Vetting for porn use

Twohagsover30 · 2021-05-12T17:16:16+00:00

The best way to be totally non-confrontational is to put on the cool girl persona and ask "so, what kind of porn do you watch?" If you seem totally non judgemental, they will spill their beans. I've had men on the first date admit to having a current FWB, being married, being involved in a trouple, all sorts of BS. If you seem Cool with Anything, they usually don't feel the need to hide it. I recommend it because it weeds them out faster and you can block/ delete rather than wasting your time or energy getting into an argument about feminism or misogyny with someone who doesn't respect women to begin with.

sassyheather · 2021-05-12T17:27:43+00:00

I personally have never vetted for porn usage (LV exes straight up told me and me being a total pickme was cool; whereas my current HV understands the issues with porn and doesn’t watch it) but I think pretending like you wanna explore kinks in the bedroom and ask him what he watches would work beautifully. Men into porn would be over the moon if they think their cool gf would support and partake in their porn usage.

Gambit12345 · 2021-05-12T17:32:29+00:00

I used to ask my ex straight up what porn he watched. He would adamantly refuse to tell me. But he’d often use porn as justification for things I should let him do to me. For example, in trying to get me to do anal he said I’d love it because Latinas in porn love anal. (😒😒😒). I’m dubious if a man says he doesn’t watch porn or if he just isn’t telling you. They’ll snitch on themselves eventually

PeaceImpersonified · 2021-05-12T17:18:24+00:00

Ask "what kind" they watch, not if they watch. Oddly enough, if I start up a conversation around sexuality and bring it around that way, they tend to reveal themselves

Also sound real cheery, supportive and curious. They really like that kind of blind sycophancy 😊

AimiHanibal · 2021-05-12T18:11:14+00:00

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Thaumaturg1st · 2021-05-12T17:15:03+00:00

You could probably bring up pornography/pornhub/human trafficking in a "modern day social issues" type of conversation and see the reactions. Awkward nodding, eye shifting, or alternatively arguing against your points seems to be a good tell.

__kamikaze__ · 2021-05-14T03:10:04+00:00

In addition to these great answers, pay attention his vocabulary. For example, if he says something like “hardc0re” a lot, or even his reaction when he sees that word.

Also how he makes jokes. Like if he sees a pie and makes a lame “cr3ampie” joke. These are subtle giveaways.

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Title	Vetting for porn use
Author	Picklebreath666
Upvotes	174
Comments	34
Date	May 12, 2021 3:47 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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