At RPW we like self-improvement, so can we talk about our goals for 2014?

drop_commentator · 2014-01-30T16:28:22+00:00

I feel like I'm still stuck in my teenage years behaviorally and interest-wise, so this year is the year of personality development for me--I want to get at least one 'adult' hobby, preferably one that can make me a little money. I also want to be more selfless, friendly, and approachable. This year I plan to sort of 'inherit' the housekeeping from my mom too, since I have more free time and am more able-bodied. I'm also in the process of losing weight, but that doesn't really fit into my 'year of personality development' theme hehe :P

Bakerofpie · 2014-01-30T18:51:20+00:00

I don't necessarily have any resolutions for the whole year because short term goals work better for me.

-My weight loss has hit a plateau, so I've started paying more attention to what I'm eating. For now I'm just planning my meals ahead and trying to make healthier choices, but the end goal is to drop perhaps another 10 lbs. Hubby might not like that at all so I may end up stopping at 5.

-Grow out my hair,finally get it to the base color I want and keep it that way. Learn more ways to keep it out of my way besides ponytails because my husband hates them.

-Try some new routines and products for my skin. Maybe someone can give some suggestions on this one. I've never really had bad skin except the past year and a half. I break out very frequently which is really embarrassing, especially since I'm not used to it. Along those lines, I also want to find a good foundation for my skin tone and see if a BB cream exists that is light enough. I have the palest skin possible without actually having albinism and most makeup brands do not even carry a shade that is light enough for my skin. I need to research more on that.

-IMPROVE MY POSTURE. I think that's one of the biggest ones for me, and includes increasing core strength.

-Get down a normal routine for working out that I can do most of even when my health problems are flaring up so I have no excuses.

Nonmedicated · 2014-01-30T17:34:32+00:00

Live more a more minimalistic life. I'm trying to really get rid of all the unnecessary stuff in our home and keep the things that add beauty and utility.

I want to paint more. I have a studio that needs to be cleaned up.

I want to relearn the violin. I want music in our home made by us. I love string instruments, a violin is small and portable.

I want to ask better questions. There was a blog post on momestary about asking better questions to your loved ones as a way to connect. I realize how often "what did you do at school today?" Is never met with a real reflective answer. Same with "how was your day?"

I want to build up enough strength to fire my longbow with accuracy on a fast draw. And I only realized this when you posed this question. Thank you.

pinkantlers · 2014-01-30T16:19:53+00:00

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margerym · 2014-01-30T16:21:26+00:00

The standard "get fit" But my central focus this year is to be a far better homemaker. That will help in my getting fitter (being more active throughout the day, cooking healthier, etc)

morepill2 · 2014-01-30T16:43:40+00:00

I want a 6 pack by the end of the year, since I've never had one before (prior to last year, I had always been overweight).
I want to squat at least 200 lbs, a la my CrossFit girl-idol, Camille.
Pay off all outstanding debts with my new, much higher salary and contribute more to household expenses.
Open a college fund for my nephew.
Go on a low key vacation with my husband and dog to... the beach? His family farm? Not sure yet, but anywhere with them would be fine by me. :D
Start investing in my looks even more now that I can afford to (professional haircuts, new clothes/shoes to replace my worn-out ones, hooray!).
Finish restoring my motorcycle, and then go on a long ride with the hubby and his Triumph.
Clear out my office and turn it into a giant walk-in closet both because I have permission to now and because it'll be a good place to hide all of my shoes, which will make my husband very happy. ;D
Open my Roth IRA!

These are all very doable this year, and I'm super thrilled about them all! 2014 is going to be an amazing.

TempestTcup · 2014-01-30T16:53:18+00:00

I have been really busy at work and here, and I think I've been backsliding on my "be sweet and accommodating" stance, so I will work on that. Otherwise, I'm going to try to start working more on my house to make it more enjoyable.

sugarcrush · 2014-01-30T17:28:30+00:00

Be more fit and healthy. I'm kind of playing around with the idea of signing up for 5ks as a goal, but I like lifting more so we'll see
All "A"s in classes
Bake more. Pie and bread specifically. Probably start with bread and work up to pies :)
Hit 6 months of savings goal and if we are super lucky hopefully start a house fund!

morganlane · 2014-01-30T17:55:15+00:00

-Get stronger and ripped. I'm already pretty strong as I've been lifting for a while, but I do need to eat better, and focus on increasing my lifts.

-Step up my cooking game. I'm already decent and my fiance enjoys what I cook. But I want to continue to diversify what I make while keeping it frugal and healthy. Also, I must get better at not wasting food.

-Grow out my hair and keep it healthy and beautiful.

-Get better at housekeeping. I'm a former lazy-ass in the midst of reform. I need to continue to better my housekeeping habits and develop routines to keep it consistent.

-Save, save, save! My fiance and I are saving for a house, and I've got a history of being spendy. I need to sock away money from each check to contribute to our house fund.

pinkantlers · 2014-01-30T20:13:07+00:00

Mine:

Lose 20 lbs and stay fit
Learn to actually save money
Vacation with my SO this Spring Break
Eat healthier
Actually finish writing a novel

pinkantlers · 2014-01-30T21:03:49+00:00

Excellent goals, hun. If you're not bilingual, perhaps learning another language would be fun! Especially if you're going on holiday abroad. :)

I Haven't gone shopping in 2 years. I still have all of my dirty hippie clothes, so I need to go shopping. Stat.
New underwear. New, pretty underwear.
Start cooking healthier foods more frequently.
Improve my baking skills
Save money!
Get even sexier! More crunches, pushups, and squats.
Sign up for the dance lessons I have been eyeballing for a while.

2014-01-30T18:53:27+00:00

Get engaged to my current BF - something I want to achieve. He and I have been going through couple's books and ring shopping. Is this a weird thing to be on the list?
Relearn to knit - definitely a goal; my grandmother taught me as a little girl, and I'd love to refresh my skills.
Save more money - I set my bank to auto-transfer a bit out of my paycheck each week. I spent most of last year self-improving my wardrobe (classic, quality pieces), and I'd like to save money that I had redirected for clothes. I also want to cook more so that my BF and I can have meals at work instead of eating out.
Continue exercising and work daily on being a polished, professional young woman for my BF. I don't need makeup, but I want to always look good for him even if that means extra time for a layer of foundation and mascara.

scallopkid · 2014-01-30T20:21:31+00:00

Finish going through all of my clothes and getting rid if everything I don't love. Then go shopping to fill in any gaps. I need some less casual but not super formal clothes. My older cousins are my style role models and every time I see them I get motivated to improve mine.
Work hard this semester and get good grades. Then only one year left, I can't wait to be done.
Work on my social skills. I am ok in this area but I really want to work on quickly making shy people feel comfortable and really warming / brightening up the room. Again, my older cousins are really good models of this. I wish I saw them more often.
I want to improve my running so that I can think of a mile as a sprint/long sprint. I don't really want to work on running much more than a mile at a time, but I want to improve my mile time.
Learn to do a handstand
Work out besides cardio. I don't want to get any kind of bulky but I do want to do some light lifting to improve my sprinting.
When I move in with my boyfriend in the fall: make sure I don't get lazy with the cooking, get into a routine and make it just part of my life. I've never been in charge of all my own and someone else's meals before so I want to start off by forming good habits so I don't have to fix bad ones later.
Horseback riding goals: work on my automatic release, planning sharp turns, landing on the correct lead. Ride like eddiesgun91.
Do my nails more often.
I have a big list of books to read.
I'm always striving to improve my mind and keep my thoughts more consistent with my philosophies, basically to react to things the way I would want myself to if I had time to think about it.
Learn to French braid my hair.

Ruthydugs · 2014-01-31T14:28:29+00:00

2014 Im coming for you!

Exercise my arse off and shift the 'love chub' to get back to my best possible figure
Move house/ Sell my house and buy home together with my BF!
Become a morning person so we can have better more productive days
Stick to my skincare routine past March (most years I start this and it fades away)
Be a real asset to the company I work for more so than I already am

Im sure ill add loads more as the year goes on and when our lives change dramatically by relocating across the country together there will be 'Make new friends' on the list too!

FleetingWish · 2014-01-30T19:57:23+00:00

By this summer my goal is to have a great body, and buy a bikini to show it off in. Hopefully my skin will be cleared by then, and I can work on getting my scars removed. Also this year I think is a breast lift. Oh yeah and pass my actuary test.

gabilromariz · 2014-01-30T22:53:54+00:00

This year I'll improve my college scores and work on my looks with my SO.

My style has changed a lot as I grew into loving my body (as a teen I got made fun of because of my boobs) and I already got my first goal done: get rid of clothes that don't make you feel sexy/sofisticated/classy

Now I'm getting a little help in shopping for stuff that'll look good on me and that I'll feel good in. For now I'm relegated to a uniform of perfect fitting jeans and tight sweaters. Already got some dresses for summer

eatplaycrush · 2014-01-30T23:03:16+00:00

Definitely go on a vacation with my boyfriend. We have tried to do something two seperate times now and it's failed. It would be our first trip anywhere together!

Learn how to speak my feelings in a way that my bf will understand rather then keeping them in.

Work on becoming better at organizing my daily routines and make a set schedule for chores so there are no excuses.

Work at making sure coming home is the best and most exciting part of my man's day every day.

Join the 300# club for back squats (1RM is 255) Learn to string 10 muscle ups in a row (at 3 as of yesterday so this might be doable).

Learn how to make ice cream properly and not screw it up every time :)

Get our dog back into really good shape and take her hiking. I definitely want a real hobby with her this year.

meowfacenator · 2014-01-31T00:30:31+00:00

an important one for me is to try to be content with my situation and not get bogged down with negativity. eg: 1) in my profession (radiation therapy) many people travel all over the world for work, I have not. I really should be happy that I have a great job, friends and husband. 2) major earthquakes in my city have meant our house has been unlivable for the past 3 years while waiting for the insurance company to hurry up and get on with rebuilding. What i should focus on is that fact that we'll have a brand new house by Xmas and that in reality we have been really lucky. Positivity in general for 2014!!

Overshadows · 2014-01-31T01:16:15+00:00

Start gaining muscle. Firm that butt!

Learn new recipes and break in the hubby's family cookbook.

pinkantlers · 2014-01-31T18:48:33+00:00

I often say the wrong thing......my bf knows this! I've been working on it. But, I slip and he gets mad.

Title	At RPW we like self-improvement, so can we talk about our goals for 2014?
Author	pinkantlers
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Date	January 30, 2014 3:56 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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