Mostly a rant but if you have some advice it would be greatly appreciated.

Finally decided to contact a lawyer to explore my options, just ended the call and it’s looking bleak right now. I’ve got a consultation scheduled with another firm so I’m trying not to freak out base off one opinion but it’s difficult.

Wife is a SAHM for the last 7 years, neither of us are from Georgia but have been here ~10 years. She’s from Boston and will almost certainly try to take our 3 kids there to mooch off her rich parents. While the lawyer was generally very off putting, she kept insisting that there is basically nothing I can do to stop her from taking the kids if she decides to.

According to her, the only way to get a 50/50 parenting split is to go uncontested but even if she agrees to that she can always change her mind later and there’s basically nothing I can do about it. Lawyer was confident that I wouldn’t get destroyed financially, but who tf cares, the kids are the only issue I really care about. Lawyer was very confident that she’s got me over a barrel when it comes to custody.

Left a lot out for the sake of brevity but damn this is crazy. Still trying to work it out with the wife and i think she would be amicable and do it uncontested if it comes to divorce, but knowing that I’m basically at her mercy if I want to be a part of my kids lives is fucking shitty. (I know I would have visitation rights, etc but “a couple weeks during the summer and a week at Christmas time” as the lawyer suggested is bullshit)

Anyway, if you’ve got some advice, send it. Thanks.