere · 2018-12-10T08:30:01+00:00

CG is correct but race-mixing should be illegal again.

Roastie_haiku_bot · 2018-12-09T15:43:58+00:00

Maybe they were hesitant to date a man that calls himself 'Childish'..

DeathtoMainers · 2018-12-09T14:04:40+00:00

Why would you date a she-boon? Most of them are obese and have multiple STDs.

Title	This happens often with black nice guys. They weren't "thug enough".
Author	kevin32
Upvotes	1454
Comments	211
Date	December 9, 2018 1:12 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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