Guilt of Splurging

walkingdisaster4046 · 2022-02-12T06:09:14+00:00

Similar, but I’m waiting until final settlement. I will splurge. Life is hard, but we can and should celebrate. I’m all for treating yourself within reason. Make that big one time purchase. If it gives you great headspace, feeds a creative itch, pushes you further, helps you grow, feed your soul, brings you joy…..do it. Life is short and it’s okay to love and treat yourself. Just don’t make the blow, little people and donkey rental a weekly recurring event.

thefudmaster · 2022-02-12T06:10:42+00:00

Never had remorse that way but you’ve been conditioned by society to feel guilty of purchases like these by putting yourself first.

We only live one life. Enjoy it while you’re on the right side of the dirt.

Islandboy2000 · 2022-02-12T07:59:23+00:00

Bruh, I had almost the exact same experience and feelings too. My first grand splurge on myself felt amazing too. And I didn’t just stop there with that one purchase. It led to more and more decisions of putting myself first, including what to do with my time and who to spend it with. I felt so liberated and became a new man.
It’s worth noting that I read more (e.g. self improvement books) and consumed a lot edutainment type content of YouTube. And the results carried over into other areas of my life too, including my career, how to date women, how to invest, and most importantly, I became the best role model for my children.

defectivechive · 2022-02-12T07:00:29+00:00

Just make sure that you enjoy what ever your brought. Dont let it become a thing that every time you look at it remind you of your divorce.

p.s what did you get?

Thinkingtoomuch101 · 2022-02-12T12:31:36+00:00

I try hard to keep the splurges to a minimum. And I try to focus on “things” that will actually have long term positive effects on ME. Without someone else’s absurd rationalizations about why this or that is a good or bad purchase, I get to use MY realistic approach to deciding what to spend on. As far as expensive hobbies go, I spend a lot of my free time collecting and listening to records. I don’t necessarily need to track down rare recordings, or super deluxe new reissues; I get just as much enjoyment digging a classic out of thrift store bin for a buck or two. But occasionally (read: last night) I turn to the web to order something I just HAVE to own.

DeJohn123 · 2022-02-14T15:05:40+00:00

Life's too short man, If you can pay your bills comfortably then -- go on that vacation you want, go to that concert, get those golf clubs etc.

Stonks4sport · 2022-02-14T23:27:21+00:00

I have been keeping my finances pretty tight while my wife has been splurging for years. I made 100% of the money and probably spent 20%. I can’t wait to get my divorce worked out and then start buying some things for me.

dadmacintosh · 2022-02-12T15:50:59+00:00

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half_brain_bill · 2022-02-13T15:09:49+00:00

It’s only splurging if you can’t afford it. Sounds like you’re fine and shouldn’t feel guilty.

pegleg_legal · 2022-02-14T05:06:54+00:00

Rationalize, process. Is there a difference in this case? What is your budget for your hobby? When was the last time you bought something like that for yourself? If it hasn't been for a while, chalk it up to money saved, put yourself on a budget and try to keep to it. Hard to value sanity and self care.

Title	Guilt of Splurging
Author	dadmacintosh
Upvotes	14
Comments	22
Date	February 12, 2022 6:04 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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