My father just passed this past month and my LTR has show obvious support but there's as a huge increase in shit testing and the like. Is this normal?

themostgianthorse · 2021-04-22T18:07:33+00:00

Sorry to hear about your dad.

As for as your LTR goes the TLDR of this is:

“My LTR is disrespecting me and I need to get rid of her but won’t right now because I have a lot going on. I probably failed to set boundaries. Please help.”

Get rid of your LTR that has a “crush” on your roommate.

Xaxaima · 2021-04-22T21:14:40+00:00

If she is crushing on your room-mate enough that you've noticed it, she's doing it deliberately. Girls know what they're doing with this shit better than we do. Fact is she's been put off seeing you at your weakest (sorry for your loss by the way, I've been there), it's nothing you've done wrong really in this case, just a reflection on her being a shitty person.

Advice is ditch her, use your inheritance to level yourself up - buy better food for nutrition, get a personal trainer or a better gym membership (better yet buy a home gym), refresh your style and pay for advice if you need to, get a better barber etc etc. Invest sensibly, educate yourself, land a mega job, start a business, you name it, money is power. Pick up a new hobby to focus on, meet new people via that and be the guy that sets things up, introduce friends to these new people etc, become the focal point of your network and you'll attract people towards your orbit. Focus on yourself, get your head straight from the loss and don't look back. 100% you'll be in a better position than you ever were before.

Obligatory thanks for the gold!

__TheDon__ · 2021-04-22T18:06:56+00:00

Has a crush on your roommate lmao? Why are you still with her if she’s shown interest in another man?

discohumpty · 2021-04-22T18:14:17+00:00

Get rid of her. Especially if she has a crush on your roommate. Ya gonna let your girl cuck you?

halleluiaiaia9292 · 2021-04-22T19:37:40+00:00

Mate.. “has a crush on my roomate”.

Leave her

319Skew · 2021-04-22T21:34:45+00:00

I'll add my voice to the choir. Leave her.

Speaking from experience, women sense weakness. You get more shit tests when she's not sure if you're that Chad.

Shit tests are also there for when she's trying to justify branch swing.

Her having a crush on another guy that lives with you doesn't help.

So, here you are with a recent loss (condolences), dealing with her shit while she's probably thinking about how she can spend your money while flirting with the idea of your roommate... Fuck that noise. It's not what she wants. It's what you need.

Repeat this line :

"I don't think we're a good fit. I wish you the best but I think we should go our separate ways."

For your roommate, normally, I wouldn't advocate this but there's always an exception.

If you are chill with him, let him know that you are going to dumping her and she has mentioned that she has had a crush on him. If she hits him up, he can do what he wants but keep it outside the house.

If I had to gamble, I'd bet on the man.

Most guys with class have enough character to understand. Most women who feel that they were cheated from money and were kicked to the curb go for the jugular and are ruthless.

This isn't because OP is mate guarding but to limit and restrict the drama that I'd imagine she'd bring.

I may be wrong but I've seen women do some fucked up things and am looking after OP's mental state.

Redpiller1988 · 2021-04-22T19:52:40+00:00

First off my condolences on your pops bro.

Secondly, she should be supporting you now more than ever. If she gives you that feeling bro kick her ass to the curb. Focus on yourself. You’re going to feel like shit, but time will pass and you’ll feel better soon enough.

Keep in the back of your mind that day by day her SMV declines and she’s going to get uglier by the minute. You on the other hand will get better and better if you do it right. More girls will appear that are more appreciative of your time. Hope this helps homie.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2021-04-22T19:32:18+00:00

First, never tell bitches that you are coming into money. All my girls know about my salary is that I seem to do fairly well. They don’t know any numbers, and that’s how it’s going to stay. You can’t really hide everything, because women can smell success somehow. I was at a hardware store dressed in torn jeans and a crappy T-shirt and a woman said to me “you’re either a lawyer, a doctor, or a banker, aren’t you?”

Also, don’t show weakness. Women probe for it to see if you handle stress well. If you show weakness now, it’s not going to bode well for the relationship. They cannot unsee it. You are the skipper, and the skipper always knows.

throwRA3141565 · 2021-04-22T21:43:28+00:00

You lose your job, you lose someone close to you, something terrible happens in your life -> never ever expect a woman to have your back in this scenario. These are unequivocally turn-offs for women to see these weaknesses in your life - even if they are not your fault. Do not overshare. Do not expect her to understand. All women never will, and most will lie that they do. Women are children and want candy and video games and entertainment. Just the thought of potentially losing their candy source or finding a better flavor outside will have them running. The shit-tests increasing with a huge loss in your life makes total sense, especially if you've been over-sharing your understandable vulnerable feelings of loss.

spedoid · 2021-04-22T19:42:19+00:00

do her. next

TerminallyChill94 · 2021-04-22T20:56:36+00:00

this one is easy..

pnzndltn · 2021-04-22T21:10:22+00:00

Sorry to hear about your dad man. All the best.

sixseven89 · 2021-04-22T21:14:13+00:00

I got a sizeable inheritance which perked her up

what the fuck

CrypticV3nom · 2021-04-22T21:54:02+00:00

First I'm sorry for your loss. Almost 5 years ago I lost my father and know how you're feeling. At the time, I was engaged and her inheritance radar must have went up like your girls is.

First,I kid you not, every morning I'd wake up sad for like a week, she sensed it, she would suck my dick like it was leaving her, it was great. She'd wake me up to do it

At first I thought it was grief, but as the month passed so did the porn star antics. The inheritance was distributed her old attitude came back when she found out she wasn't getting anything from me. I had paid massive CC debt, bought myself a car and invested the rest in savings and funds.

Long story short, I got married and divorced and if I could do it again her attitude when I told her I spent all my inheritance without spending a dime on her, showed me all I should've needed to see.

Take time to yourself, grieve by yourself, and don't make decisions without sleeping a day on it.

Your father worked his life to give you what you're getting. It's for you, not her and not "us"

sicrm · 2021-04-22T20:49:54+00:00

break up with her when you feel it

CoachOcelot · 2021-04-22T21:06:45+00:00

Tell her to leave you alone for a while, while you deal with your serious shit.

If she respects you, she will. If she doesn't leave you be, show her where the door is.

TheSmile_10 · 2021-04-22T21:53:19+00:00

Sorry about your loss brother.

After seeing what you have written about her in the OP and comments I suggest dump and move on. Doesn't sound like high quality LTR material tbh.

Take care!

dogebiscut · 2021-04-23T01:00:06+00:00

"Don't let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner."

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2021-04-23T01:30:24+00:00

Pretty egregious for her to be shit testing you about the windfall, after you dad died.

I can see the dollar signs in her eyes from here.

discohumpty · 2021-04-22T22:39:00+00:00

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Enjoyitbeforeitsover · 2021-04-23T02:58:22+00:00

dump her man wtf... take care of your mental health

2021-04-23T14:14:30+00:00

Hard next

150420throwaway · 2021-04-23T16:29:26+00:00

Apart from the good advice others have given, make sure you don’t fall into oneitis and start spending money on her, fuck her, not literally cuz she doesn’t deserve it, nor your attention.

I hate saying shit like “dump her” because it’s not my life and I don’t know enough, but from what you’ve written, she is one hell of a toxic broad.

BLM-TheNewBrowncoats · 2021-04-22T23:08:42+00:00

She screwed your roommate. It's obvious.

GEEZUS00 · 2021-04-23T07:26:05+00:00

I would leave her. She’s for the streets.

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