RPW/RPGF Soft Skills: Other than being an all around Domestic Goddess, what are some small things, overlooked things or “soft skills” you think more women should learn or utilize?

Mewster1818 · 2021-07-30T20:23:27+00:00

Practice the "art" of being happy.

I know it's not possible to be happy all the time, but being a cheerful person is definitely a skill that you can polish. Positivity is a choice, and it's one that will pay off not just in relationships but all walks of life... no one wants to be around someone who is negative after all.

SteakNotCake · 2021-07-30T21:32:36+00:00

Learning to listen. My husband works in a field I don’t really care much about. But I’ve made it a big priority to listen and engage when he talks about work or his day. Men want to feel important and heard.

q-the-light · 2021-07-30T21:43:04+00:00

My partner often praises me for my wisdom, a welcome symptom of my discernment in the Church. He loves that I take time to ensure any and all advice I give is well-placed and thoughtful, and whilst I am not always right, I do try to be as helpful as I can. But, part of this that most people ignore is that being a wise and helpful advisor is reliant on knowing when not to give advice just as much as knowing when it is welcome. Unsolicited advice, no matter how good, is rarely helpful and does not lend well to your character. Many women are prone to giving advice freely whether it is wanted or not - learning when as well as how to advise is a valuable skill for all.

dontouchmybutt · 2021-07-30T19:55:31+00:00

How to bring up things you are unhappy with in a way that you feel fulfilled but you aren't nagging or creating a bigger deal out of issues. Learning how to read and manage your emotions in a relationship is huge. Also not losing your childlike fun outlook on life.

anothergoodbook · 2021-07-30T23:42:52+00:00

Learning to not complain. I was listening to Suzanne Venker and she mentioned not venting to your man. It makes him feel powerless because he likes action versus just complaining. I asked my husband if that was true and he said it was 100% accurate. It’s been something he’s brought up over the years that it makes me seem so unhappy.

Learning to not vent to him and complain has actually made my life overall better. I notice I’m more focused on the positive things around me and instead of complaining I’m more likely to try and change the things I don’t like.

JMR2546 · 2021-07-30T23:07:01+00:00

Having a good ear/memory! My man will mention snacks he likes, stuff he needs just in passing - not intending for me to remember any of it or for me to even buy it. But he’s SO surprised and appreciative when I say oh I bought those cookies you mentioned you like! His face just lights up lol oh it makes my day :)

All_Lurk_No_Post365 · 2021-07-30T19:53:48+00:00

Man here:

I definitely appreciate a soft place to land as well as earned non ass-kissing genuine compliments. Also just having someone pleasant to be around is important.

IMO these are much more important than cooking and cleaning.

Inside_Ad_7292 · 2021-07-31T14:28:59+00:00

Learning how to keep certain aspects of my life private. I’m naturally a very open and honest person, at times to a fault. I know I’m not alone in this trait; since much of my time has been spent in conversation with women (and men) who have a similar tendency. But there is a certain power in withholding the more sacred or special aspects of your life. It creates a sort of exclusivity for those few you choose to include (including your spouse).

AdventurousAd5107 · 2021-08-24T10:20:39+00:00

“I will express my opinions and thoughts to you when you are faced with a decision but if you choose a path different from my suggestion or even they by chance mirror and we agree I will be happy with whatever happens good or bad outcome because you have made YOUR decision and respecting that matters more to me”

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