No matter if you’ve been apart of this sub since the beginning or you’re just a woman passing through. If you don’t take anything else from FDS, take this:

If you don’t stand firm in your own standards, morals, beliefs and boundaries, men WILL take advantage of you.

A relationship takes compromise but DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT compromise on these 4 things. If you’re with a man who makes you feel like you have to give up one of these 4 things, he’s not the one.

If you do this, I promise you everything else will fall into place.

As discussed multiple times on this sub, men will poke and prod at you to see how much bullshit they can get away with. He’ll make “jokes” about anal to test the waters and see if you’ll give in. He’ll ask you out on a walking “date” to see how little effort he has to put in before you put out. He’ll talk down to you to see how much control he can have over you.

Stop letting men and pick-me’s convince you that if you maintain high standards and boundaries you will never find a partner. That’s the patriarchy talking. Since women have entered the workforce and become self-reliant, men feel like they have lost control over us. Shaming you about your standards is literally their last line of defense to keep you vulnerable.

There are men who exist who make it their life’s mission to—spiritually, physically, sexually, emotionally, mentally, financially—take from as many weak women as possible. Don’t be one.