So I thought i was pretty clear that with our marriage on its last legs I was not interested in celebrating Valentine’s Day this year, but , of course, she’s gone and bought gifts. Now I feel like an ass because I’m scrambling to find a suitable gift for her. Making it worse is I have no clue what to get her. She’s acting like this is going to work itself out in due time, but I’m just working on finding the best way to break it to her that I’m done. She had a birthday earlier this month and then the holiday, I certainly didn’t want to do it before now, but really starting to think I should have.

How did you all navigate this stuff before you officially declared the end was in sight? Am I beating myself up over nothing? Feels like participating sends the wrong message entirely.