I've spent most of my life hearing women like guys who

  • Make them laugh

  • Are fun and entertaining to spend time with

  • Make them feel like a queen

  • Carry interesting conversations that make them (the guys) seem the brightest person in the room

  • Are smooth talking and make friends easily

BUT this does NOT correspond to what I've seen along my life. Almost every time I saw a classmate or coworker managing to sleep with three different women a week, did he do it because he presented any of those qualities? NO. It was because he was tall, or handsome, or ripped. Some of these dudes were really dense, or never talked, or even were rude. Not smart, not kind, not interesting, not funny, not fun. But got laid like no one else. Physical attraction was the reason, not attitude.

Think about the way men select women for sex. Do they pick the ones that make them laugh? Or the ones that can carry long conversations? Or would they rather sleep with the pretty, well-packed hot girl in the party? Even if, as a person, she's dull, dumb and mean? You don't want her to talk anyways.

Does this mean there aren't any unattractive men who made themselves attractive through manners and a career? Of course there are! There are quite a few cases! But those guys don't get laid for being short/ugly/fat/skinny, they get laid DESPITE that. But that's not the point.

The point is that women care about physique much more than most of them admit.

Which is not rare or bad. Sex is just a mechanical act, no matter how many times anyone insists it's not. So you want good physical traits for a better performance. How do I turn her on? The same way she turns you on: good physique.

Women and men are not too different on that issue. It's true that men tend to care more about looks, but it's not like there's a huge gap in preferences. Offer them a non-talking perfect body and many will be more than satisfied.