First off, I would like to say Thank all of you guys for this outlet. I was stuck in a rut. I didn't understand why I felt like I was banging my head against a wall metaphorically speaking. I knew I was confident. I am a catch. I'm fit, tall, smart, and funny. I had no self worth and couldn't even consider approaching a woman or even holding my head up as I go about my day.
After discovering this sub, I've had way more confidence. I'm just a lurker normally but just reading and relating to so many guys who have been able to overcome their blue pill lifestyle, I felt inspired. Today I look great, feel great. I couldn't have gotten here without this sub.
Without further pontification, I would like to share my secret for fooling your brain into being confident and keeping your chin up.
I pretend I have the majestic horns of a giant stag. I picture myself and all women with deer antlers. The women only have studs, more pointed and satanic the more attractive they are. I haven't quite worked out the psychology behind why I've become so much more confident from this method, however I feel much more stoic when I picture the appendages. (Who wants to have their head on a swivel with 50 lb antlers am I right?) This accomplishes two things. When I'm standing and pretending I'm showing off my 8 foot tall 24 point rack, I hold my head up, I puff my chest out, and I smile ear to ear every time this method has positive results.
This method also helps with selfdoubt. This was I think my main problem. I could be confident until I felt challenged. When a girl looked at me, it would totally throw off my confidence, now I just know she's noticing my antlers, and I haven't been this happy in a long time.
Upvote or downvote, try it for yourself, Idc what you do, I just needed to share my sneaky little trick to train your brain and give back to the community what's worked for me.
Again thanks to all of TRP for helping me find my confidence again.
Im not sure what i just read but i love it. You do you, boo
"Ehrmagehrd, TRP is full of misogynists"
Apparently, it's full of 12 point whitetails.
Nice use of Icelandic accent.
Redpillers hate him! Figured out how he gained confidence with this one weird trick!
Reminds me of the post that said if you can't get yourself off while looking in a mirror then you're fucked up.
EDIT: can to can't
With or without sexual simulation?
There was literally a post that talked about how it benefitted you in some way to jack off while looking at yourself in the mirror and if you couldn't get off then you watch too much porn/jerk off too much or you're fucked up in some other way etc.
It was probably one of the dumbest things I've ever read and people liked it.
http://i.imgur.com/WRxqE4I.gif
I laughed for quite awhile when I first saw that scene
Wait don't all guys stare at themselves in the mirror to get off?
I don't always pull it, but when I do, I'm staring at myself in the mirror /Truth
I found the thread but the post was removed, thank god. It was so fucking dumb that even the bluepill sub picked it up and rightfully made fun of it.
Mental visualization: a very effective technique. I like to pretend i've got "Stayin' Alive" playing as my personal anthem. Who could lack confidence with Stayin Alive blasting while they strut?
Until someone says hi to you and you respond in falsetto
Or Da Rockwilder by Method and Red man
I can attest to this technique!
I do the same thing, but with different songs. Hear fat funk beats when you walk will give you a confident swagger.
Visualization is powerful, studies have shown that practicing a piano for two hours and sitting in front of a piano, imagining you're practicing it (visualization) fires off the same chemicals in your brain and is just as effective as actually practicing it. Actual practice becomes more effective over longer periods of time like four hours instead of two.
They say you shouldn't daydream but visualization works. Picturing and imagining success along with taking real actions will help you more, combining those two things can lead to much self improvement. Picture yourself winning a race, running fast, being confident, lifting a heavy weight, imagine.
When I used to run long distance I'd imagine myself with a crowd cheering near the end of a race and I'd speed up for a few hundred meters before slowing down. This turned my runs into somewhat unorthodox fartlek workouts but it helped me go faster, it just got my adrenaline pumping.
Just visualize success, picture it. Your thoughts are powerful, they make you.
First in the mind, then in the hand.
Alternatively, singing "Staying Alive" to yourself (in your mind, not out loud fool) while performing CPR will closely approximate the rate you should be pressing on their chest. 108 beats per minute, to a depth of 2in / 5cm, don't be afraid to break some ribs (you can fix bones but you can't fix dead).
https://youtu.be/Vmb1tqYqyII
what the actual fuck. Thank you for sharing that
"If you come across somebody with no arms and no legs do you even bother with resuscitation?"
Didn't know I needed to see this... But I did.
"Another One Bites the Dust" has the same tempo and is easier to "find the beat" for some reason.
Always thought that was weird but maybe it's just because I'm a drummer. If you can't "find the beat" to a 4/4 disco song with a moderate tempo then you can't be helped.
Also the main theme of star wars too. Learned that in cpr class
You're the best....around! That's mine. Gotta love Charlie and Dee's training days.
Beter yet. Imagine yourself with the majestic horns of a giant stag, the women with deer antlers, and Stayin' Alive playing in your head all at the same time.
As ridiculous as it sounds, if it works it works. Arnold Schwarzenegger visualized his biceps as mountains or something when training, which sounds absurd but you can't argue with the results. Then there's always the classic "just picture your audience naked and you'll be more confident as a speaker. "
Though with the high percentage of fatties out there, I don't think I'd recommend the 2nd one anymore.
my song is Hold On, I'm Comin'. One of my favorite fighters Robbier Lawler walked out to this song so many times as champion and was a fuckin' murderous gladiator. I hear it in my head when I'm walking sometimes and I can definitely tell the difference in my demeanor.
Mine is "moves like Jagger." The metal variant.
Well, you can tell by the way you use your walk...
Well, you can tell by the way I use my walk...
"You've got the touch!
You've got the power!"
Tried it and inmediately started smiling. While reading the comments, I also started blasting "Staying Alive". I'm in heaven right now.
Lmao same thing happened to me, my head even felt heavy thinking of looking down.
As a corollary to this, imagine some of the females have poor eyesight. Their inferiority doesn't allow them to see your awesome antlers.
Pity them if they reject you, it is only the natural result of their inferior status.
I love this. You just put another point in my rack
I have a feeling this is gonna become an epic meme of TRP
There's a similar technique in acting where the actor channels an animal through themselves.
Jake Gyllenhaal did this in Nightcrawler. Pretended he was a Coyote and honestly, it shows. He's Cluster B as hell.
As for the antlers, I'd imagine it's similar to a dick measuring contest type of thing. Like what Deer actually do, fight with antlers (compete, dominate and prove themselves as the alpha).
that movie had the best acting, he's got the stuff
psycho stuff, but he's got it
Used to do this before a fight. I imagined I was a fucking alpha lion, and my opponent was a gazelle poor guy didn't know it yet, but he was in my world, and I was going to devour him. Almost would feel a little sorry for him, if I weren't a lion....
Helped with the pre-fight jitters...put me in the right mindset before it kicked off.
Bizzare.
Personally I urinate near all the places I frequent. Gets the ladies primed by my musky pheromones.
Be sure to helicopter while you irinate for maximum scent dispersion.
I helicoptered once. The janitor got fairly upset
My ROFL copter makes the ladies swoon swaswaswaswaswaswaswa
But do you smell their butts when day gaming?
YES. It is the appropriate ice breaker.
I really wanted to say how dumb this was, but I tried it out and it felt pretty amazing. Good job 1trick. You proved the saying if it's stupid and works, then it's not stupid.
I will try this tomorow in my presentation.
I'm a bit confused free reading OP's description. Can you elaborate a bit? Why am I picturing women with antlers?
Just try it. You're a bigass buck with beautiful, imposing antlers and you're surrounded by timid, nonthreatening does.
Oh man that's awesome. I've done that before (not deer) but never thought to make it a habit. Thanks!
I guess i just imagined I had them. Makes you feel ballin. Hard to explain.
You're not picturing women with antlers (unless she's a cuckquean) you're picturing yourself with amazing, yuge antlers.
We have the best antlers, don't we folks?
We'll make our antlers great again. That's for sure.
Isn't this a method acting technique?
It's quite close (a bit simplified).
Anyway I could convince you to elaborate further? Or maybe refer some reading/watching material
As for Method Acting howto - google it. I don't have any good link about the technique. I've found quite a few variations and it's for some reason complicated - at times I was having feeling that everyone was beating around the bush, when all I wanted was "step 1 - do this; step 2 - do that".
As for MA as a tool for changing/reprogramming yourself ... there was once in manosphere Shark and his blog IMO was one of the best. He influenced me, more than anyone else. It was Shark who introduced me to MA and it was, by his own admission, how he shaped himself.
Sadly the blog is now defunct, but luckily there's Wayback Machine. The article: https://web.archive.org/web/20141007191525/http://www.solvemygirlproblems.com/2012/02/carpe-diem
http://www.trans4mind.com/personal_development/mindMastery/anchoring.htm
I think of myself as the father figure. Puts me in the right headspace for dealing with people's shit. An authoritarian frame.
Father with a daughter complex? That's my fetish
Isn't this kind of thing close to meditation? Every time you're distracted, you refocus yourself on the same thing.
Maybe I'm just bullshitting and don't know what meditation is...
Nah bro, what you said made sense. Say it confidently and with some fucking commitment. Us brothers got your back.
damn. being new to trp your comment sure was kind of a warm welcome and a little lesson as well. Maybe something like "real men dont neet to harass on others on order to feel confident". idk maybe im over analyzing this
We will still "harass" you if we feel your idea is BS
well, not at all, thats my point. harassing is what betas do, because they thrive on the thought of educating another guy and therefore putting themselves above them.
the guys here just state their opinions and nothing more. because their personal wellbeing doesnt depend on what others think
Tearing someone else down to rise above them is what women do. A real man rises above by building himself up. Don't get it twisted, life is absolutely one big competition and to quote /u/GayLubeOil if I were hungry and you had a sandwich I'd fucking take it from you.
UDK? Come on, brother. Show some commitment
Did you pay no attention to what he said? Conviction, man!
I was thinking the same thing. Plus, it helps you to keep your head still if you visualize those heavy things attached to it. Insecurity leads to tension, which makes itself known through micro movements of the body, including the head, which can stiffen up your neck and make you feel literally choked off. If you imagine the antlers, you can relax your head and neck a little easier and feel more at ease and thus confident as a result.
Have you noticed that Trump never looks down when someone is talking to him, especially if it's confrontational? It's surprising how steady he is in his movements.
Idk why you got downvoted, you're right. His confidence is what wins people over.
As a very avid big game hunter, I love it! I can't find the trophy buck because i am the trophy buck! Those Big bucks just stand their like their shit doesn't stink, never pay any attention to smaller bucks cause they know they are inferior. Basically, they take no shit, and only fuck the best of the bitches. Deer are RP as fuck
This can also work great with Lions. Imagining yourself as a lion, the leader of the pack and the king of beasts, where you rule over other animals. You hold yourself with pride and have both humility and confidence.
This reminds me of King Ezekiel in the latest episode of The Walking Dead, he rose up as a leader, by unknowingly showing status where the people believed he had "tamed" a tiger, when in actuality he was just a zoo keeper who had befriended a tiger. he lets the people believe what they wanna believe, he says it himself; he faked it until he made it.
Be a Lion, the king of your reality.
Whatever he is on - I want some.
I inject marijuanas all day. #420grazeit
Removed ? I really wanted to read it ;(
Edit : Here it is.
I pretend I'm Trump.
I know it's retarded but public speaking and holding frame never went better.
Great, now I'll be pretending I'm Trump and I have huge antlers, while Stayin Alive plays in the background.
when TRP reaches a cosplayer
No joke, conventions are easy grounds for some crazy lays. Most recent one I went to had a late-night bondage panel, walked in and it turned to some girl getting tied up and paddled by some fat balding dude in his 40s. And she babysits for him. Apparently he owns the local kink dungeon and he does this as a hobby.
The after-parties after the main events are ridiculous. Tons of stories from these that I'd have to recall later.
Itt: tips and tricks for autists to overcome crippling social anxiety
Fake it til you make it brah
I think this is a cool physical visualization technique, akin to the power stance. But it also betrays some ignorance about game animals. So, good for you - keep it up. But if you ever visit the kind of place where I live, where most men (and lots of women) hunt, just don't tell anyone about it, or they will want to teach you some new things about how deer work, what they're called, etc. Not trying to be negative - just saving some embarassment. Glad it's working for you.
I live in SC. Not exactly sure what ignorance I may have. But thanks for your input. I know female deer do not have antlers. I know male deer are bucks and females are does. Guess I'll just be blissful in my ignorance.
Oh great - then you nailed it! Have a good rut season.
The funny thing is self doubt works exactly the same way. Some one gets hung up on their big ears or they are short, balding hair, small muscles. They believe that this us all women notice. These self deficiencies become larger than life, like a giant pair of antlers that everyone sees.
Too true. Negative thought cycles lead to caged unconfident thinking. Good connection drawn there man.
Isn't anyone going to mention that only male deer have antlers??
You're picturing chicks as male deer you dope.
EDIT: whoops! Google just taught me something new - “Female deer can grow antlers if they have higher-than-normal testosterone levels,” said Flinn. “In most cases, does' testosterone levels are too low for full antler development. They usually are small and poorly formed, and they aren't completely hardened."
Just looked round the public bus assigning folks horns. Instantly sat up straighter and smiled imagining mine all elk like. Haha good tip my man. Cheers.
https://img1.etsystatic.com/020/0/7162119/il_570xN.481240103_mldy.jpg
You have hit the nail on the head sir.
I like to imagine, sometimes, that I'm a badass russian spy.
This confirms my suspicions about many tall guys.
Pretty cool.
I can tell a large male deer from a distance without seeing the head because they move differently, almost like a masculine male human.
Weird little thing was a short crew cut fade for this hunting season. I look ex military and when I'm in public notice I have more dominant body language. Everyone is nicer to me also.
At least it seems.
I tried repeating the mantra "I'm a fucking boss" over and over in my head today when I felt any sort of anxiety as a sort of continuous positive affirmation. Picked the concept (not the specific mantra) up from Gorilla Mindset.
Seemed to work pretty well. It even mitigated some of my physical anxiety symptoms like fast beating heart. Also, let me just say that so many more girls check you out when you walk confidently, it's almost insane. I get the occasional eyes from average girls when I'm anxious but today I had at least a couple 7-8/10s checking me out just on my walk to class.
Try it out!
Affirmations are literal super powers.
I work a very physically demanding job and one day I did affirmations like that. Instead of getting tired like usual I became unstoppable. I did things that coworkers couldn't and even went out of my way to find more work to do. Coworkers began joking that I must've gotten laid the night before.
I'm going to try this. It's weird as fuck and I like it
Olivia Fox Cabane uses similar methods of visualization in her book "The Charisma Myth"
There's obviously no substitute for putting in effort and actually accomplishing goals, but to even have the willpower to gain competence you first have to have the mindset of "Eventually I'll get there if I do XY and Z"
That's why visualization is essential. I'm writing a guide on confidence and in it I find that visualization with potential roadblocks is key, if it's an easy victory in your head then you're likely to break during inevitable stress.
Deep breathing, meditation, posture, body language, reducing stimulants, diet, and many other things often help. Everything begins in the body.
The technique may be unorthodox but the writing is good. Have an uptoke.
Oh deer lord this is what I've been looking for
I just imagine Zyzz saying "Fck yea u sickunt you can do it" "u mad/u mirin" and "do you bro"
http://i1.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/original/001/009/358/1e8.jpg
Maybe you just have a fetish but that's just me hehe
You aren't just gonna find confidence. You can fake it, but you'll always be a pussy at heart.
Thanks for that man! Solid addition to the thread.
Yeah these dumb techniques aren't going to help you find someone. Bullshit confidence is still bullshit. All it takes is one little push against your comfort zone and it all falls apart lol
I love poking holes in
peoplepussies trying to act all confident and cool. It's so stupidly obvious.Or you could just quit playing league (based on your username) and get a social hobby that might help you build sincere confidence and self esteem.
You sound salty. Guess it's easy to sling "pussy" around when you're behind your monitor. You should find a hobby other than being a toxic troll. There is 0 content in your comments.
Yeah man you're gonna wanna stop maining Kennen because of protobelt nerfs and also fix your sad sad view on life and confidence
Im thinking about getting a stag tattoo to remind myself to do this often. Great post!
It's just a method. Don't tattoo for it. Method keep evolving in our lives.
I haven't visited trp in a week and now I come back and this is top post...wtf is going on here.
FYI OP, antlers are part of the cuckold fetish, apparently stag cuckolds are not sissy cuckolds humiliated they try to maintain dignity by pretending to be a stag by wearing antlers. This may add strength to this technique but I can't say.
Wow. This actually works to some extent, and its a pretty genuine post.
Damn, that's fucking glorious. I wish I'd read this sooner, I'm going to try it out at dance class tonight.
I echo your sentiment of thanking TRP. It's overall a great community. Past the people who are consumed by their own rage and the people trying to sell you something, you have the best self-help manual a man could ask for.
It's literally about dicks. Antlers symbolise genetic quality in deer. You're not a deer. What symbolises genetic quality in men is cock size. Walk like you have a big cock. Seriously. This is all this is about. Walk tall with that dumb proud grin like you can handle anything and that life is your play thing.
Not sure if Game of Thrones, Harry Potter,or furry.
Going with your patronis is showing Harry!
As for the first 2, why not both?
well all the Baratheons are dead and a glow in the dark patronis is low key cool
I'm glad that you've gained control over your confidence mechanisms. Thank you for the advice.
I thought it was a shitpost, but now I'm not sure what I read. But it seems like a fun game to play inside your head!
I'm drawing comparisons with young Bobby Boucher from the Waterboy lmao
Wow... I fucking love this. Imma do it. Work it, OP.
It reminds me of the last time I had headshots done (I'm a film actor sometimes) The photographer handed me an unloaded but ornate 6gun pistol. As I held it in my hand (out of frame) I smiled a very confident smile and click! The best portrait of my life.
Antlers, guns, whatever it takes.
Me as a stag got some swag... nice technique... although I'd rather be a predatory animal than the hunted... either way, confidence is most important no matter where you get it. Very nice post for TRP
Whatever works for you i guess
Lurker for two years; first post. I'm dying over here! Thanks bro, I'm going to use this.
Yeah I don't know what you just said, but if it works for you more power to you. As a guy slowly gaining his confidence back, I understand the need to psychologically get your edge back.
I kegel three times a week. Huge confidence booster lol.
I've been saying that all along.
Can someone elaborate in detail on what he means?
Instead of being a beta and walking around staring at my phone I hold my head high becuase I pretend I have a set of deer antlers coming from my head and I want to show them off.
So I guess this is your 1trick?
Ass pennies man. Simplest solution
lmao what? Good posture doesn't necessitate walking around with your butt clenched