This is a problem I've faced ever since I started dating about a year ago.

Finding a guy who 1) is attractive to me, 2) is attracted to me, 3) has a decent job/career, and 4) treats me with kindness and respect is really, really hard.

If I had to compromise on one of these, just logically speaking it would have to be the looks. But I find that my motivation to see someone repeatedly goes down considerably the less attractive he is, even if he's a great person otherwise.

While I don't care about things like height or him having an extremely fit body, there are some facial/body proportion things that I find I can't overlook.

So how do I maintain an abundance mentality knowing that if I find a guy who fulfills my criteria, he's actually pretty rare? I estimate that I would find a "quality" guy every 1-2x/month if I were using OLD more aggressively, which is not bad, but not great if I don't want to fixate on one person.