Hi ladies!

First of all, want to thank you ladies and this sub to step up my queen shit game. i’ve been employing tactics for the last two months and waaalaaa, managed to find myself a high value man that i see real potential to be with.

He’s basically everything i want in a perfectly wrapped up package: well-educated, interesting, sensible, good family, and drop dead gorgeous.

we’ve been seeing each other about twice a week (it’s all my schedule allows) and we’re building a strong, steady emotional connection. he’s deleted his dating apps and is making plans for us far into the new year, introduced me to his family, and has shown me that we are heading towards a relationship.

the last two times i saw him, we’ve cuddled and kissed and things felt very sensual and he even slept over but we didn’t do anything more than that. he would kiss parts of my body over my clothes which felt like he was initiating sex, but when i tried to to escalate, he would de-escalate. he kept saying that he’s enjoying the pace we’re going, which to me felt confusing.

i guess i’ve never been in a situation where a man is choosing to wait? i’m used to men wanting to have sex on the first date and curbing them.

is this weird or a red flag? obviously i’m willing to wait for him because he’s worth it and i’m also enjoying focusing on the emotional connection first. but physical touch and being intimate is important for me when it comes choosing a partner.

i want to ask him what’s up but also want to bring the conversation up carefully...should i just let things play out? curious to see if anyone else has dealt with this and what the outcome was.