have any of you guys had issues with a "wife" who has left and doesn't want to be married but also still tries to tell you what to do and arrange everything?

I've been working on drawing healthy boundaries but it's like she wants the best of both worlds. not to be married to me but to still order me around.

I will do anything for my kids and she knows that. But sometimes it feels like she uses that to try to make things to work for her convenience.

do they ever stop? do they ever figure it out?