Double Whammy

Duchesst · 2023-11-07T21:01:18+00:00

Feel you in march 2021 i lost my dad, in august 2021 i lost my dog and in october 2021 i was told she was divorcing me. Still healing but it is getting better

Artistic-Trifle-555 · 2023-11-07T22:06:40+00:00

If and when your dog passes, you'll still love him and he you. It will be very different from the divorce feelings and you'll carry that bond for as long as you want. Don't commingle the two.

CrazySanta7 · 2023-11-07T22:35:28+00:00

It's tough bro. My dog had cancer surgery in january, turned 8 in march, and i had to put her down july 7th as cancer came back aggressively. Ironically, that is my ex and i's wedding date. At least i can now remember my awesome dog on that date. Take some pictures if you can. Just remember, you can tell when your dog has had enough. I could see it in my dogs eyes. She was ready.

Hunkaflesh13 · 2023-11-07T23:23:01+00:00

I feel you brother. Less than two weeks after the separation, I had to put my dog to sleep. It was like my whole world ended right there in that two week time period. My stbxw actually went with me to support me, but it was a show and I could tell she didn't hardly care at all. And truth be told, the tears that day were not just for my little buddy. She saw me at one of my lowest points, then in one of our later discussions after filing, months later, used it against me.

That said, I know how you feel. Its a low point in you life that will not easily be conquered, but you will conquer it. As a previous poster said, don't comingle these things. Celebrate your friend, love them hard, but keep it apart from the other stuff. You got this, and we all have your back here.

dnbndnb · 2023-11-08T01:48:21+00:00

I’m very sorry for your impending loss. I’ve had six dogs since 1990, and helped a few cross the bridge. I’ve been dogless exactly one week since 1990 as well. No one can ever replace your companion, as no dog has ever replaced one before it. That said, there another one out there waiting to share that special bond with you when the time comes.

aquatone61 · 2023-11-07T23:04:09+00:00

My dog is still alive but not in my life sadly. Ex got pregnant and I found out the day after I asked for a divorce. She didn’t want to have to deal with the dog and a 4 year old and a newborn so she found one of her friends to take him. At least he didn’t go to a shelter or something like that.

Rock_Lizard · 2023-11-07T23:56:42+00:00

I'm so sorry.

krazykanuck · 2023-11-08T00:09:32+00:00

Buddy I’m so sorry. My lil corg is helping me so much I can only imagine how hard this must be.

upvotersfortruth · 2023-11-08T02:15:04+00:00

Poor doggo. Give him the love and comfort he needs. Consider giving him a pup to train up to be his replacement as a last act of love toward his master.

captainchippsixx · 2023-11-08T02:55:00+00:00

Do what you can for him. I’m sorry man. Down the road hopefully you can rescue another Dog. Your dog will stay with you even after passing. You will dream of him because he will be there in a different form.

Character_Hippo90 · 2023-11-08T08:40:42+00:00

Any sudden loss will reverberate for some time. I feel for and with you. Keep churning and don't lose sight of the bigger goal.

Initial_Tomatillo_94 · 2023-11-08T20:42:47+00:00

I feel for you man. I lost my three dogs in the divorce. Not certain I will see them again and I miss them daily.

WartimeDad · 2023-11-09T03:43:14+00:00

For whatever reason, when it comes to fucking you, the universe tends to do it all at once. I’ve had ridiculous coincidences like this of just getting super fucked.

Anyway they do end. Look forward to the rebirth on the other side. You’ll thrive once you’re able to get a footing.

Title	Double Whammy
Author	let_me_grieve
Upvotes	20
Comments	16
Date	November 7, 2023 8:54 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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