Why do other men fight the person their wife or gf cheated on?

elTrasgo · 2018-06-01T12:09:11+00:00

Another BP way of "being a man."

Women can't be at fault, must be the guy's doing, women have no agency.

Ironically...the man she cheated with is, from the female perspective, the "real man."

greywolf1968 · 2018-06-01T13:38:12+00:00

I heard one story where a man came home and found his wife with another man and the husband gave the guy a dollar and said ," Here man, go and buy yourself a better looking whore " and then walked out .Divorce papers were served within 24 hours I believe.

Itiswrittenkjv1611 · 2018-06-01T12:28:22+00:00

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kholaris · 2018-06-01T12:56:30+00:00

Lizard brain say: fight male, have sex.

Ghustgan · 2018-06-01T13:48:41+00:00

I don't give a shit if the guy is trying to get with my woman. He's an asshole, sure, but he can't do jack shit unless SHE lets him "in". So at the end of the day she's at fault. She can shut him down all day.

So yeah OP you got the right idea.

mgtow2138913 · 2018-06-01T11:56:09+00:00

I would fight both, I would feel better afterwards. Chances are that he knew who I was and decided to fuck her anyway, that is disrespectful.

deadBeefCafe2014 · 2018-06-01T12:05:07+00:00

Blue pilling ... believing that the wymns are sweet and innocent and incorruptible without external coercion.

A guy cheats and he gets vilified. Same should happen to the girl.

NewMunster · 2018-06-01T13:32:02+00:00

It's the "Women Are Wonderful" Effect and a bit of biology. The former is that most men do not believe women would commit adultery of their own volition and thus believe it was the man that seduced her. The latter is that the man is a rival male, and is a threat to one's chances of sex and reproductive success. Fighting the threatening male is not only a display of one's own strength to the female, it establishes dominance. Males of a lot of mammalian species will often fight other males for rights to a harem of females. It is similar in that both usually involve a challenger and the male in an already establishes relationship with the female(s) has to fight to protect that, or risk losing his chances at passing on his genes.

Of course, those of us who are above this kind of animalistic behaviour can see how illogical it is.

Phantom_Spark · 2018-06-01T12:02:05+00:00

Why? Hamstring.

Now, guys will fight to stay blue pilled. Any man who is stuck in the matrix is a tool who will fight to protect it. Men can’t admit women are wrong or it would shatter their world view.

I got into this argument with men before. If a woman cheats on you... why waste time fighting? You either throw her out, without making a fuss and ghost her 100%. Or you lawyer up and build a case while she thinks you’re SIMPing... and prepare for the apocalypse.

You can nothing by fighting Chad. You gain nothing by fighting a woman who willingly cheats on you. The only meaningful action is to toss her quickly.

FlyingSexistPig · 2018-06-01T14:06:35+00:00

Because they don’t want to accept the truth: she wanted to cheat. She did it on purpose.

Instead they can blame the other guy.

rooster-one4 · 2018-06-01T14:15:48+00:00

:) I talked to one of my ex's 'johns' :) He said, so you gonna kick my ass - I said yep, I'm gonna make her move in with you! Good Luck! That was a fun conversation

BHeletrica · 2018-06-01T14:02:54+00:00

Dude in the mangina and white knight minds woman are not accountable for their actions so you cant blame them for nothing.

2018-06-01T14:14:32+00:00

Men are stupid. Sorry, but most of us are

Usuqamadiq · 2018-06-01T14:18:38+00:00

For the most part I agree. However, when the man is married himself and knows she is married and still initiates everything, fuck him. In my state (NC) and 6 others you can sue for Alienation of Affection. I fully plan on doing this to the 26 years past ex-bf of my now ex. I have all the texts and a few emails for evidence. He initiated sexting literally an hour after saying he wouldn't do anything since they were both married. That's dead to rights. He can subsidize my child support for the next 15 years as far as I'm concerned.

Bwhite1 · 2018-06-01T15:23:25+00:00

Because humans are emotional. Men that have GTOW see it for what it is, but when you’re in it... fuck it hurts man.

As a community I think we need to be more sympathetic to the simps and orbiters, they don’t know what a shitty position they are in. Ya they can be aggressive towards us and straight fucking douchey sometimes, but I think it’s time to start killing them with kindness.

There will come a day when it blows up in their face and that’s when they will remember us, and then they might take the steps of reaching out. We will be there waiting, not condescending about their previous actions. Just open arms and accepting, we will give them our wisdom and listen to their woes.

This is to our advantage the more of us the more our message gets out, it just takes time and patience which as men we have plenty.

2018-06-01T15:42:09+00:00

In the back of a mans mind is humiliation and the idea that another man is mocking and laughing at him - it is a pride issue

TheDevilsAdvokaat · 2018-06-01T12:34:29+00:00

It depends. If some guy knew she was married and not separated, then I'd hit him.

If not, then I wouldn't.

But as for mate guarding - that I wouldn't do at all. You have to rely on your woman to do the mate guarding. If you can't, then you're with the wrong woman.

Itiswrittenkjv1611 · 2018-06-01T12:51:40+00:00

Fighting is pointless and proves nothing except the person initiating the fight is a scum bag and criminal and deserves to be locked in a cage forever.

Makonar · 2018-06-01T13:44:14+00:00

Can't hit a woman, get angry at the dude banging married or ir women.... normal reaction to a difficult situation...

2018-06-01T13:53:53+00:00

Reading 'the count of monto cristo' I had the same question. Albert goes to fight the Count who exposed his father's misdeeds. A duel.

Maybe this whole relationship fallacy is because women have moved on while men still stuck on to medieval tendencies and thus the white-knighting, fighting the man whom his wife slept with, etc.

Remove these protection mechanisms and then women would stand naked, and there might be some semblance of accountability.

These are the premises on which MRAs should be functioning; MGTOW still wouldn't want to deal with women.

oldrunnerguy · 2018-06-01T15:03:11+00:00

You are angry and you can't hit a woman. As Bill Burr retorted "There are plenty of reasons to hit a woman, you just don't do it!" For many men, they have to take out their anger somewhere, so they do it on the man that your woman cheated with. Maybe the best response is to tell the man "She cheated on me, she'll do the same to you," and then walk away from the whole situation. I think woman actually get their rocks off from seeing two men fighting over them. Don't give them that pleasure. If they're unfaithful, they're just not worth it.

Hitlers_Gas_Bill · 2018-06-01T15:49:32+00:00

I've been in this situation before. Seriously antagonized this guy who I thought was trying to pull my gf. Turns out, she was manipulating both of us at the same time. I still feel bad since he was such a nice guy.

Duchat · 2018-06-01T22:02:39+00:00

Monkey and apes are like this. They have an alpha that is the only breeder. The other males all WANT to breed, so they try and woo the females away for little trysts. The females probably do it for the same reasons as us, attention, maybe they aren't a preferred mate, whatever. If they get caught, the alpha punishes the female but not the male. The alpha understands that other bachelor males just want the same things as he does. The female has betrayed the resources that the alpha has secured for her survival.

Lord_Teapot · 2018-06-01T12:17:09+00:00

https://www.pinterest.com/pin/529173024940771137/

i would not lol, i agree with the sentiment of the above^

2018-06-01T13:22:33+00:00

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AncientDragons · 2018-06-01T14:49:05+00:00

It depends. If the guy was someone who broke my trust by fucking my girl, there would be consequences.

AlanMorisette · 2018-06-01T14:54:09+00:00

I was watching Jeopardy a couple weeks ago and the Question of the Day or whatever was something like:

This man was declared by Mother Russia as Worldwide Cucklord and died in a dual defending his wife's honor.

It's funny because it took me a second to realize he was dualing with one of the guys dicking his wife and died.

thicky-_-vicky · 2018-06-01T16:25:58+00:00

I wouldn't be mad at the mad she cheated on me with if the man didn't know she was takin in the first place. If he knew she was then he should know better and be a better man.

charmedpig · 2018-06-01T17:03:28+00:00

Men absolve the woman of any wrongdoing. It's dumb.

2018-06-01T18:07:11+00:00

That’s one of the biological aspects of our lives. It’s absolutely logical to fight off your sperm rival. What is the question here? You don’t fight the breeding unit. You fight the competition.

boogalooshrimp1103 · 2018-06-01T19:54:10+00:00

A great philosopher by the name of Dr. Dre was once quoted as saying "if your bitch in my ride, it's your bitch you check nigga!"

Methodless · 2018-06-01T21:39:15+00:00

Never hold it against the guy unless he knew
As for fighting, it proves nothing. If he didn't know, he doesn't deserve a fight; if he did, he's a scumbag and it's not worth giving the girl any satisfaction that she's worth a fight.

For FOR those you love, not over them - and don't fight for someone who doesn't love you back. Fight for your kids, fight for your pets, not some bitch who cheated on you.

ThexNoobx12 · 2018-06-01T21:40:57+00:00

It doesn't but In a society where women are protected from everything I guess that's the only way that man can take his anger out during that time. Personally, if I was married and walked in on something like that I would pretty much kill the guy and my wife (slowly of course) I think that's the point of no return for a lot of men. I really commend guys that are still fighting the good fight after having a wife that actually cheated on them smh...

2018-06-01T14:32:57+00:00

Because they are not willing to give Up the blue pill fantasy of the women being perfect so somehow someway it must be the dude who is bad.

TheKingGoliath · 2018-06-01T15:43:09+00:00

Hit a woman, go to jail

ssmugy · 2018-06-01T15:43:45+00:00

Because people don't want to face the reality that the person they love is a whore that doesn't reciprocate their feelings.

TerminallyOdd · 2018-06-01T16:34:45+00:00

Society teaches us to never hit women, and in a rage-inducing situation like that, the man apparently feels like he needs to hit something, so the guy becomes the target.

Personally, I never understood it. Unless I know the guy, it has next to nothing to do with him.

cryptotim70726 · 2018-06-01T16:51:37+00:00

It's an instinctual holdover from our caveman days. Sometimes we'd have to fight, and sometimes kill, for women to mate with. It was the only way to insure that your genes would be carried on for another generation. Modern men who actually give the issue thought realize that the woman wasn't worth getting injured or killed over.

2018-06-01T17:09:16+00:00

Territorial instinct in men.

mount_of_jack_squat · 2018-06-01T17:14:13+00:00

Lmao the first thing you do is dump the whore and if you get the chance hit the guy

BoogieorBust · 2018-06-01T17:43:28+00:00

I some instances you love and trust the person just as much as you did your wife.

2018-06-01T18:19:39+00:00

I'd say it's more of a bio-social thing.

Biological: Testosterone and gynocentric brain wires you to think it's weird (or wrong if you're a normie) to hit a woman since I guess your brain thinks it will kill her and therefore not be able to continue the race.

Social: She's seen as the weaker sex (even though we know she can just use her stupid little mind games and vagina to control the man) and hitting her equates to society seeing you as a "pussy" for hitting a "weaker" being and therefore not worthy of being considered a "man" who protects the "tribe" and/or belongs in society.

lulz3r · 2018-06-01T18:44:16+00:00

It’s an antiquated belief that in order to cleanse their honor, they have to kill/beat up the guy. If anything they should beat up the cheating SO, but that’s also idiotic. Best thing to do is cut your losses and move on, maybe leave her in financial ruin if you can.

Theguygotgame777 · 2018-06-01T18:53:23+00:00

I hate Islam, but at least they do the sensible thing, and just stone the woman at the gates of the city. Bitch getting what she deserved.

Ieatlinner · 2018-06-01T19:10:32+00:00

Anger.

Mchooofer · 2018-06-01T19:19:12+00:00

Because men know deep down, that women can't be trusted. So it's fruitless to fight her

dinnerwithfunions · 2018-06-01T19:33:36+00:00

This phenomena is exhibited across all sorts of species.. it’s just a biological / animal response.

That being said, humans are conscious and have the ability to alter their reality so they need to train themselves to overcome such aggression.

skylorddragon · 2018-06-01T19:35:30+00:00

It's that caveman part of our brains. NO SHE MINE! YOU NO HAVE! MUST TAKE BACK

HierEncore · 2018-06-01T19:44:56+00:00

the same reason men would fight back if they got punched or slapped in the face: It is personally and massively disrespectful to knowingly sleep with a man's wife.

mma13579 · 2018-06-01T19:47:16+00:00

Also, why, if their partner is physically abused, verbally or physically, is the man expected to have sort sort of revenge on the person who did it.

Why is the man her automatic protector. She should fight her own battles, if she needs help, call the police.

Especially verbal abuse makes no sense. Say your gf gets called a 'slut', often times they come back to you saying how horrible this guy was who said it and they somehow think you're gonna go beat him up because of it. It's just words girl and they were aimed at you not me, fuck off.

Tokyogaikoku44 · 2018-06-01T20:04:26+00:00

Projecting onto him. The healthiest thing is to walk away from the cheating bitch.

OldTimeyENT · 2018-06-01T20:49:38+00:00

I reflected on this at a young age too. My old friend beat up another friend over fucking his skank ex. Meanwhile I am asking him why are you pissed at just jere? Your girl was getting barebacked by half the fucking neighborhood.

Tyranid_Swarmlord · 2018-06-01T20:53:54+00:00

Sunk cost fallacy.

If they already sunk their life, money and soul into the whore...whore cheating= crystal clear proof that "All of it is wasted btw", which is why it overrides their cucked BP ness even for a short while.

Men who have nothing to lose are dangerous, and to a bp cuck who has that happen to him, they can finally let loose their true nature at a convinient target.

Cuisinart_Killa · 2018-06-01T21:12:56+00:00

Instinct really

skippydammit · 2018-06-01T21:28:41+00:00

fighting accomplishes nothing except feeding her hamster... it is best to let her "go her own way" without any $upport from ex boyfriend/husband/etc.

Meowmeow2389 · 2018-06-01T21:28:42+00:00

In the old days, if you caught a guy sleeping with your wife, you could kill him and not be punished by the king. Even beating him up these days could land you 12 months in prison if not longer.

This feminist society is evil at it's roots and soul crushing for the modern man.

logicAndFury · 2018-06-01T22:41:58+00:00

It’s cause in their blue pill thinking, their virtuous and kind hearted wife would never do anything like that.

Add that to a lack of agency for woman and there you go!

2018-06-01T22:54:00+00:00

I agree, it makes no sense whatsoever to direct your anger at the guy your wife cheated with.

cleats4u · 2018-06-01T22:58:24+00:00

I don't understand why any man thinks a woman can stay faithful. They can't and it's only a matter of time. I know guys that married fat uglies so the risk of somebody else fucking her is low and the odds of him being a better provider or better looking than him are non-existent. It's like a drug addict camoflaging or hiding his stash from other drug addicts. lol.

2018-06-01T23:36:43+00:00

A Mans ego, simple as that, get so but hurt over something that requires a smile a smirk and a get the fuck out of here.

In saying that, we've all been there, it's a harsh lesson that brought us all here right now.

MrMannheim · 2018-06-02T00:21:37+00:00

Watch documentaries on monkeys and apes, they do the exact same thing: old alpha male starts to lose power, female fucks the new alpha, old alpha goes apeshit and fights new alpha, female fucks whoever wins.

We are all just monkeys wearing suits.

eloquentnemesis · 2018-06-02T01:04:43+00:00

Fuck it, fight 'em both.

robowriter · 2018-06-02T02:21:47+00:00

Nah, not anymore. Shakes his hand you can have her.

Money's worth fighting over, women no.

stringedbeams · 2018-06-02T03:09:32+00:00

Ehh they both did something wrong, as I clicked the post I thought you were offering good advice to not risk danger by fighting the wife/gf or cheating guy but to just get away safe instead

Zefirez · 2018-06-02T07:47:28+00:00

Because they are afraid to lose her, even more so now that she showed that she wants/has replaced them.

It's not about honor (though they love to deceive themselves that it is), being magnanimous and forgiving. It's about not losing the golden vagina they believe they got by hardcore luck.

It's in the same line when a 300 pound 2 meter tall tatooed gorilla runs out of his house after his girlfriend screaming at nearby ppl "what are you looking at, you wanna fight?" etc cause she took out of house and maybe walking.

In reality he's dead afraid she'll leave him, else why would you run like a scared child after 100 pound or so, average looking female, trying to "assert dominance" over everyone around you, that frankly few if any give a fuck about their fk up relationship.

PrivateFinance · 2018-06-02T13:09:54+00:00

I never understood this either. I think sometimes the women like to get the men to fight each other for their own amusement.

When my exwife left me for her high school boyfriend who found her on Facebook, I was angry at both of them, but more her than him. After all, she chose to do this, and it ended up blowing up in her face.

They guy later called an apologized to me saying her had blown it with her twice before and thought he had another chance with her but shouldn't have pursued it because she was married. I didn't forgive him, but I let him both him and her were guilty.

I dated a little after the divorce, also went to counseling and after my mother died didn't date anyone for a while and realized I liked life that way, so now I'm not seeing anyone and enjoying my new found freedom.

2018-06-02T14:11:34+00:00

Depends on if he knew she wasn't single.

Rodion-Raskolnikov · 2018-06-02T17:25:21+00:00

When my oneitis cheated on me I confronted the chad and was going to properly Fuck him up. Turned out she lied and told him she was single. I believed him. He was sorry and we had a beer.

Why kick the shit outta somebody who doesn’t deserve it?

Of course, I didn’t hit my ex girlfriend either. Just dumped her.

SpecialistWerewolf · 2018-06-01T16:10:03+00:00

Animal instinct: This is MY vessel for reproduction. Stay the fuck away from it!

rromero26 · 2018-06-01T20:16:19+00:00

Tru story I fucked a senior citizen divorcee yesterday she still looks good. She still lives in the same apartment as her ex hubby of two months. I was scared he might burst in but there was a lot of movement outside the building so I slutted her out. Married 40 years and fucks a 30 year old on a chance meet at mcds the month after separation.

2018-06-01T14:55:50+00:00

It's partly because the guy can't hit the girl or he will go to jail and be labeled a woman beater

EvilCoyote · 2018-06-01T19:49:48+00:00

Because we all know, no matter how much society preaches equality, that women are too stupid to take be responsible for their own actions. A lot of our weird, "primitive" behavior makes sense once you un-brainwash yourself.

Ruby-xy · 2018-06-01T23:49:46+00:00

If I catch my girl cheating on me I'm pulling her aside n asking her were did I as a MAN go wrong to make her decide to cheat, and asking her how I can IMPROVE to be her KING so she wouldn't wanna cheat again. I didn't step up so she cheated, can't blame anybody but myself !

Title	Why do other men fight the person their wife or gf cheated on?
Author	BLUEUPTON
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Comments	229
Date	June 1, 2018 11:52 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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