Frauding to my girlfriend of 1 year

chiuns5 · 2021-05-21T03:35:40+00:00

Fake it till you make it.

RPEdmonton · 2021-05-21T04:51:34+00:00

Haha I honestly doubt it’s too much of a issue.

She probably rationalizes it as you hanging out with your friends less because you’re spending time with her

Also it’s probably good she feels a little insecure and that it’s at least possible you could be talking to other girls

dr_warlock · 2021-05-21T11:49:33+00:00

1) Dont listen to anybody that says faking it to get what you want is morally wrong or beta. They just dont want guys like that around them which is understandable but irrelevant to the goals of this sub. This sub is about INDIVIDUAL success. You would be right that all women's interest would drop or go to zero when they find out no matter what they say. Having someone tell you to be honest 100% is the 'shit test' that helps THEM not you.

However, you should be working on not having to fake anything.

2) Slight insecurity in a girl keeps her acting right. But not too much. This is a good problem to have. You dont want her 100 comfortable which leads acting up and wandering eyes.

lolomotif12 · 2021-05-21T05:58:46+00:00

Start a social hobby.

Terrorinthecity1 · 2021-05-21T11:22:26+00:00

I disagree with Some of the comments

When it comes to hypergamy and Maximizing sexual strategy women will do what’s it in her best interest every time. Fuck that shit. lie.

I actually cannot believe that guys are saying be honest. Is hypergamy honorable, honest? I am not saying lie to women about serious matters, but petty shit like this? OH yeah ima lie my ass off to get what I want because females got no problem doing it to me. I am also not saying do whatever it takes to get laid like betraying your friends.

You will be standing there like an idiot while the next guy lies about having friends and gets laid with your girl.

NOW, what you should do is stay with your girl, keep her happy, and simultaneously make friends. Do not tell her you don’t have friends, that is stupid.

Women are not equipped to handle full disclosure, it can be the most ridiculous, mundane things that can disqualify you and a potential amazing relationship. Once again don’t lie about important shit, however if You are a virgin you need to freaking lie.

gbizzle2 · 2021-05-21T05:04:21+00:00

Youre trying to impress her because you see her as the prize. This is simp behavior

319Skew · 2021-05-21T05:13:03+00:00

Why do you not have friends?

mr4kino · 2021-05-21T06:48:18+00:00

Weak. A liar is inherently weak. Be truthful and if she leaves, it shouldn't matter to you. Concentrate on yourself, you don't require friends. You require quality friendship and this is hard to come by.

frankreyes · 2021-05-21T06:35:07+00:00

You're in her frame.

The definition of "friends" is not always clear cut. You don't need to have "we went to war and almost died together and now we're best buddies ever" kind of friends.

Start meeting with people in social events such as Meetup, going to conferences, workshops. As long as you do it honestly, doing stuff that you like, they will be your friends.

Joshd_47 · 2021-05-21T09:20:00+00:00

Meeting friends on the meet app or eventhide

sauceyzaddy · 2021-05-21T12:56:57+00:00

Work in sales. It’ll boost your people skills.

__transistor__ · 2021-05-21T05:34:04+00:00

Start coming up with stories about how all your friends are moving away

prettyawsm · 2021-05-21T09:02:37+00:00

What a fucking cringe.

sehns · 2021-05-21T07:23:29+00:00

If you can make it her fault that's the optimal situation. If she starts aggressively questioning about it then flip it on her. She has been "taking up all your time" and now your friends don't invite you out anymore or send you texts. It's even better if it seems like you were hiding that information from her and only revealing it after she's pushing you about it (protecting her feelings).

Not having friends to bullshit with is not healthy though. This isn't going to end well for you.

WhatRemainsAfter · 2021-05-21T11:52:20+00:00

You don't know what frauding is.

Just relax. It is easy to let go of friends when you get into a relationship.

SolidReference8028 · 2021-05-21T06:10:29+00:00

Just say that you spent the afternoon deleting phone numbers, since you no longer have time or interest to spend time with them, and, you are leaving them behind. You don't have the energy for their bullshit.

If you tell this lie, NEVER tell her otherwise.

bugaboo-delight · 2021-05-21T08:09:16+00:00

Tell her she doesnt have friends to get the spotlight off it

CoachOcelot · 2021-05-21T08:36:53+00:00

Get some friends.

Efficient-Ad2392 · 2021-05-21T09:00:39+00:00

What value will having friends add to you relationship. Do NOT ‘want friends’, do become ‘friendly’. One thing I have learnt about human beings is that they always want to be with people who have something going on. Become a creator, come up with interesting things to do with your girl and trust me chico, her friends will want to hang out with you. Examples: 1. House parties and invite you neighbours. Believe me, each one of us would welcome a house party by a neighbour more than a club party offer. 2. Go on walks and make them interesting by taking pictures as you do and post them on SM. 3. Create create create and make it known.

For me, I see no value in just having friends. I prefer to have people I can depend on and learn from rather than just hangout with.

Shipbldr2000 · 2021-05-21T09:13:00+00:00

Stop lying, everything else will sort out.

JackTheRipper_17 · 2021-05-21T09:46:01+00:00

Man just share a cigarette with someone and he'll be your friend

kclanton80 · 2021-05-21T10:13:19+00:00

You care too much about what she thinks. Who cares.....

Fusionnn · 2021-05-21T12:34:00+00:00

Not sure where you live, but start going out and making friends (permitting covid restrictions) I was able to meet people through covid and the people that u do meet will be the most fun because they don't give a shit about covid either and live their lives to the fullest potential, not letting anything stopping them

goudamac · 2021-05-21T13:16:41+00:00

Just stop guarding your phone and talking about friends. If she asks, play it cool and tell her your friends were losers and doing drugs or some shit. Gonna get new friends. Chances are she never asks you about them if you stop mentioning them.

CrypticV3nom · 2021-05-21T13:34:29+00:00

The troll is strong on this one

-since · 2021-05-21T13:59:05+00:00

Develop some frame. Do not fake it. Im so tired of this bullshit bravado of false confidence these days.

On a more positive note, it will matter less and less, the more attached she is towards you. Continue to build that attachment (essentially by bettering yourself in comparison to her)

dgillz · 2021-05-21T13:59:13+00:00

"Frauding"? Is that even a word?

I think you mean "defrauding".

MoreAlfa · 2021-05-21T14:07:19+00:00

You absolutely did not lie to her.

Send me a PM.

Boom!!! You have one friend.

pebblefromwell · 2021-05-21T14:23:36+00:00

Find groups that are common interest with your hobbies, go to them and make friends

tyalanm · 2021-05-21T17:05:47+00:00

How would she know you had no friends from your phone?

NDN2004 · 2021-05-21T17:40:52+00:00

Hit up your old friends if you have some, take up a martial art or sport. Even hit up your coworkers to play warzone or something, go shoot hoop at the park, find someone at the gym to spot you and build a friendship.

Just keep putting yourself in positions to make friends, if you’re lucky you’ll find a group of people and join their clique

Meloxian · 2021-05-22T01:45:18+00:00

Get in your own frame

Bluepilled_beta_simp · 2021-05-22T06:16:47+00:00

I'll pretend to be your friend for $100 a month

CombatPunk88 · 2021-05-21T07:48:59+00:00

You have no friends so what are you even doing that would make her think that you would have someone else to talk to? Regardless, I got the solution...

Get a new phone and conveniently lose the numbers of your "friends". Mention it to her but don't make a fuss about it. If she ever ask about any of them just say that you haven't been close to your friends and that even when you have been hanging out pre covid, it was more like you were going through the motions but you've essentially grown apart. All this works better when you also have no social media for her to reference.

Title	Frauding to my girlfriend of 1 year
Author	Bundabunda101
Upvotes	53
Comments	56
Date	May 21, 2021 3:30 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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