It feels so, like, degrading every time I hear it, like only the wife is entitled to happiness in a marriage, wtf? So my situation usually goes like this- my wife and I(no kids) regularly hang out with her family, so 2 SIL's, MIL, plus 3 nieces. One BIL, who is usually off doing something else, we're not really all that 'chumy'. So inevitably there always seems to be 'debates' about one issue or another... and I'd say at least a dozen times in the last 10 years of being married, I've heard this damn frustrating terminology come from one of them. Worst part is I have no quirky comeback. All I can say is 'Well, happy husband equals happy marriage-land" or something. I dunno, it's so awkward that they're so quick to say this shit. I definitely try to defend the flip side issue, without being too much of a dick every time I hear it, but to little avail since it's usually 1 against 4-6 females; and you can't take the time to present a valid counter-argument and explain balance in relationship, communication, blahblah as most of us know how these family get-togethers work- you got about a 5 second window to defend yourself before the moment has passed.

Thoughts? What the best, put the issue to bed, not-too-big-of-an-asshole but not-going-to-put-up-with-this-bullshit response to this statement in my regular visits to the in-laws' estrogen nests??