You can read as many articles as you want but everyone shows jealousy differently. I had an ex who presented as HV but was LV (don't we all). Because he said everything in a normal and gentle voice and had normal body language, it was hard to know what I was running into.

A few of his tells that he was jealous/envious of me are:

  • He was "inspired" by me. He only told me he was proud of my accomplishments when prompted but otherwise, he would turn everything around to himself. He literally told me that when he sees me doing things, he feels "inspired to do more and to achieve great things." Before that was flattering, now FDS me thinks that is wrong. Two examples 1. When I moved to a tourist area (away from him), he convinced all his friends to go on vacation there when I was out of town. 2. When he found out I was doing a specific program in school, he tried to switch into it in his last semester (without having done the prereqs). Didn't work.
  • He would text me when I was out with my friends. Constantly saying "What are you doing now?" "Oh that's fun! We should do that next time," etc. I thought wow, he really cares to know about me but it wasn't that. He wanted to interrupt what I was doing so I would think of him. God forbid he texts me back when he's hanging out with his friends.
  • He would say "must be nice." Hearing this sounds like nails on a chalkboard. He knew a lot of the things he was doing were below my standards and would apologize. If I told him something like "My friends and I are going sightseeing" queue the must be nice symphony. Should've been the biggest red flag for me but I was a pickme wadaya gonna do.

After a while he:

  • Saw the life and standards I lived and tried to live them for himself (not us). Besides the vacation, he started doing the same activities I did, going out to the same places I did, traveling to the same places I went to (without me), picked up the same hobbies as me. But all in the sake of "I inspired him."
  • Started posting an incessant amount of IG pics and stories. I was never in any of them. He picked up going out more and posting a lot more.
  • Started fading away when I was doing things he couldn't beat. I don't run around telling people what I do but this was a job that was really hard to get and he knew that. The moment I told him I got it, he stopped calling and rarely texted. He also did the thing where he overhypes what he is doing.

I broke it off. I don't know what he is up to now but I am almost positive it is killing him because I blocked/deleted him on literally every site and also deleted my accounts.

Have any of you been in a situation like this? I am genuinely curious because this LV guy's jealousy/envy was all new for me and I want to know what to look out for.