Is being a woman harder than being a man? I have my opinion and wanted to read yours.

accidental_me · 2020-11-13T16:14:33+00:00

I don't think there is any scientific way to measure the difference. That said,

women tend to be happier and more content with their lives
women commit fewer suicides
women die older which probably reflects to some degree the harder lives men live (like harder work, much more marginalization etc)
women's quality of life tends to be higher in most countries, particularly in the west
if you remove the feminist bias from the equality indexes they seem to show that there is a gender gap in favor of women
women tend to get a better education which often leads to better chances of employment and better jobs
women lead safer lives
women tend to have better social and governmental safety nets which happens to be very important to how hard you live is likely to be
women tend to spend more which should - according to the economic theory - mean they get their wants and needs better fulfilled
women's role is more free
women work less
women can more freely choose between family and career

Women on the other hand get mansplained and manterrupted. Just kidding, there are serious negative things that tend to affect women more than men, like certain sex-related things. I just find it enormously difficult to imagine how anybody could prove that women's lives are harder in the light of lists like the one above.

Yellowjet9 · 2020-11-13T15:41:04+00:00

I think it’s unfair to compare the two - men have to deal with things that women don’t, and women have to deal with things that men don’t, each has their issues

womensrightsactivism · 2020-11-13T21:07:16+00:00

as a woman,no. It's not. I feel men have it a lot harder than we do,especially being that there's no support groups or shelters for abused men,male rape is ignored or even mocked,and divorce usually favors for women even if we were in the wrong

Bigdogdom69 · 2020-11-13T16:06:57+00:00

I'd say social class and wealth would usually be much bigger factors than any demography.

You'll also often hear the argument that while both genders face a lot of unique problems that make life harder, people care about women's problems and laugh at men's. This is definitely true to an extent. You'll also hear the argument that women have it easier because some of them are attractive and they get merit based on that, but I'd say that's men's fault for letting that attractiveness mean as much as it does.

The problem is there is too much dissent to fix these problems. For men, you've got people who instead of helping other men they distance themselves as if to say "Yeah they're bad, but I'M on YOUR side", and for women you've got those who kind of disown other women for acknowledging that our problems are more two sided than the media makes them appear.

All in all I'd say it's pretty shitty for everyone. The sooner we stop fighting amongst ourselves and decide to demand more from the establishment, the sooner we can all enjoy our lives and reliably expect our individual issues to be taken seriously.

frustr8tion · 2020-11-13T16:11:08+00:00

I have an easier time when presenting as a woman. But then I'm transgender so that's bound to be the case.

It's a different bag for everyone. Men and women don't understand each other.

Taking cross-sex hormones was very eye opening. But basically, it's easy to underestimate what you don't understand.

Rockbottom503 · 2020-11-13T16:07:33+00:00

nobody can ever give you a definitive answer to that question as nobody is ever going to experience both; even transgender people are only ever going to experience things through a certain filter.

ValenciaHadley · 2020-11-13T20:43:34+00:00

I lived in supported accommodation (UK) for five years and personal experience tells me that women have it much easier than men. In every house I lived in (seven houses in total and three different companies/charities running them) if a woman said a man broke the rules there was no investigation, he was just kicked out. However if a woman broke the rules, she just needs more support or she's having a bad day. Some places had rules just for men as well and a lot of the time women got away behaving however they liked. I can count on one hand the number of men I had issues with, you know bullying and such but I've lost count of the amount of women who've bullied me in those places. The first charity that housed me typically used converted houses to home about six or seven people and I was told by a member of staff that they wouldn't have more than half the residents men because more than half a house of men gets violent. One house I lived I had all six rooms filled with women because we can be trusted to behave well apparently not, they were almost daily fights and more than daily screaming matches. I could probably fill a book with how horrible and sexist those places are and if you can avoid them do it.

bufedad · 2020-11-13T16:29:33+00:00

In what way?

Having organizations and scholarships designed to help you achieve over similarly situated men?

Having laws written and enacted to ensure you get the financial outcome of a marriage you want?

Having the option to not work if your spouse can support the family alone?

Having every little problem validated and dealt with? (a man looked at me on the bus [woman] is a bigger problem than suicide [men])

I struggle to find a single area other than menstruation that women have it harder than men.

madtayham · 2020-11-13T21:07:05+00:00

as a woman,no. It's not. I feel men have it a lot harder than we do,especially being that there's no support groups or shelters for abused men,male rape is ignored or even mocked,and divorce usually favors for women even if we were in the wrong

NoMoreMisterMaybe · 2020-11-13T19:52:39+00:00

If a man is fucked, he's fucked. If a woman is fucked, she has god-knows-what to fall back on.

If a man wants to excel and have everything, he realistically has better odds than a woman (well, at least until the simps and feminists have successfully pushed their sex-positive agenda). Just on the premise of men being biologically stronger, more driven and not needing to sacrifice as much for a child as a woman (need, not want).

If you just care about an average life (which realistically, most people do), being a woman in an extremely safe and large societies (even in non-western countries) is way easier. Welfare combined with the halo effect does a ridiculous amount for women compared to men. And while men's strength as provider is funneled towards the government back to women, therefore removing that strength from men, we do not do the same for a woman's strength as caregiver. In fact, it's the opposite, it's one of the main reasons given when fighting for child custody in favor of the mother.

That's all it is really. And SJWs would like you to only focus on the high ceiling part, not on the low floor part.

baxigamer22 · 2020-11-13T15:40:29+00:00

In some aspects or situations, it's harder for women and same can be said for men. Everyone has their own problems .

Projectenzo · 2020-11-13T16:24:05+00:00

Men and women are not two entirely distinctive entities but individual human beings with their own proclivities and lived realities. It is virtually impossible to examine every conceivable factors of every single individual, and thus there can be no appropriate yes/no answer.

themolestedsliver · 2020-11-13T16:59:09+00:00

I think it is hard to really quantify this because in the middle east/asian countries being a women does make your life worse in terms of culture and marriage.

That said in american and European countries women definitely have the advantage and the fact that merely talking about that gets you labeled a neckbeard virgin who hates women all but proves it.

womensrightsactivism · 2020-11-13T19:45:53+00:00

I believe it's harder in some ways and easier in some ways to be a woman.

It's harder because your relatives view you as incapable of protecting yourself and rather than teaching you how to defend yourself they just tell you how to dress, to ignore men who try to talk to you, and to NEVER walk alone at night.

It's easier because you have measures put in to help you succeed. But is this really an advantage? I for one have worked my ass off to get into college but just because I have a vagina people assume I didn't earn it or that I'm only going to college to find a husband. If I had a penis people would respect me.

spaghettbaguett · 2020-11-13T17:42:23+00:00

As far as I can tell...

below the age of 18: yes

above? ahahaha

AHAHAHAHAH. no.

*reason below 18: oversexualising by pedo's, periods, depression from puberty, and all that shit*

however above 18?

pfff, who needs to work when I can take a pic of my tit and sell it?

CoolDEpot · 2020-11-13T21:51:24+00:00

c0ughdr0ps · 2020-11-14T01:06:23+00:00

hello! i was born a female but now identify otherwise. but i just want to add a few points. i’m not saying that women have it harder than men, i’m just telling you some things i’ve learned in my time of having a vagina.

self defense classes are mainly aimed at women, as they are deemed more susceptible to being kidnapped/raped
in religious schools mostly, the chewed gum analogy is taught in health classes (“you wouldn’t wanna chew a piece of gum that’s been chewed by other people”) it’s a slut-shaming tactic and provokes female students to feel ashamed about their sexual behavior.
lesbians and bisexual females are often fetishized by heterosexual men
feminism is seen as a man-hating movement, which is not the case at all. women who hate men are NOT feminists!
menstrual pain is a huge part of life for some vagina-having people (myself included) and is often portrayed as “attention seeking” or “not that bad”.

those are some things that i know and have learned over the past 18 years. again, i’m not claiming one group has it worse than the other, just sharing my views :)

womensrightsactivism · 2020-11-13T21:07:14+00:00

Just a reminder:

Not all women want or have the self esteem to just trade porn for money. I for one am a Christian so I don't see selling my body as a privilege. If anything, it's a reminder of how humanity has fallen.

Also, guys have be ability to trade porn for money too. Sell your dick pics to gay dudes.

wesborlandisagod5 · 2020-11-13T21:12:34+00:00

Men have it harder for sure

2020-11-14T02:23:24+00:00

It depends. Health-wise, I think women might have it harder. The female reproductive system is much more complex and requires more attention and caretaking, and childbirth is extremely difficult and I think there was a 20% mortality rate or something of that sort at some point (possibly medieval ages?)

Physical labor is usually performed by men because they're biologically/physiologically more capable of doing so, but that doesn't mean they don't have it hard. It's really hard to say, I think both genders carry heavy burdens.

wicnfuai · 2020-11-13T17:28:48+00:00

Like other comments have already mentioned, it will definitely depend on the country/area of the world. For example, life as a woman in sub Saharan Africa or Afghanistan is going to be much worse than a woman in the Netherlands or USA for many reasons.

But let’s just take the USA for example. It’s true it depends on the situation but I would say if you take an attractive woman and put her in a random place, the woman may have a have a harder time simply because there are a higher number of aggressive heterosexual males that desire to gain pleasure than there are homosexual men/heterosexual women to an attractive man in the same situation.

But thats not to say men have it good in life, in many instances, men have it much worse than women. Heck, even if those impoverished countries, the rate of genital mutilation is far higher for males than it is for females and rape of the young boys happens too as it does to females. But in the random situation I described above, I think in a country like USA, Canada, etc, life may be slightly harder for women.

l0g1cm4rt · 2020-11-13T17:03:10+00:00

A man who can't pay his rent, "I'll have to find a bridge to sleep under".

A woman who can't pay her rent, "I'll just sell pictures of my butthole on OnlyFans".

nbthrowaway12 · 2020-11-13T18:18:40+00:00

Both men and women suffer from sexism in different ways. I think it's hard to quantify.

But overall, in the Western world, I think women have it slightly easier. They are less at risk of violence, and they live their dating lives on easymode.

It's absolutely astounding how easy it is for women to date.

2020-11-13T16:25:47+00:00

Depends on the country actually. If they have good feminist foundations, being a women will be easier otherwise they will be very very tough.

That being said, these feminists should go to all these nations and preach about their beliefs there.

Oishiio42 · 2020-11-14T02:13:46+00:00

Comparing suffering tends to be counterproductive and ultimately divisive. Socioeconomic class is a much better indicator of how hard a person's life is than is gender.

There are many problems that uniquely affect men, and many problems that uniquely affect women, and many times they are tied together. Is it worse to be pushed into poverty as a single mother from lack of availability to work or is it worse to be forced to work 2 jobs to keep up with child support? Most importantly, do we gain anything meaningful from deciding that, or are our efforts better directed towards finding solutions?

RockmanXX · 2020-11-14T02:48:19+00:00

I'd like to know but as a man I can't truly know. A woman cannot truly now how it is for us.
There are many undeniable facts about both sexes that cannot be changed and 'some people' need to stop whining about it.
Periods and pregnancy. Get over it. Every cell in our body reproduces and we cannot continue as a species without having children. It may seem 'unfair' by 'some women' that they have to carry the kid but men will never experience what women can.
IMO, bringing a new life into this world is scary and at some point, you will be the one doing everything for her to provide the best outcome for her and the child. She'll be so big and unable to move well so you will have to do some less than ideal health and hygiene for her.
Innately, we (men) are natural provider and protectors. If I'm doing all I can for her and any potential children, what happens if I go down? Imagine how scared she is going to be. The seasonal flu can knock someone down for weeks. Extreme fatigue and other symptoms can even send someone to the hospital.
I think one of the most personal things a couple (man and woman) can do is to be open and transparent about everything about them. Why they feel that their life is subjectively hard.

2020-11-14T04:39:39+00:00

Being Male is inherently harder, And for most males it’s even a sin.

White_Mlungu_Capital · 2020-11-15T08:32:02+00:00

The only harder thing women have to deal with is their vagina bleeds alot 1 week a month, they have a bunch of emotions they can't explain and cry about and they can be expected to allow the men to be in charge of the relation but many men screw it up.

The only men who have it easier are gay men who sleep their way to the top.

RockmanXX · 2020-11-13T15:50:41+00:00

No gender has nothing to do with how easy or hard your life.

Is being a woman harder than being a man? I have my opinion and wanted to read yours.

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