In my last post I mentioned "Dressing for your Age" and I've had a few people ask me about it. I'm going to expand on that point a bit further, this post is going to be about "fitting in", dressing and acting like everyone else, and getting laid because of it. As usual, because I love talking about myself, here's some backstory.


Phase 1:

My beta days were full of anti-conformity. Everyone else was a stupid, mindless sheep; they were consumers who liked dumb music and spent too much money on clothes and had the same haircuts.

I however, had a far superior taste in music. I didn't waste my money on mere garments, spent my time on far more intellectual pursuits like Video Gaming and old movies, and my hair was long and luscious because fuck gender norms, I was sticking it to the man. I wore band t-shirts and ripped jeans.

Guess how much attention from girls I got.

I'm sure you don't need me to answer that.


Phase 2:

When I finally had the shocking realization that I needed to be attractive in order to get laid, or even for a girl to like me enough to want to date me, I started lifting, and looking into mens fashion.

You don't need me to tell you how stupidly important lifting is. You'll hear it from everyone on here all the time. You will not believe just how much it changes your life and the way people see you until you do it. Women are programmed to get wet for big muscles. You know how when you see a nice big, round, pair of tits you just can't help but look and get slightly turned on even if the girl has a fucked up face/flat ass? That's what women are like with thick arms and abs. They like to tell us that it doesn't matter; but it does. Significantly. My girlfriend has never fucked me as hard as when I started to develop some real strength; and she's told me before that she doesn't care if I get swole. Well she likes to say that but she does care, it turns her on more whatever she says to me.

Now I was a stupid faggot at the time, and "lifting" to me meant looking up starting strength, squatting, benching and giving up with everything else because it was too hard or I couldn't do it properly. I also ran every session "to warm up", ate like an ethiopian, and skipped gym days constantly because I was "too sore and needed to give my muscles some time to recover".

I eventually stopped being a pussy and figured out how to lift properly, and what with the calloused hands and protein farts I'm finally on my way to getting swole, even though in my eyes I'll be forever small. But that's not what this post is about.

After lifting, my next step was to cut my hair. The difference it fucking makes. I fucked it up the first few times, I didn't know what to tell the barber and I got some cuts that broadcast "bootcamp trainee". A couple of years later and I've figured out what to tell the barber, and while I always look stupid the week after a fresh cut, when my hair grows in my face finally looks masculine. I guarantee all the guys with long or medium long hair out there, it is highly likely you look better with a smart, clean cut. Get your hair cut every month or 6 weeks, don't wait for it to get long and feminine and stupid. While YOU think it might look cool and rad, the girls you're trying to lay have a different opinion on what a cool guy should look like, and overwhelmingly, masculine guys have short cuts.

You can only really pull off long hair if you have the style to go with it. Guys who have found their style know who they are, if you're trying to go for the rocker look or exotic foreigner good on you, but really look at yourself and rationally decide if you're actually pulling it off or if you just look like you're playing a character. Once again, the vast majority of you guys most likely look way more attractive if you looked normal.


Phase 3

Next step was clothes. I went on MFA. What a fucking mistake.

I bought OCBs and chinos, Clark's Desert Boots and Sperry Topsiders, and a watch. I dressed the way they told me to, and went to parties that way.

Stuck out like a sore thumb. I was 19 years old at events with other university students and I looked like I should have been at a yacht club. I looked like a teenager in his dad's clothes. Not only did I not suit the fashions of the demographic I was in, the clothes looked stupid on my tall skinny frame too.

Dressing for your age and demographic is important. You NEED to fit in where you're being social. If you're trying to pull hot girls, you need to appeal to what hot girls find appealing; that means dressing in the latest fashions for the current group you're in. A "bad bitch" teenage girl who wears chokers and LBDs and snapbacks and posts on instagram is not gonna find a guy who looks like he came out of the 1940s attractive. She's gonna do the guy in the sweatpants and Jordans.

On the flipside, if you're a 30 year old dude who frequents bars and business events and has a bit more bulk on you, go ahead and wear the rolled up oxford shirts and boat shoes. Not only will it suit you, you'll be dsiplaying massive value to the people around you. If you still wear sweatpants and the latest sneakers and baseball caps you'll look like an overgrown child.

Dress for your age. Always.


Phase 4

So after spending at least a year looking like a WW2 child evacuee, I became a "badman". Weed and rap music made me pick up sweatpants, nikes and hats. I started wearing t-shirts that suited my frame, hoodies that made my shoulders look bigger, sweats that added bulk to my legs, and snapbacks because they were in style.

And my pussy-meter shot through the roof. Like I mentioned in my last post, I was getting checked out and getting IOIs everywhere I went; from girls that were attractive and my age. That wasn't happening before.

And people started treating me different from the get go. People treat you SO MUCH BETTER when you are dressed well. It's like they have this stereotype of how you're gonna act just from the way you dress, and if you dress alpha, they will think you are.

Of course whenever I opened my mouth the beta came out instantly. I had a lot more to work on, and that was inner game. Only TRP and multiple fuckups/rejections beat it into me; but I'd like to think I got there eventually. BPers have this idea that our advice is straightforward: "dress well and talk to more girls is not new advice" they say. What they don't seem to realise is that dressing well and talking to more girls means nothing if you don't have game to pull it off. Without having frame, actual self confidence (not projected) and the knowledge of how women act and what they like, you can be as pretty and well dressed as you want, you won't get laid.


Phase 5

So I dressed like a badman, lifted, didn't have a girl haircut and eventually figured out how to talk to girls. That's when I found out I had nothing to talk to them about.

I picked up on some of the popular music. A lot of it was shit. Honestly, it was garbage. Coming from Radiohead and Mark Ronson and Kasabian I didn't understand just how people could get into it. Then I found Drake and Futures's album, which I loved and couldn't understand why, it was so unlike me at the time. Then I found RTJ and fell hard. Then I realised Lana Del Ray and Grimes and Lorde have some fucking great albums. British grime was a genre that I never understood and then suddenly "got", and it was and still is very popular. I understand why, it's legitimately great.

Branching out with my music taste meant not only could I enjoy parties and clubs much more because I genuinely liked the music, I also had things I could relate to people with, "cool" people. I made "cool" friends with the popular kids, I started talking to the popular girls (who are the hot girls lets be honest), and I became one of the popular kids. Now that I was doing "popular" things and dressing like "popular people", I was fucking the popular girls and making friends with all the Chads.

And the Chads aren't bad people. The Chads are actually some pretty swell guys, they just aren't beta. Everyone hates the Jocks until you get in on the Jock group and become a Jock; then you realise the Jocks are cool people.

Your aim is to become a Jock. Then you can fuck all the cheerleaders. Dress normal, act normal. It's not so bad.

Lessons Learned:

  • Lift, cut your hair.

  • Dressing for your age is important, don't look up fashions online, look at what the people who are "cool" and getting pussy around you are wearing.

  • Women are super conformative, and so the 9s and 10s are almost always going to be in the in-crowd. You need to conform to the in-crowd if you want that pussy.

  • Liking the stuff other people like gives you a huge advantage over the genre-purists. Branch out, it's good for you.

  • Dressing and looking good doesn't mean anything if you don't have the game to back it up.

EDIT: Also thanks to the guy who gave me gold on my last post, I appreciate the sentiment, but please no one else. Don't give Reddit any money they are bluepill cucks.

EDIT2: Bunch of salty betas in the comments think "dress fashionably and cut your hair" makes you societies bitch. No you neckbeards, dressing in a way that maximises your chances of attracting the opposite sex if that is your goal is not radical or beta advice; calm down. You "conform" when you lift in order to get muscles so women want to fuck you, don't front like that's not the only reason you're doing it, well you also gotta conform by wearing the right clothes for those muscles. Calm your tits and stop stressing about whether your actions are "bluepill" or "redpill" and start focusing on what achieves success and what doesn't. "Be yourself and don't conform" is such special snowflake bluepill advice I'm starting to wonder how long some of y'all have been here. Stop stressing about categories and go get some poon ffs

EDIT3: I'm special so I don't need to work on my style