Financial Question

pk2at · 2025-04-23T03:54:58+00:00

Plenty of strategies to reduce CS and Alimony

WaltzDue7997 · 2025-04-21T22:32:41+00:00

What state are you in and is it long term marriage?

guy_n_cognito_tu · 2025-04-21T15:20:54+00:00

You need to work with your attorney to negotiate, especially alimony. If she's unemployed or underemployed now, you can assume a salary.

But unfortunately, many of us have had to change our lifestyles post divorce.

dfb54749014 · 2025-04-20T04:52:56+00:00

I just posted this on another thread. I had to move approximately 20 minutes away from my ex and the kids just to afford something.

I saved 40-60K moving to another town. Also, in another county where not only are prices less but taxes too.

jimsmythee · 2025-04-19T16:19:21+00:00

The deal is you need to be pro-active in your divorce, not re-active.

You said alimony. 1st thing, is it based on her not working? If so, start off by making sure she gets an imputed income, at the very minimum 40 hours minimum wage. Go up from there based on her education level.

You said Child Support. are you going for 50/50 custody? Or just taking visitation only?

Lugubrious_Lothario · 2025-04-19T14:22:18+00:00

Yup. Moved to Mexico. It's great.

Helpful-Paramedic463 · 2025-04-19T12:14:13+00:00

Work those calculations your lawyer. Everything can be negotiated.

streetsmartwallaby · 2025-04-19T10:56:14+00:00

This is a common thing unfortunately.

The only strategy I know of to prevent it from happening is "make more money" which is easy to say and hard to do.

Sorry this is happening to you. It sucks.

muscularmusician · 2025-04-19T06:51:53+00:00

I had this exact thing happen to me. The big house was sold and my ex was somehow able to afford a townhouse in the same area. She has a much higher income than I do and I believe her parents helped her out.

Then it came time for me to look for something and I was totally priced out of the area. My best option, financially, is 15 min away from my ex and my kid's school.

It doesn't help that I live in a very expensive area to start with.

Title	Financial Question
Author	midlife-madness
Upvotes	10
Comments	16
Date	April 19, 2025 6:08 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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