First of all, long time lurker, first time poster as I finally feel comfortable enough to post my experience here. Sorry for the long rant, but I really want to hear your views on this, you've lifted me so much.

So, this happened on New year's eve.

I was going with my (from a couple of days ago) ex to the party at his friends' (small gathering as per covid permissions).

We were in the elevator and a very nice and sweet old lady entered the elevator with us. Little backup story here: I have done my make up since I love doing it for such occasions, and since I wear little to none usually. Had the full glow on, with the lashes and everything. Really loved my reflection that eve. So, we were in the elevator and the lady entered, and inmediately noticed my face and exclaimed "omg, damn you are pretty as hell", something along the lines of that, not important.

I am not used to receiving compliments and usually dont know how to respond to them. I blushed and thanked.

In the middle of my thanking the sweet Lady (who made my evening btw), he interrupted me and said to her: "Please do not tell her that. She will then bug me forever that everyone is complimenting her, but me.", and tried to make it like a joke.

I was speechless. The lady looked at him and said: "dont tell me what to do. You darling look gorgeous and you should know it". Such FDS energy, I love you unknown old lady.

Back to the rant. So, I let it slide. My thinking was "its NYE, I dont want to have an argument rn, so just let it go" but it left a bitter taste in my mouth.

So a week or two went by, and I decided to tell him about the case, and ask why did he think that it is okay to make such thing (its the stupid thing, but still), why it had to be about him?

His response was, and I quote (and shit you not): "you were very bad to me for the past couple of weeks prior to NYE. I wanted to punish you for that, and you should not have received the compliment as you did not deserve it for treating me so bad".

I tried to explain that what he did is emotional abuse he was practicing on me, and that I would not have it. I wanted an apology and maybe I was looking for a little bit of sense in him that would understand why is that so wrong. My god was I stupid. Not only he never apologised, he saw NOTHING wrong with that behaviour and what he did.

Hence he's the ex now.

But I also wanted to say here that I recognised my pickmeism that I was exercising with this scrote, and I decided to stop. You had a lot to do with it and I also want to take this opportunity to thank you. If it wasn't for you, I would most probably just let it go, but I really didnt want to do that. For the first time, most honestly I did not want to let this mf get away with what he did. And it feels great.

So, whats your opinion on this, should I have been punished for my bad, bad behaviour towards the poor scrote? /s