I'm an intelligent and ambitious woman. I'm not gonna date guys who are not smart and motivated enough for me. If they match the intelligence and ambition that I am attracted to they surely make money because they are men. Therefore, I am not attracted to broke guys. I'm not attracted to paupers, gamblers, drug addicts, gig economy dudes, broke entrepreneurs, or any other kinds of brokeasses because I've had guys leech off me and literally steal money out of my purse. I'm not hot for guys who look at all the shit in my apartment and tell me how nice and valuable it is. I know, dumbass, I bought it, I know how much it is worth. What. The. Fuck. I've dated a guy who tried to mansplain how much my vintage cookware is worth and I'm like YES I KNOW JERRY I BOUGHT THEM. I had a party and two other guys tried to tell me that my dutch oven and bowls are worth a lot. I get it that I have nice stuff and it's like a "conversation" piece but maybe make conversation like, "oh yeah those are the best... they don't make 'em like they used to!" but no all they tell me is that I could get a lot for it on eBay. And I'm like "yes I know I could BECAUSE I BOUGHT IT ON EBAY."
The same guys who want to go dutch on dates and don't wanna plan dates expect women to cook for them. Cooking requires planning, shopping, paying for the stuff, improvising ingredients if you forgot something or the store didn't have it, catering to his not liking onions or whatever, actually cook the shit, cleaning as you go to keep your place looking nice, and then getting dressed and looking amazing when he gets there with a bottle of two buck chuck. That is fucking RIDICULOUS. I love cooking, but I will cook nothing for a guy unless he takes me out on 10+ dinner dates because that's how much fucking work cooking is compared to planning a date and showing up and paying. I will never go dutch on a date again, EVER. I don't care about the money, but it sends a message that he doesn't have to do any work and I'm not having that. In my last relationship I didn't have rules around this and I ended up paying for 60-70% of the dates (and planning 80% of activities, hikes, concerts, etc!!) and THEN I was still running around like a monkey planning meals and cooking dinners for us. Fuck that, it's a scam. Never again, not happening, not sorry. Never again will I outdo myself like that. It's not necessary because I AM ENOUGH.
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Also, thank you for the silver!
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