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Vibrator update.

by MassiveLeftist | March 21, 2020 | askMRP

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I ended up buying the vibrator as a surprise. I want to introduce new sex ideas to the room.

She flipped out, said she will never try it. Saying she has a low libido and a toy won't fix it.

She is not religious, but ended up seeking marriage advice from christian therapy sites.

These sites told her I watch too much porn... blah blah ( I rarely, rarely watch porn, only to edge train ).

After she said no... she said she's willing for sex 3x weekly (up from 1x monthly).

It is better, but only 1x weekly, and she hates long, fun sex, still quickies.

Anyways, the other night I got a little tiny sex toy she was comfortable with previously...

She opened her legs and relaxed, was enjoying it way more than normal.

I decided fuck it, got up, and grabbed the sex toy.

She didnt refuse, infect she opened up for it and let me have my fun. ( I love giving pleasure, and receiving pleasure).

After we were both done.. we decided to play some video games... I was stoked about something new in bed.

After ten minutes.... it hit me.

Hey babe, you changed and were way willing. How many times did you use that without me knowing?

She went from refusing to ever use it.... to using it 6 times in the last 2 weeks.

I smiled... laughed, and told her good job, at least she finally is thinking about sex.

Internally.... I am shitting bricks. Used how many times in secret, not telling me, knowing it's my fantasy?

I ask her, so did you plan on telling me?... "no, I'd be embarrassed. "

It's fun, kinky, and new.

However... I finally realized a female hamster mindset. I realize so much more of the red pill, how easily females can lie, deceive, and frankly not care.

I've been told for years... she has no libido... sex monthly. To find she masturbates 3x weekly with this.

She has a libido, just not a libido for me.

Abundance mindset, frame,gym, lifting, diet....

I have work to do.

My thoughts currently:

  1. What else is she not telling me. Feels lied too.. massive distrust.
  2. Should I care, focus on me.
  3. Maybe this is good, and can push for more kink down the road.
  4. Maybe I opened some fucked door earlier rather than later.

Honestly, good she's finally having sexual thoughts. Good she's having more sex with me. It still isn't enough for me....and I realize not enough for her.


Post Information
Title Vibrator update.
Author MassiveLeftist
Upvotes 23
Comments 81
Date 21 March 2020 09:54 AM UTC (3 months ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/356909
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/fmcops/vibrator_update/
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[–]stoicstephen57 points58 points  (1 child) | Copy

The sex toy's frame is stronger than yours.

[–]MassiveLeftistCucked by Machines 2.020 points21 points  (0 children) | Copy

My name label checks out.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red12 points13 points  (9 children) | Copy

I love vibrators.

My top five:

Make sure you get a high quality docking port charging for them all.

Best for bruising her flower

Best for you. I have 2x for redundancy.

Best egg for public

Best Anal for either

Best vag + clit for her

[–]PillUpAss8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

I find I save many of your comments, for many different reasons.

[–]Balls_Wellington_Main Event + Coronavirus4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Username checks out

[–]part_wolf3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Anal: the fifth love language.

[–]tom-anonymous4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's u/red-sfpplus 's number 1 love language. That guy sure loves his anal.

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Really enjoy the vag + clit one.

No 2-speed magic wand? Corded version of course - moar power.

[–]z2a1-90 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Good shit

[–]MassiveLeftistCucked by Machines 2.00 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The first one... is in the pussy on the G... then the D as well at the same time?

[–]InChargeManRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

ROFL at the car charger for the first one.

[–]HumectantMenace0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Do you just enjoy to use these on your wife?? My husband doesn't like using vibrators on me, although I know they would make me cum frequently for him and get me turned on.

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret26 points27 points  (11 children) | Copy

She's just not attracted to you, and more attracted to vibrator Chad. That should tell you something.

Your flair says it all.

[–]MassiveLeftistCucked by Machines 2.0-1 points0 points  (10 children) | Copy

Yes, as to why I posted this update.

The flair is old :)

This post is for the example... and possibly proof of hypergamy.

[–]RoccoPinkman4 points5 points  (9 children) | Copy

Is this even for real? I can’t tell if your just trolling

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret8 points9 points  (7 children) | Copy

Think he is just a normal askmrp retard.

[–]RoccoPinkman4 points5 points  (6 children) | Copy

I’d argue OP is an extra special type of askMRP retard and should be awarded some kind of special retard status to reflect this.

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret[M] 5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy

It's not Wednesday. I've been looking for good excuses to bring back the Wenesday Retard traveling trophy.

[–]RoccoPinkman0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Talking of Wednesday retards, what happened to the last one? Did he leave or get banned?

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret[M] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Daddy_Thundercock was the last one. He was banned and deleted out.

[–]RoccoPinkman0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, I wondered where he had gone.

[–]AlohaMaui8080 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Something like,

cucked by Robo-Chad while drinking paint

???

Or maybe

The Rabbit gets laid more than I do

[–]MassiveLeftistCucked by Machines 2.00 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The first is better

The second one is just truthful.

[–]MassiveLeftistCucked by Machines 2.0-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

I am not trolling.

Why?

[–]Redrover85722 points23 points  (2 children) | Copy

Stop being so needy damn. You want your wife to have a higher libido then get butthurt about her masturbating? You need to be really careful with this because it’s fucking hard to get women to open up about what they want and like. And if they do and you shame them for it,or if she feels the slightest bit embarrassed you’ll never start to get it out of her again. You being upset she’s masturbating is purely validation seeking on your part. That’s it. It isn’t anymore meaningful than that. The real issue here is you are negotiating for how often y’all are going to have sex. “She agreed to 3x weekly.” Now you’ve turned sex into a load of towels.

[–]BootySlayer9112 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

And if they do and you shame them for it,or if she feels the slightest bit embarrassed you’ll never start to get it out of her again. 

 Exactly what happens.  Years ago stbx tried on lingerie that just didn't fit her well, I pointed this out like a dick breathed faggot and lingerie days were gone forever..

[–]MassiveLeftistCucked by Machines 2.00 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, its fucked.

Load of towels is so fucking true.

To be honest .. I promoted her in all of this, told her its exciting and I am happy for her libido... and fucked myself in other areas.

[–]tom-anonymous7 points8 points  (4 children) | Copy

OP you need to stop giving a shit about any of this. Her use of the vibrator, the frequency of sex - all of it. Stop it because you're going to make your head explode.

And the video games? I don't know - maybe it's a millennial thing. Gen-X here with a Gen-X wife. Nothing evens out masculine / feminine polarity more than spending the evening playing video games with your husband. I'm sure all those high fives makes her pussy wet. That's the shit we'd do back in the late 80's and early 90's with chicks who friend zoned us, but we were too stupid to know it at the time.

[–]MassiveLeftistCucked by Machines 2.00 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

If not sex, how would you spend your evening ?

I don't watch TV, and rarely play video games.

She plays games daily and usually will ask me to play while she watches me.

[–]AlohaMaui8084 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

usually will ask me to play while she watches me.

Ahhhhhh it makes even more sense now.

She wants to fantasize about you actually accomplishing something worthy of being considered a man in her brain.

And since playing video games is already her chosen method of escaping her reality, this just kills two birds with one stone.

OP you better get your shit together, and as always, not for her.

Robo-Chad is going to turn into a real Chad the moment Chad decides to show even a little interest in her, because she damn sure isn't interested in the IRL you.

Bonus points to her if when you discover she's been cheating on you with IRL Chad she says "use it or lose it"

[–]MassiveLeftistCucked by Machines 2.00 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Exactly my fear and why I am here.

[–]tom-anonymous1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

She plays games daily and usually will ask me to play while she watches me.

Shit man. I just completed an 8 hour work day on a Saturday building my company and dream. That was after I went to the gym (my neighbor owns one and gave me the key while it's closed to the public).

I'm heading home now and we're going to enjoy a family dinner. After that we'll hang out with the kids for a while until early evening. By then it will be around 8:30 or 9pm and my wife will usually invite me to our room so I can hold her in bed while we watch some TV before having sex and falling asleep. The TV is on for background noise while we make each other feel good - not to watch. That's when she likes to also talk (about family, friends, working out, advice, etc) and I listen and chime in if I feel like it.

My wife had a busy day too. She doesn't have time to play games daily. When she's not working out, teaching, cutting hair, taking care of the house and kids, doing laundry, cooking dinner, etc - the last thing she wants to do is play a video game. There's way too much going on in life for us to do that.

Listen, I'm not trying to judge you or put down your activities. However if you and your wife have a lot of time to play video games (and you have kids), then you lack a true mission, structure and you're on easy mode and your wife is following your example

[–]PurpleVeteranRed Beret6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

Fuck, this was me 4 years ago, literally. Check my post history. I actually confronted her, bawled my eyes out, and sulked for over a week.

Then I swallowed the pill. Set up a home gym, started a C25K program, and started working on my shit and stopped worrying about her vagina. Lost 60 pounds in 4 months, read the entire sidebar, and started rebuilding my frame brick by brick.

My god, I can't believe how long I walked on eggshells... trying to live up to some storybook image that she had in her head. Turns out, she really didn't know what she wanted, and she was waiting for me to establish our roles as captain and first officer. It took me over 25 years to figure that out.

I haven't posted in a while, but here's what I've learned since then:

  • Porn is a crutch. Stop fapping. Own your sexuality, your desire, your needs.
  • Vibrators are just toys. She's discovering what she likes. Let her learn and teach you.
  • She's not attracted to you. Become a physical specimen, become a man who owns his shit.
  • Treat her like a teenager. Don't get sucked into her drama. Tease her and lead her.
  • She wants to be fucked hard. Stop waiting for her to be "in the mood", and make your own move.

In the end, this is your journey, and not really about her at all. Winning is not about lifting more, getting more sex, or any other method of keeping score – it's about becoming the best version of yourself. Do the work, fix yourself, and the life you want to have will follow.

I wish I had the time to hang about here and post progress reports or school the newbies, but frankly, I've got too much shit on my plate and many more miles to go before I am done with my journey. Thanks to all the men who kicked my ass back then, who rode the red-pill train with me, and those who continue to call people out on their shit.

[–]MassiveLeftistCucked by Machines 2.00 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I needed to read this tonight. Thank you!

I just picked up a home Gym, I will try to do what you did over 4 months.

[–]MassiveLeftistCucked by Machines 2.016 points17 points  (8 children) | Copy

Note:

I asked why she tried it. She said she finally felt the urge.

I asked... can you hold the urge until I get home?

She said no, use it or lose it.

She paints her libido as a random mythical creature.... grab it while it's there.

This directly shows the RP, woman, hypergamy and cheating. She literally just told me it's how it works.

Replace dildo for a buff stud when the urge hits and the opportunity is there.

I have work to do, not for her, but for my personal growth... this fucking BP is a cancer.

[–]stoicstephen10 points11 points  (5 children) | Copy

I asked... can you hold the urge until I get home?

You don't ask for shit, you demand it.

She said no, use it or lose it.

She's in charge.

She paints her libido as a random mythical creature.... grab it while it's there

It's only random for unplugged men.

This directly shows the RP, woman, hypergamy and cheating. She literally just told me it's how it works.

Yes she's cheating on you with a dildo named Chad.

Replace dildo for a buff stud when the urge hits and the opportunity is there.

Why don't you just build her a sex robot?

I have work to do, not for her, but for my personal growth... this fucking BP is a cancer.

Lifts, reads, OYS?

[–]MassiveLeftistCucked by Machines 2.0-1 points0 points  (4 children) | Copy

I cannot disagree with any of this.

I havent OSY yet... as I am still BP cucked.

Lifts: Weight: 195 Heigh: 5"10, blonde blue, and funny as hell. 315 bench Squat 285 Dead 345

I am working out... but I have a beer belly I am trying to remove.

Reads.. Nmmng, wysnifg, sex god. And most mrp.top post, rational male, and RM medicine.

The best book for me so far is.... MMSLP.

RM, RMM I need to reread after all of this shit.

Like I say... I am a massive BP guy... This shit hurts my cucked brain.

[–]Grundlestiltskin15 points16 points  (2 children) | Copy

The fact that you felt the need to state your hair and eye color is hilarious.

[–]ChokingDownRPRed Beret3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

And listed it under lifts before posting his lifts (which seem to be made up numbers, just based on squats being low relative to bench).

[–]MassiveLeftistCucked by Machines 2.00 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Of course

[–]stoicstephen2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

And?

That's no excuse for not writing in the weekly OYS.

[–]ManguZa9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy

What she say is simply that the sex toy is more attractive than you.

[–]MassiveLeftistCucked by Machines 2.05 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Of course.

[–]ManguZa2 points3 points  (9 children) | Copy

The thing is that she don't even lie to you... she just don't know herself and what she feel change on an ongoing basis.

[–]MassiveLeftistCucked by Machines 2.00 points1 point  (8 children) | Copy

Maybe.

She did tell me I reinvent myself every 3 months and she cannot keep up.

But I disagree, some deception I feel.... but I think it can be manipulated to a positive.

[–]ImNotSlash1 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy

You're not clear the path you're on which makes her unclear where she's going. You're like a pinball machine.

[–]MassiveLeftistCucked by Machines 2.00 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy

Externally, to her, no. I am one direction.. positive.

Interally... still freaking out.

[–]ImNotSlash0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Maybe work on that rather than what vibrator to use.

[–]pssiraj0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Mixed messages just within these two comments OP

[–]MassiveLeftistCucked by Machines 2.00 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Yeah, I guess to resay..

When speaking with her... I acted positive, encouraging.

Internally, a bit angry and or feeling lied to. I believe in hypergamy so fucking much more now.

In fact, when speaking to her... and even my sisters lately... I can only see a hamster brain.

No offence to women, but I am starting to see how conversations can be manipulated and they all start to become predictable.

[–]AlohaMaui8081 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Trust me, she sees through your alleged

I acted positive, encouraging

Straight to the

angry and or feeling lied to

You're not a good actor. Your questions about this subject at all prove to her your real emotions and doubts on the subject, no matter how you try to mask it.

[–]pssiraj0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

More importantly, she's told him she sees through it and he doesn't believe her for some reason.

[–]MassiveLeftistCucked by Machines 2.00 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Your right, and I am lying to myself.

[–]RoccoPinkman3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Maybe you should change your name to ‘massivefaggot’ that post sounded like it was written by a teenage girl.

Looks like she’s about to branch swing, with the vibrator.

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Comedy Gold. Cheers, OP!

This is going straight to my Covid Lockdown Bois Whattsap Group.

[–]MassiveLeftistCucked by Machines 2.00 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Tell them I said Hi, and to come give me advice.. or bust my balls.

[–]Esssport0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I'm sure they have better things to do.

[–]slappysq0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy

What are your lifts and BF%?

[–]MassiveLeftistCucked by Machines 2.00 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

Posted in comments... but it is probably 18-21%

Specifically stomach fat.

[–]slappysq0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Lifts?

[–]MassiveLeftistCucked by Machines 2.0-1 points0 points  (3 children) | Copy

5"10 195LB

315 bench 400 dead 285 squat

Fat stomach.

I think 22% BF, but if I lose this fucking belly fat... probably 17%

[–]redirectedfs4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Nice, your DL went from 345 to 400 in three hours. 315 bench 285 squat?

[–]MassiveLeftistCucked by Machines 2.0-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nah, my dead is 375, but I could do 400.

Bench for sure is 315, and squat is 285.

My squat started around 135.

Doing 5x5... or was before the corona virus.

[–]rockstarsheep0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

So, would you want to do you? If not, then why should she?

[–]part_wolf0 points1 point  (9 children) | Copy

Sex is more frequent and she’s allowing you to take the lead? What exactly is the fucking problem here?

[–]xX_bullitt_Xx1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

No he's not wrong. It sounds like he had to seriously try to negotiate desire and she's definitely not giving him validation sex, just reward sex. "I have work to do" is the exact thing he should be thinking about.

[–]part_wolf1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Agreed about the negotiating desire.

"I have work to do" is the exact thing he should be thinking about.

Yes, and if that were the only thing he was thinking I would respect it. The problem is, he says "I have more work to do" and then posts this garbage:

What else is she not telling me. Feels lied too.. massive distrust.

Insecurity. Weakness.

Should I care, focus on me.

Rudderless. Missionless.

Maybe this is good, and can push for more kink down the road.

Massive covert contract incoming.

Maybe I opened some fucked door earlier rather than later.

Absolute nonsense.

[–]MassiveLeftistCucked by Machines 2.01 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is why I post here.

Thank you

[–]xX_bullitt_Xx0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I always miss on the fucking covert contracts. Good call.

[–]MassiveLeftistCucked by Machines 2.00 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

None so far.

Concern, doubt, bp cucked....

I guess is her lie and trying to hide something I wanted to to for weeks... but I dont own her... I just bought a game to the table she is uncomfortable with... she said no... but then tried and liked it.

Win win so far...

Ny first post on all of this is why I have my flair.

[–]part_wolf0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

/u/xX_bullitt_Xx is right, you're trying to negotiate desire. That's not a win.

Also, I know how you got your flair. I'm the one that suggested it.

[–]MassiveLeftistCucked by Machines 2.01 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

I love the flair... and thank you. It opened my eyes.

I have so much work to do still.

This post is my update of my bo cuked state... and work through how it goes.

[–]part_wolf0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

See you in the OYS thread.

[–]AlohaMaui8082 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You won't.

[–]AtlasCuckd0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

With your writing style, I could literally hear what your thoughts sound like. You know, the voice in your head. It was the voice of a creepy anxious man with hurried speech, who is furiously masturbating in the corner of his room hoping not to get caught by his mother

Lol okay I made myself laugh

[–]MassiveLeftistCucked by Machines 2.00 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Lmfao

[–]learning00070 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

What's with the video games

[–]MassiveLeftistCucked by Machines 2.00 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I am realizing how fucking bad it is. She just fucking games all fucking day.

[–]Tambamwham0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

There is no such thing as los libido. She’s just not attracted to you. You still have the wrong mindset.

[–]MassiveLeftistCucked by Machines 2.00 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I've been told for years... she has no libido... sex monthly. To find she masturbates 3x weekly with this.

AND

She has a libido, just not a libido for me.

​

I completely agree with you.Check my last post about Corona Virus tonight.

I used to be OK with a quickie, but I am so fucking sick of that shit. When I try anything longer... she just fucking complains that it's taking too long and that she likes quickies.

[–]Tambamwham-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

I can’t remember the last time I went more then a week without sex. And I ever do I’m making changes... married or not



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