TL/DR:
I was involved with guy for 6 months. Found out he was a two-timing cheater with a long-term girlfriend in another city. I confronted him and then told the girlfriend. He told the girlfriend and posted on Facebook that I was a stalker who had called him hundreds of times, showed up at his house unannounced and contacted his family. He also claimed he was meeting with the school deal with is “alleged stalker.” He kept his word and made a false allegation against me. The school started a Title IX investigation.
The school immediately believed his story even before they spoke to me. The investigator wouldn’t let me tell my side of the story, and actually told me she wasn’t interested in hearing my story. She then proceeded to write only his side of his story and use certain words to make it seem like I had conceded to it. “Crystal admits she contacted his girlfriend.” She was not there to be a neutral, impartial investigator, but was only calling to corroborate his story. She also refused to follow up on my list of witnesses. Remember the investigator is also the judge and jury in these Title IX proceedings.
I hired a lawyer to help me. I ended up being able to tell my side of the story in the investigatory report. Bobby ended up chickening out and dropped the case.
It was a terrible experience, but seeing how the school immediately believed my accuser and tried to limit my ability to defend myself, made me see how Title IX was truly designed to railroad the accuse, 99% of men being the accused.
EDIT:
Thank you to everyone who gave encouraging responses to my story. But after much thought, I have decided to remove the long version of the post post. Particularly, because of the level of negativity I have received in the last 22 hours.
First, I was trolled by a Pro-Title IX female who falsely claimed my story was copy and pasted from another reddit story. Ms. Pro-Title IX later stated the point of her claiming my story was copied was to show me what it is like to not have somebody not believe me, like women are not believed when they make allegations against men. My story is 100% original, you can copy/paste in google, you won’t find anything. Also, there aren't many accused women in Title IX proceedings.
Second, my motives were questioned and I was accused of “wanting to post a story about myself for attention” rather than truly advocating men’s issues .
I was accused of being an undercover feminist "making up a feminist fantasy story”. (Yes LOL)
I received hateful responses from individuals who called me a “crazy cunt” and told me I deserved to be falsely accused for outing my two-timing ex to his girlfriend.
I received comments from other men on this sub, reprimanding me for advocating due process issues. Apparently, they hate the idea of fair trials and due process for men.
I never thought trying to advocate an issue would lead to so much drama and negativity. For some reason or another, I am either bullied or punished for sympathizing with men’s issues. It sucks when you truly want to advocate an issue for the thousands of men who go through Title IX cases yearly.
So I have decided to follow the advice of others and place the full text on another subreddit. I am still campaigning to make reforms in Title IX. I hope to continue to share my story through meaningful outlets and hope it will serve as a catalyst for change in the system.
Thank you to those who shared positive words and I hope you can join the movement for due process too.
Feel free to DM me for questions, and convos regarding my story.
Krazyforlove
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What about when someone actually admits they're a troll themselves?
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What I'm looking for is for people to stop giving the troll telling people to lick her pussy a break. She should be treated just the same as a man who goes in to a feminist sub and tells people to suck his dick and swallow his cum. It's fucking gross and I'm not going to be silent at the disgusting hypocrisy.
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I'm not sure from what angle her behaviour should be ignored?
From a traditional non-feminist perspective, women who tell men to lick their pussies aren't treated with any respect at all. That's the behaviour of a low class hussy.
From a modern egalitarian perspective, sexual harassment is not acceptable. I can't say I've ever seen anyone sexually harass another person on reddit in such a way and get away with it.
So tell me, what perspective allows the very comments in which she tells people to lick her pussy end up upvoted? I think this subreddit has a shitload of scumbags.
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You told me to "lick your pussy" you filthy bitch. If you sexually harass people you deserve what you get.
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No, I did NOT "randomly come at you for no reason".
You sexually harassed another redditor with this:
"Look, if you want to eat my pussy and make me cum, feel free to DM me. Other than that, I have no interest in speaking to you."
Sexual abusers deserve to be put in their place. Just because you're a woman doesn't excuse it. You're fucking gross.
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You sexually harass people. You ARE a piece of shit and I don't care if that makes you wake up to yourself or not.
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Exactly how much when you tried to her GF. You mean all those women those accused men in Title IX are sociopaths ? That is so sociopath of you.
You probably played your part too...
That explains it.
You defended men's rights just because you got into this deep trouble. Not as a genuine rights issue. Before you got into this trap, you as a women would've easy flown pink flag supporting universal women's cult of feminism.
People here have been supporting MRA as a genuine human rights concern for long long time.
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I didn't know he had a girlfriend. He told me he was single. There's no trace of the girl on his Facebook, or in his apartment. She lived 2 hours away at his home city. I don't knowingly go around sitting on taken men's dicks you know.
Dude what the hell are you saying here?
You are obviously a troll. Lick my pussy bitch.
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Well, cat is out of the bag, cleanly got wiped with a shit tainted Title IX and are bawling here already. That should be enough for your kind of bitches.
You pulled assholish behavior of reaching his GF for an issue between you two.
You fully deserve your troubles, eff off.
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OMG, How dare I tell the other girl about something horrible he did to the both of us? It was horrible of me to expose him for living a double life. I definitely owed the two-timing cheater a duty to keep his secret safe . Sarcasm, I am trolling you.
I'm done defending men's rights to due process. Apparently, even men don't like the notion of having due process when they are accused. Good luck to you and your future sons in the Title IX kangaroo courts.
And you seem to forget, you're the one who decided to write on MY post. So you fuck off bitch. Troll.
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From the beginning of whole copy pasta itself you looks like a troll.
Women cheats more and men rarely go out doing what you did. The whole story looks like a typical feminasty fantasy.
You does not behave like a stable person, you will perform better with feminuts. And Title X is already discredited enough without your pathetic trolling efforts.
Pussy, this is MRA sub, not YOUR sub. Eff off trolling floppy cunt.
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Again, I need to remind you that you don't have to be here. If you don't like my OP, then move on with your time and go spend your time on another OP.
And ahh you do want to eat my pussy. ;)
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You are fake and gay as f*ck.
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Please delete then. Again, if you don't like my OP, please move on.
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The person who initially said I copy pasted wasn't actually being serious. She was trying to show me how it feels like not to be believed, like women aren't believed.
And if you're want to allege that this is copy and paste, then YOU have the burden of proving it. The person who is making the allegation has the burden of proving it. I can allege that your dad came to my house last night and ate my pussy while I was sleeping? Does that mean it's true. No, I have the burden of proving that allegation and he is assumed innocent until I do so. That's how the burden of proof works, you seem to forget that. Until you have proof to back up your allegation, your allegation is garbage and "blah blah blah blah" to me.
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So, there are other people who said you are a copy pasta ? Well, they may be probably right, your comment quality proves that very well.
The kind of comments you posts here proves you are a troll copy pasta. You are not a genuine victim of anything, but a krazy bipolar. And what is with this fascination with your own pussy ? You looks fake and gay as f*ck, sheessh.
Rape allegations by women does not works like that though, in many places.
You posted your copy pasta as fact here. You have to put some proof about that. Eff of with this bullshit.
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Contacting his girlfriend is the only mistake you made. It was almost certainly the catalyst for his false complaints against you and if you hadn't done it you almost certainly wouldn't have had to go through this Title IX business. And regardless of how justified you feel it was, it wasn't. Contacting the people in his life is tantamount to revenge porn. Regardless of how much of an asshole he was getting other people involved costs you the moral high ground. Only naive places like r/relationships would think that was an okay thing to do.
That said, I'm glad you managed to get it resolved. No one deserves what you went through and I'm impressed you had the wherewithal to spot what was happening as a lot of people in your shoes might have assumed things would go in your favor. I also think it is great that you have told the story here and been so understanding and empathetic about the issue.
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This really has nothing to do with mens rights. It sounds like you just want to tell your little story and are adding the mens rights stuff as an afterthought.
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Your subject line is how it's "truly unfair to men".
Then you told your story about how it was truly unfair to a woman.
So you aren't arguing that the Title IX is unfair to men, you're arguing that it's unfair to everyone. You simply led with "unfair to men" because this is a mensrights subreddit, even though the content had nothing to do with that. It's incredibly transparent.
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Yeah bullshit. Men account for 90.5% of homicide convictions, that doesn't make the law sexist. I expect the average redditor to not be very bright but you're a fucking law student and this is the best you can do? You've made no arguments, you just want attention.
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What the fuck?
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No, there was no 'explanation', and that's hardly fucking relevant anyway. 90.5% of people convicted of homicide in the US are male, does that mean homicide laws arw 'truly unfair to men"? Fuck off. Not even close.
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To be clear, I'm saying this story had nothing to do with men or men's rights. This is a woman complaining about how Title IX was unfair to her, a woman.
Any legislation that stacks things unfairly against the accused is unfair regardless of whether the accused is male or female.
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That's an interesting discussion. "I'm a woman who got screwed by Title IX therefore it's unfair to men" is not an interesting discussion, the conclusion has nothing to do with the body and it's this kind of bullshit that actually HURTS mens rights. People here are so desperate to find examples of anti-male bias that they'll accept them from anywhere and anyone no matter how ridiculous. I object to that.
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Did you REALLY need to post ALL this text? but Yes, most people gain a new perspective once they've experienced a particularly agonizing period of their life like this.
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Thanks, honestly just from the sheer SIZE of a post you made i had to scroll over a lot of it. IDK if it's a copypaste or not but the scale of what you typed left me suspicious Before seeing the other comments..
It's Odd, that's all. Glad you could realize how adamant these university victims advocates can be in their pigheadedness ( or at least say you do )
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