Hello Ladies!

I’ve waited a long time to post this because I wanted to give you actual results, not just a couple of good dates.

Using FDS as of last night I have a HV boyfriend after after about three months of dating.

I met him on the one of the apps. He is a bit out of my age range (M38) to my (F26). But I responded to him because his message was direct, clear and charming. He referenced my profile, and after only a few exchanges sent me his number and asked if he could take me to dinner. ( no drink dates, no hang-outs)

After texting him for a day or so and confirming I was free on Tuesday, he sent me this message.

“Do you like Italian Food? We could grab dinner at (name of place) at 7:30. The address is ( address of place)”

I didn’t realize how nice it was not to have to come up with a plan for the date.

Once we got there, conversation was amazing. I was sold on the second date half-way through the first. He’s funny, smart, silly and handsome. He also got wine for the table and paid the entire bill.

That was in early September. Since then I have not planned, nor paid for a date…or a cab, or a bottle of water. My money is no good in his presence. ( to the point that he’s fighting me on me getting him a Christmas present..even though he’s already bought mine eyeroll)

I waited about six weeks to have sex with him, after establishing exclusivity. I made sure to keep my school work as the top priority in my life and I will not change pervious plans that I've made with friends to be with him. I also keep myself up. I dress up for all our dates, and really put in effort to be my best self.

The last few months have been a dream. I’ve been to plays, museums, dance classes, open mic’s and little hole in the wall restaurants. He brings me tea in the morning before he goes to work and the sex is fantastic (It's so wonderful when the person is actually listening to you)

To be sure, he’s not perfect. Our age gap bothers me, (but he’s good about talking through it and letting me express my concerns), arguing politics makes me wanna kill him, and the man is 5 minutes late to EVERYTHING.

But the good outweighs the bad by a huge margin. and when he asked about us last night, my heart had already been his.

Thanks for reading ladies!

Edit: I'm hearing all of you about the age difference! It's at the forefront of my mind and I am watching for any strange or controlling behavior. I also am not rushing into anything. School is at the top of my mind and nothing is getting in the way of that.

Getting married is not my priority for another 5 years or so, so right now I'm just enjoying being treated well. If/when this grows serious, I will definitely be making sure that the correct decision will be made considering all the factors. I'll keep you all posted on how things are going. ❤️

Edit: I've been getting some messages about love bombing so I want to clarify. We live in New York, so all the things we do are convenient. Yes, we go to plays but he gets discounts (or even free tickets) cause he's friends with the actors or the musicians. The museums are free. Open-mics are $5. We try out little neighborhood joints, not $300 steakhouses, and about 50% of the time he cooks or orders takeout. I mentioned those things to clarify that he’s creative about what we do, not that he’s dropping money everywhere.

Additionally, he doesn’t really talk about our future in any sort of crazy way. He mostly wants to retire in DR and play music. He texts maybe once every other day to set up plans, or see how I am. We go out a 2-3 times a week and that’s really it. What ever this is, it’s definitely not forced. It’s just sort of happening. I don’t know what the future will hold, but ladies please stop pushing me down the aisle with this man.