TLDR: 29 years old, 6’2, fit, $260K salary and growing. Raised beta, was chubby, almost fell into marriage, started reading TRP a while back, and woke the fuck up. I decided to dump my 4 year wall-adjacent GF who was on track for a ring. I now have a 21 y/o plate. Intrigued? Read on.

First I want to start by giving thanks to y’all. It really does take a while to swallow the pill - I have been a lurker for 2 years. I went from thinking you were a bunch of losers to “holy shit!” It took about a year before things were internalized. I am now so comfortable with TRP that I finally made a throwaway that I will use to contribute going forwards. Undoubtedly, I am still refining my doctrine (likely a lifelong journey), but now it’s about the twigs and the leaves, the trunk and branches are pretty solid.

Secondly, I would like to scoff at anyone reading this who thinks redpillers are pathetic neckbeards etc. You have no clue. I suspect the distribution is a lot more normal than the doubters realize. Also, so many smart motherfuckers around here.

Ok, story time: I was raised extremely beta, my dad is the ultimate beta bux. My folks’ household income is around 900K/year, with my pops bringing the lion’s share of that. My mother runs everything though. And she is so confident & comfortable that she often talks about how she has all the power (re: divorce) and could have gotten a better guy than my dad. She will say things like this in front of me and my sister. And my dad just takes it. Awkward. As. Fuck. Note that my dad is the man at his job, a “big swinging dick (BSD)” for those of you familiar with finance slang. It fascinates me how BBs can be such killers at work, yet be so impotent at home.

Fortunately, I did not take after my father in terms of disposition. My grandfather is pretty alpha, people say I am closer to him. Despite not being like my dad, I still had the blue pill indoctrination pretty deep. My thought was I would make a lot of money, get a woman, and give her the Disney life. Marriage 1.0 find-a-unicorn bullshit. My dad has tried hard to push me this way.

Enter my ex-gf. AWALT of course, but she was good enough. Her father is a BB and she saw the same qualities in me. She didn’t really do anything wrong to be honest. She had a playbook and she followed it well. She was giving me that special treatment that you often read about when girls are campaigning for a ring. The problem occurred when I swallowed the red pill and started looking at the world with new eyes. I got a good picture of what would happen after marriage. It clicked that for her, I was just a meal ticket. More importantly, I understood the SMV I could achieve. “You are the prize.”

I lifted and I just started gaming girls for sport. As I went through grad school my SMV exploded in ways I could not imagine. I will always remember this time I was at a party and a hot 20 year old gymnast tried to fuck me. She didn’t even know what I did or my family background. She was just attracted to me for me. At that point, having experienced that, I knew I could never be happy in a marriage.

Some of you may remember the story from the relationshits sub of the surgeon whose SMV exploded after med school and then his girl was whining about how he was dreading her. I knew I didn’t want to be that guy: That situation where you start peaking and amazing tail is everywhere & available, but you kick yourself because undersold and married when your SMV was low.

So I dumped my girl. It was WWIII. I lost many friends – won’t lie, it hurt. My family came down hard on me. Threatened to cut me off, the usual bullshit. But I held frame, and now they have accepted. I basically showed them I was willing to go nuclear and let it all burn if they tried to strong arm me into marrying this girl and it worked.

Looking into the future, I’m gonna chill and enjoy my rising SMV for a while, call me sir spins-a-lot. I also need a vasectomy. Long term I know I will settle down because spinning plates forever is not my thing. But I will never marry. And that’s where you guys saved me. I would have definitely been divorce-raped because there is no way I could deny the realities of my growing SMV. By 40 I would be paying alimony + child support for 2 kids.

Lessons learned: Please guys, if you must commit, don’t commit before peak SMV. If you do so, you are underselling. You will be unhappy because you will know what you would have gotten. It’s like spending your life savings at a store before it has a 50% off sale the next week.